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She looks like she is still a pretty young woman, probably in her 50's. As far as I know, she doesn't have dementia or anything. She responds well when talked to. This wouldn't bother me one bit if I knew she had dementia because she has no control over that.

Thanks for the replies so far. Are you guys/girls suggesting that I play her little game and avoid helping her? I realized that we are very, very short staffed and that I'm needed which is why I lasted as long as I did. I just hate it when I need to go to work and see her. I know that I shouldn't let this stuff bother me but I'm very emotional about it right now.

How did you deal with that when you were faced with that situration? What was your strategy to set things right? Right now I'm finding it very difficult to deal with.

Hello, I've been a CNA for about two months now. Alot of people say that getting to know the residents are a plus in this kind of work. Well, I have this one resident in predictular(spelling) who doesn't even want me to give me a chance. I think I messed up on doing something with her and now shes holding a grudge against me. I said that I really care for her and that I want to be able to help her off the commode. She said something like, "I don't care if I have to sit on this commode all day, I don't need your help." So basically I was supposed to get someone else. This broke my heart and I almost cried. It screwed up the rest of my work day and I even had trouble going to sleep that night. This pretty much started on my first week of the job. I don't know how I did it but I managed to get through about six more weeks of work. Everytime I see her, I would get chills down my spine because I knew she don't like me, Anyway, I slowely started to earn her trust back during that time frame. I kept trying and I didn't give up and finially she gave in and allowed me to help her. When I was finished, I walked out of that room with a big smile and I was really happy. That was about a few days ago. Today I was wiping her up after she was finished with the commode and all she did was urinate. She claimed that I was only wiping her sides and not the middle. I knew I was getting everything, I used four wipes and they all came out clean. Aparently I did something wrong and now shes going back to her old self. She told a co-worker to tell me that she doesn't want my help for anything anymore during supper time. My work day went straight down hill from there and im sure I'm gonna lose some sleep over this tonight. I wanted to quit again today. I already talked to my supervisor about this but all they tell me is to pass her to another aid. I'm not really happy at my job. This might sound like something small to most of you but its a big deal for me. What should I do? Am I just stupid and I'm making a big deal out of this? Any response to give me some comfort would be appreciated. I plan on job searching tomarrow.

Wow, this forum is great, thanks for all the replies so far. That Vicks and the mints is a great idea, thanks alot. I feel much more relieved now going into this. I think you folks gave me enough confidence to go into this.

MaineEMT2RN, Your right, It was my choice to take the classes. At the time, I was desperate for any job because I had to make the due dates on my bills and second, I had to clear my record. I was fired from my last job which minimizes my chances of getting another job. I decided to just go for it because everything was in my favor and by me getting accepted into the cna class, I was almost guaranteed a job afterwords. I didn't start to feel sour not until I did my clinicals. Maybe my thought process was off. What would you have done in my situration? Appreciate the replies so far and thanks again!!

Thanks for the great replies so far! Anybody else got something that they would like to share? It will be greatly appreciated and thanks!

Currently a student and I decided to take some time off to go to work. I went through my two week cna class and gradurated. I accepted the job last Friday and will be taking a drug test this morning. I will probably be starting work sometime this week or next at the latest. The only reason I wanted to become a cna was because I have a great passion for helping people in need and I'm very selfless. Thing is, I don't think I can do the work. I have kinda a weak stomach for cleaning vomit and poop. Not to mention, I never changed a diaper in my life! I have all of my experience in retail and fast food so I never done this type of work before. Up until now, I have never felt this way about a job before in my life:uhoh21:!! Right now, I have a mixed feeling of being scared, worried, doubful, and angry. I'm in a predicament because I supposed to be working right now in order to make the deadlines for my bills and credit card payments. It will be worse if I do decide to turn down this job, I will be billed $310.00 dollars for the classes. Its almost like I'm forced to do this job and deep down I don't think I can do it. I'm a very hard worker don't get me wrong but I don't think this is for me. What do you guy/girls think I should do!? I got myself in such a deep hole:crying2:. Anybody who can reply please do so, any help is appreciated and thanks in advance:D!!! Danny