I'm going to try not to go into great detail, but i was hoping someone could give me some advice.... The other day I was thrown with a random nurse b/c my preceptor was involved with a CRASH ECMO case. So I am paired with this nurse who's been in the NI for 3 years. I personally have been on the unit for about 6 weeks, still working with my primary preceptor, and asking tons of questions. However, I do all of the care, she is there to support me and help if I need her. I always have great experiences, and learn so much each day! Anyways, this nurse I was with on Wednesday was the type of nurse that I never want to be like, and I feel that I gave compromised care to my patients because of it!!!! I was so upset at the end of the day! Here's a summary of the day. We have a ex-28 weeker 3 weeks post NEC, bowel resection and she had been on the ventilator for 2 and a half weeks (just getting off 2 days prior to the day I had her). They d/c'd her morphine and Ativan (which they were using ATC) and all she had for me was a lousy 45 mg Tylenol PRN order. This little one was in PAIN! Crying, Tachypneic, quivering chin, uneasy, restless, arching, moaning, and inconsolable UNLESS BEING HELD!!!! here's the thing... she loved to be held and even looked at peace when in someone's arms... So another nurse who had her a few days prior thought she was withdrawing from the pain meds etc. Anyways, here's the point to my story... I asked the nurse i was with that day if I should go talk to the NNP about some type of pain management and she blatantly says "no she's fine"... so then I go to put my gown on to pick her up and the nurse was like "you need to chart. dont pick her up" (mind you this is a SCREAMING child)and so I said "OK, I'm going to find a volunteer then" and she says "NO, this girl is going to be spoiled if everyone keeps picking her up!!" ANd all I could think was that this poor girl has gone through sooooo much and had just been extubated... meaning she hasnt been held in 3 weeks!!! I was getting fumed at this point, but being a new orientee I didnt say anything... thankfully, a volunteer came by and I secretively asked her to help me! CAN YOU BELIEVE THIS NURSE!! So I'm doing my charting, and we have to do a pain score with each assessment... and I gave her a +3 which i thought was way low for what I was assessing and this NURSE says that is way too high of a score!!! I broke out our pain scale and I said NO!! if anything she's way higher than a three! She shrugged and said "well I wouldnt have given her a 3!!" Anyways, I'm getting totally frustrated... Besides we have an admission coming in as well. ANd that was a whole other story.... BUt this nurse was just totally lazy and didnt want to do anything!!! Orders from a surgeon were written on the new admit. and she blatantly did not fax them because she didnt want to do them right then! And in a ICU ORDERS MEAN STAT! most of the time unless written otherwise.... I was just beside myself, until I vented to another nurse who of course picked up on it that things werent going so good. I told her that the nurse I was with wouldnt let me hold the child and continuously let the child cry and she said it was pure ridiculous.!! Withdrawal, Pain, irregardless of what it was, the child was happy being held. What do you guys think? what do you think I should have done? and how can I, as a 22 y/o new grad, stand up to people like this!? I know its important to be able to confront the person but what would I say? Our team leaders and CNS are incredible and I shared this with them, and they're deciding on what to do... It's not only that I dont want to be paired with this nurse again, it's also that I think she should be reviewed for quality of patient care. IMO, I would never put down a screaming child, I would get pain meds ordered, or have a cuddler there all day!!!! (Granted we had a KUB done, and it lookeds great) THe patient should always come first... and in this case, i dont think she did that day... I cant stop thinking about this shift, and about what I should have done differently. And another quick question... in your units, do you find that they d/c pain meds a little too quickly? I'm a firm believer in pain control and sometimes I just don't get it!!!