unwanted RN

Actually I don't have any legal issues, I ma a permanent resident, and my marriage was not arranged. I came here at my own will and it just didn't work out. The shift schedule that I am able to do is not 8am to 3pm, but 7pm to 7am on Fridays and Saturdays. I am only concerned about the training which seems to be a little off balance in terms of being able to planyour day. The training is only for about 6 weeks and I figured I can do it over the summer when my kids are not in school. After the training I am able to work normal shifts only part time. I can hire a babysitter to stay with my kids while I am asleep during the day. She cannot drive , but it is better than nothing . As for the issues I have with my husband, I know I need to leave, but I am not in an imminent danger, and I have to do the separation with a working brain not a working heart. A lot of women had been killed or badly hurt trying to leave or found themselves homeless. All of these emails have been extremely empowering and I guess I needed that to help me think. I never imagined so many people actually taking their time to respond. It is nice to know somebody actually cares. I don't know if I had mentioned it , but I really don't have a single soul I can depend on nor do I have a friend because when I tried to make friends with my classmates my husband checked my cellphone or email and emailed them back and insulted them so, that was it. I think people don't feel comfortable around me because of the issues I have. That is why I was so surprised to see how many people actually cared to espond. I think I will be able to get help at my kids school, but it might take a while because it is a new school for us. But I wanted to thank everybody for responding and trying to help.

Hello Caroladybelle, I actually completelly agree with you. I already have done every possible research on nursing entry level jobs outside of hospital, and without any experience nobody will hire me. I am also aware of the fact that nursing is a career which requires professionalism and reliability of physical and emotional caliber. I went into nursing because I love the profession and had every intent to be a reliable and responsible nurse. Calling off shifts and being a burden on my fellow nurses because of issues with my children would be the least thing I would like to do. I am just looking for a way to accomplish the training and start working shifts, once I am done with that I can work nights on weekends and have a sitter during the day. I am working out a plan to leave my husband, but I need to make sure that it does a minimal damage to my kids. I figured I could train during summer when kids don't go to school and have a sitter with them. I didn't think of that before, it just occured to me half an hour ago and made my cheeks all red out of excitement. It might actually work

I agree with all of you that I should get working as a nurse, leave my husband to protect the kids, and free my self from this hopeless situation. I am a very patient person and as long as my kids are safe I can weather any storm, and wait for an opportunity to do the right thing. It used to be much worse in the past when I still had my dignity and fire, now I know how to keep the household quiet so, my kids are not affected . I am going to try to network in their school, even though, it might take some time to do it because I just enrolled them last Fall. It is a Christian school and the people are very nice, and I am hopefull I will be able to work things out in order for me to complete the training and start my nursing career. I know there still are good people out there willing to help, and once I see an opportunity to turn my life around I will certainly do it. Thank you all for the support and prayers. I've always known nurses are amazing people and one day I want to be just like them.

Hello Jolie, I did think about trying long term care, but kind of forgot about it. I think it is a wonderful idea , I will try it. Thank you

Hello Caliotter , believe me I looked for opportunities outside of hospital, but everywhere I went they asked for experience, at least one year in hospital. I am really absolutely terrified of leaving my husband because then I would be on my own, and if something happens to me there will be NOBODY to take care of my kids. My husband is selfish and doesn't have the time, desire, and even the skill to take care of them. He has never done it before so, he would probably hire a live- in babysitter to care for them. It would never occur to me how limited my options would be as a new nurse. Once a nurse has a few years of experience life is good, but to get there? My grandma always taught me not to complain unless I really had to, and I don't think it is the time for me to complain yet. My children are my highest priority no matter how much I miss nursing, and my responsibility as a parent is way too high. Hopefully, one day things will change for the better.

