merry01

Well, I am going away for the week, to the beach, yeah!! I'm going to do a lot of thinking, praying, and talking with my hubby, we will have a desciion by the time we return. Thnak you all for your help, comments and advice. I appreciate it!! You have all definatley given me a lot to think about. I'll talk to yuo in a week :)

Ohhh, I like that idea, Dr. Merry either way!! :) I am definatley giving serious thought to NP, I belive the field of medicine I would enter as a doctor would be ob. and I know as an NP, I could not deliver babies. I am doing some research on nurse midwives, but I am not sure that is the route for me. Do you know an NP's? What are there schedules like? It's got to be better than a doc's. Could you tell me more about NP's? I know without a shadow of a doubt that I do NOT want to be a PA, so where do NP's fit in? Thanks :)

FLAgal, I actually was thinking about deferring a year, but I know that I if I did that, after a year I would not go. I know myself and if I defer, I might as well just say no. Our situations are so similar with feelings regarding children and families and work schedules. You are right about med school always being there and if I change my mind in ten years, it can still be an option for me. I have to say this is the most difficult decsion I have ever had to make. I am meeting my sister for a long lunch and a heart-to-heart tomorrow, my family always makes it better :) Thank you all, for all of your advice, keep it coming and in the mean time if I make a decision, i will let you know :)

I'll only admit this because you brought it up! But, yes, I want to be "Dr. Merry", is that terrible? I'll be honest, pride is definatley an issue in all of this. I wonder if I become a nurse, will I always think in the back of my mind ... I could have been a dr. I don't mean to offend anyone by that because I KNOW nurses are SO important, but this is something I have thought about. So, is it worth 7-8 years of school and over $250,000 because of my pride? Just reading what I typed, I'm thinking what an idiot I am and of course it's not worth it, but I just can't seem to let this go. Seriously, what does it come down to? I have struggled with this decision for months and I cannot decide. Our house is for sale (we have to move to VA for med school). I've paid my deposit for school, I have no job come Aug. 1, but even with all of that I can't seem to make myself go. I have family here, a neice and nephew, my parents live here, my friends are here and I'm happy here! I already enrolled in nursing classes, so I am ready to go, either way I decide, but I can't seem to figure this out!!!! My husband wants to go to VA, but I am scared to death! I've made pro's and con's lists, I've talked abou it, I've prayed about it, and I feel stuck. I have to decide soon, if we don't go, we need to get out of our rental lesae in VA. So, what else is there to do? I know this decision has to be made by me, but I feel like I just can't do it...

FLAgirl, it's so nice to know that someone else went through this same thing! So many people act like I'm crazy for not jumping at this chance, but there are so many issues that need to be addressed, either way. I've got to be honest, the debt terrifies me! I want a family when I am done, and I will be over $250,000 in debt, meaning I will have to work full-time. Being a part-time Dr. and part-time mom is not an option when that much money is in play. Do you have any regrets for not going? Do you look back and wish you could change things? I think I have come to the decision that I will regret whatever I chose; now, I am just trying to figure out wht I can live with! Thank you all so much for your help and your honesty!

Thank you both for your replies. In answer to your question, Eric, I already accepted my seat in med school, but I always have the option of declining it, up until the day classes start. And BAtoCNM, what did you decide? It sounds like nursing and if so, are you happy with your choice? Any regrets?

Hi all! I am new to this forum and hoping that I can learn lots! I am 26 years old and have been accepted to medical school, starting in August. I know you all work with doc's, so please give me advice! I don't know whether to go to medical school, or to start nursing school. I am married, and my marriage is VERY important to me, no kids yet, but they are desired in the future. So, knowing what you do now, after working as a nurse and with doctor's, please give me some advice. What would you do? I have struggled with this decision for months and I do not know what to do. Please help!