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Thank you for your opinions thus far. What's caught my attention is in ten years at this job, my wife has never exhibited this behavior for any one particular patient. It's very out of character for her. I understand about empathetic nursing but calling and talking for the sake of talking is unacceptable in my opinion (my wife's sance is they talk about "whatever" and she claims it's just her being there to listen and be supportive). But in terms of 5 hours of total talk time and something like 35 texts shot back and forth over the course of 3-4 days in the hospital............that's not empathy to me. Sounds kind of like when you first met that first girlfriend or boyfriend in high school and you just had to talk. He's got a wife for that you know.........sorry I'm frustrated. Yes, mo-mo, the phone was behind my back and it was by some blind faith that it came to the forefront. Otherwise I would have been deceived and that's frustrating in itself.

I'm sorry, I meant to say "childish" behavior in the last statement. I posted here because my wife is a dialysis nurse and I would like the opinions of some of the dialysis nurses out there. I personally feel bad for my kids and myself as her emotional energy seems to go to this young man friend of hers.

My wife is a nurse and has formed a friendship with a young man early 20's patient of hers. He's not in great health and I'm sure she cares for him in a maternal way and just wishes he gets better. My question is where do you draw the line? It's obvious they are friends at the clinic she works in. You can tell they are on friendly terms. I'm afraid boundaries may be tested though. Recently I found out they communicated outside of work for several days by txt and cell when he was in the hospital (unafilliated with my wife's work) for a 3 day stay. My wife was so concerned that she called the hospital relentlessly until they were able to at least touch bases. After the initial contact, they texted and called each other fairly regularly until he was released from the hospital (4-5x a day). He even asked my wife to pick him up from the hospital after discharge. She declined. I wish him nothing but the best but I feel that they should not be that comfy being buddies when she's off duty. I can honestly say I think there's a sort of obsession with his situation and it's confusing me . When she gets home, conversation turns to this patient of hers non-stop. Isn't there a sort of code of conduct between nurses and patients that shouldn't be crossed? I know this isn't romantic and she feels this maternal caring but it still confuses me. any thoughts? btw, he's married and my greatest argument is his wife and family should serve as his support once he leaves my wife's clinic each week. I believe his wife may have questioned this behavior on at least one occasion so I feel semi-justified in my feelings. She agreed that this was overboard and promised not to exhibit this behavior again. I discovered she purchased one of those prepaid cell phones to maintain communication. My question(s) are 1 ) is this professional? and 2) Am I over-reacting or is this adolescent verging on childing behavior or is this a case of the nurse who "cares too much".