I wanted to thank everybody who didn't mind reading such a long story, I was overwhelmed. I did talk to my husband about hiring somebody to drive our kids to school, but he categorically rejected because of the horrific traffic in the morning here in Houston, and also lots of construction and closures along the way. The school is about 12 miles from our house, but to get there takes quite a skill. I wish I had some relatives here or friends to depend on, but neither I nor my husband do. So, we depend on each other. It doesn't look like I will be able to work as a nurse until my children grow up and are more independent. I came to this country 11 years ago and have been married for 10 years. My husband is 52 and I am 35, during those 10 years it has been nothing but a struggle to make him realize that I am a valuable member of this family just to awarded with nasty words and sometimes rough physical treatment in return. I still don't have the freedom to decide what I want for my self and many times even for my children. I had to learn english on my own and pass a battery of tests to get to the university. My husband was not supportive at all and made it an absolute nightmare for me and the kids. I would never drop school because that was the only way toward my independence. Now I have my degree, but can't work because I cannot get help. I miss being a nurse because I always wanted to be a nurse ever since I took care of my ill grandma as child. In school I planned on working part time nights, but had no idea the training would be such an arduous task , nobody ever mentioned it. I think the only thing I can do right now is to find a teaching position in my kid's school, and return to nursing after my kids become independent. Hopefully, my husband will not sabotage it as he has done many times in the past when I tried to make some income or even new friends. With no income, no savings, no skills, and no person to depend on it is hard for me to leave him. He makes very good money from his business and my children, who mean the world to me, can get everything they need for success. I just have to weather the storm and hope for the best.

I wanted to thank everybody who didn't mind reading such a long story, I was overwhelmed. I did talk to my husband about hiring somebody to drive our kids to school, but he categorically rejected because of the horrific traffic in the morning here in Houston, and also lots of construction and closures along the way. The school is about 12 miles from our house, but to get there takes quite a skill. I wish I had some relatives here or friends to depend on, but neither I nor my husband do. So, we depend on each other. It doesn't look like I will be able to work as a nurse until my children grow up and are more independent. I came to this country 11 years ago and have been married for 10 years. My husband is 52 and I am 35, during those 10 years it has been nothing but a struggle to make him realize that I am a valuable member of this family just to awarded with nasty words and sometimes rough physical treatment in return. I still don't have the freedom to decide what I want for my self and many times even for my children. I had to learn english on my own and pass a battery of tests to get to the university. My husband was not supportive at all and made it an absolute nightmare for me and the kids. I would never drop school because that was the only way toward my independence. Now I have my degree, but can't work because I cannot get help. I miss being a nurse because I always wanted to be a nurse ever since I took care of my ill grandma as child. In school I planned on working part time nights, but had no idea the training would be such an arduous task , nobody ever mentioned it. I think the only thing I can do right now is to find a teaching position in my kid's school, and return to nursing after my kids become independent. Hopefully, my husband will not sabotage it as he has done many times in the past when I tried to make some income or even new friends. With no income, no savings, no skills, and no person to depend on it is hard for me to leave him. He makes very good money from his business and my children, who mean the world to me, can get everything they need for success. I just have to weather the storm and hope for the best.

Hello, I have finally decided to join this forum for maybe somebody somewhere is in the same situation I am in right now, and maybe that very person could advise me on what I can possibly do. I have graduated with BSN last year in May and ever since I have stayed home taking care of my children unable to work. My problem is that I am doing all the parenting myself because my husband has started his business and somehow thinks it is below him to help me at least take the children to school in the morning, even though he leaves home around 10:30 am to his office! as a result I am unable to begin any training or internships which are available only in hospitals and are all day. The internships include classes, certifications, and of course rotating shifts which are 7 am to 7 pm for about 2 months. There is absolutely no way I can do this because I have to take the kids to school in teh morning and pick them up 3:30. I told the hospitals that I can train between 8am and 3:30pm to learn skills and see how the shifts work, and work full 12 hour shifts on weekends nights, but they say I had to experience the shift changes at 7 am and 7 pm. So, my inability to complete the internship lies in not being able to attend the shift changes. During my school practicum I have done about 200 or more shift changes and I am very familiar with them it is not a new concept so, I cannot understand why all teh hospitals are so adamant about the shift change? I am more concern about learning my skills that might be new to me. At this point I am so frustrated because not a single hospital in Houston has enough sense to offer me some flexibility . I have an active license and offering enough time to train, but I cannot because of some inconvenient standards . Unwanted RN whose license is rotting away.