i simply do not understand how people can be so cruel. you were right to question this. i have been a nurse for 30 years, and i have never put time before privacy. the only thing i can tell you, is that you as a human being have the responsibility to be that patients advocate, student or not. learn now that people will intimidate you when you try to be that advocate. you alone have that mirror to look into when you go home. who will you see? don't let your fears dictate what you will allow another person to do to another. i know i am making something very difficult sound easy, and i understand that. you must make an effort to be as tactful as you can, but in the end, be the patient's advocate. :)