StudentInTexas66

Hi, I just wanted to say I have the same thoughts going through my head - returning to school after 13 years for a second degree. I'm 43 so I will be 45 when I obtain my ADN. Geez, I wish I was younger!!! One way I stop myself from thinking about being 'too old' is I will be 45 in two years regardless if I stayed in my former career or pursued nursing. We might as well pursue the dream we have now or have rekindled from our past because time marches on... Take care

hi, i just joined the allnurses forum after perusing for two months. i must say this forum has a great diversity of people and information. i really do enjoy reading others input into patient, staff and management issues and most seem very level headed - so i have decided to ask for some guidance/input from anyone inclined to help me survive, emotionally, my decision to return to school for an adn. first of all, i'm a guy, 43 with a bs degree and 15 years experience in it. a few thoughts run through my head about approaching nursing after what i have been through in the past 5 months and i could really use a dose of reality, or correction of my naivety about human nature! i decided to change careers into nursing 2 months before meeting my now 'ex-fiancée' whom is a rn with 18 years experience in a university nicu with a mostly exemplary work record. what i don't understand, and cannot comprehend, is why someone that i respected so much and is in a well respected position at work do the following: met online september 2008, she said she was divorced. found out 3 weeks ago she is still legally married. secondly, after finding this out i did a background check and found 4 fifth degree thefts on her record - one from 2008. these were bad checks, but made it all the way to the court to be deemed 'criminal offenses'. i proposed marriage to her not knowing any of this information and she said yes! i am telling this story because i am having a very difficult time accepting that a person that works with the most complicated neonates - bay 1, would act with this type of behavior. am i being naïve here? maybe it doesn't matter your position in healthcare - anyone can be really messed up in their personal life and keep it separate? i don't know, but for me a person's values and morals are within themselves no matter where they are in life - at work, home or the grocery store! would you be worried to have a nurse caring for your family member that acted in such a deceitful manner? this has pretty much rocked the foundation of my life and makes me wonder if she is a rarity in the profession or are there other very mean people in nursing i.e. nurses that eat their young or otherwise act in such a way that just ruin your day, week, year or career! there - please offer some hope or positive outlook here. i begin my adn program in a few weeks and really need to clear my head of the how and why this happened - i will probably never know!