MaleRNsoon2bOMDoc

Hi everyone, I'm an RN currently working alongside a wonderful co-worker, also an RN, in the same unit & presently on the same shift. We've been very discreet, but our manager saw us dance once at a company function over the holidays & automatically 'assumed' [lol] we're a couple, and it seems that [since she loves gossip] she spread that out there. Meantime she's been trying to get my gf to be interested in a couple of male residents that have come through our unit for rotations... I notice that when RNs date at work, whether or not on the same unit, its generally poo-pooed by our side, but if the RN bags a physician or PA/NP [or vice versa] it's considered okay. [My manager, for all of her talk she gave my gf that 'workplace relationships are against the rules' recently, dated & married a plastic surgeon in our hospital in less than 1 yr.] I saw 2 threads from '07 where on one the nurses were in my position &/or there was some difference in power, both of which were taken negatively; and a second where a nurse wanted to ask out a physician, another a PA, and all the female nurses there were like 'go for yours'! Any ideas why this is? And what follow-up advice can you give me [us] on this matter? [We're actually planning on leaving the state we reside in, and move out West to CA or AZ so that I can pursue Oriental medicine & she can pursue the CRNA--and I don't expect to work ICU anymore, at least not the type I'm in now whereas she will, I probably will go back to the ER...] THANKS!