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Hello everyone! Wanted to update what's happened since my original posting. First I would like to thank everyone once again for their thoughts and advice. Looks like this turned into quite a conversational thread! Katie ended up being born on Dec. 6th at 12:31 AM . Exactly at 36 weeks. She was 6lbs 1 oz and 19 inches long. My water broke and because I was strep B positive we all decided pitocin to get my not so regular contractions going...thank goodness for Epidurals..wishing I had gotten them with my other two kiddos now! *winks* As I had already decided if the baby was early, she went to the nursery with no requests other then 'please bring her back to me ASAP'. So after a very brief (less then 5 minutes) of getting to hold her off she went. Her apgars were 7 and 8 BTW and she was doing great. The only real thing that bothered me was ASAP ended up being 2 1/2 hours after she was born (I know I was bugging the nurse to tears at this point for my baby but I figured an hour later and was very much wanting time with my baby by this point but later found out they were way understaffed in the newborn nursery so nursery nurse couldn't bring her back...not nurses fault but whoever schedualed them should of known better at such a busy hospital... over 4000 births a year)! And by then she was too sleepy to nurse. So we didn't get that in till about 5 hours after she was born. Besides that and 3 quick trips for glucose tests she was with me the entire time. I did end up asking to leave the hospital 36 hours after having her because I wasn't getting any sleep...not from Katie..she's been a perfect angel sleeping except when hungry..but because I had a roomate..who while very nice was hard to sleep around. Anyways, everything has gone well since then besides a bit of jaundice...me having the nastiest time when my milk came in...and losing weight faster then expected (hubby says I did with the other 2 during the first week also but I don't remember 10 lbs right at birth and 7lbs since) and sweating up a storm (what's the deal with that?!) But.... baby has already gained back her birth weight (WTG breast milk!!! *cheers wildly*) So there's my lengthly update :)

Thankyou to everyone that gave advice or input! Was so surprised to see so many responses in such a short time (so was hubby when I showed him the thread). We will probably talk it over the next week or 2 at which point will address the issue with the hospital as I would hate to bring it up untill closer to full term, just in case. Having some contractions tonight *sighs and rolls her eyes* lets just hope they are 'pretend' ones right! Will keep everyone up to date and of course more input is still appriciated either way. *hugs all*

I am currently 34 weeks - with preterm labor at 32weeks 2cm 50%effaced with no change or further contractions since then. Quite honestly asking these questions if I get to full term and baby is doing well. I completely understand the need for NICU or nursery care if I do have the baby in the next 3 weeks and would NOT even consider objecting to it. Mostly I know nursing is hard work and don't want to be an awful patient and wanted thoughts if I am wrong wanting to disagree on these policies and if there was way to approach this at full term without becoming 'The really wacked out psyco patient in room 2 that makes the nurses miserable'. Besides this I am really really flexable and have no 'plans' or hopes about how my birthing experience would be as things are always different. (Well and epidural would be nice as after the first 2 being unmedicated has rid me of any desires to deal with pain are gone*chuckles*) Hope that clarifies :)

Due to being high risk (had my 2nd child preterm) and for insurance reasons my choice of hospital has been limited to one. They have an incrediably good NICU and I have no quelms about delivering my baby there except one...they have a policy of removing the child to the nursery for observation about 1 hour after birth for an hour or two. When I heard this I approched the childbirth instructor at one of my classes as the class is taught by a L&D nurse from the hospital I will be delivering at about the possiblity of the 'observation' being done in room as was done with my oldest and would of been done if second was full term (both born at different hospitals). She stated they would not allow this as they examined the baby during it's first bath (no I could not give the first bath) and put the baby under a warmer and even if I stated no artificial nipples they did give a very small amount of gloucose water to make sure everything inside was flowing smoothly! I kindly thanked her for the information and went on my way. Wasn't about to blow my top as I realize she isn't in charge of policy and answered my questions honestly. Now a few weeks later I find myself seething more and more over what probably is a minor issue but feel it over rides my choice to have my child stay with me the entire time. I can't help but wonder after 2 children why I am not 'allowed' to bath my own child, where they 'have' to give gloucose water...as I don't see that working through 'all the piping' in one or 2 hours ...and i had no problems nursing my children or where a warmer is any warmer then my little one snuggled up to my own skin. My first child I had with me the entire time and my 2nd did go to nicu for 2 days with no breathing assistance needed and I even gave her little tiny body the first bath. Basically my question is barring any complications (believe me if there were any questions about her well being I would diffinately let them take my child) can I refuse to let them do this and insist the baby stay the same room as me? I hate to be a bad patient and totally understand this isn't the nurses fault but administrative policy. If I state I will absolutely not let them take the baby out of the room can they still do it? I am totally willing to let the nurses assist/observe my feeding, bathing, caring for my child. Just feel it should be Mom and Dad's choice if a baby goes to a nursery if it's doing well... am I wrong for thinking/considering these things? sorry for the long post and any spelling errors. Any advice and thoughts on this matter is truely appriciated.