Larissa5838274

I feel a bit like I'm invading a sanctuary here, but I hope it's well received. I'm a new grad doctor, previously a physio, and my partner is a nurse. Before medicine, I already had the view that nurses are the cornerstone and bedrock of health care. Im aware that the only reason I did medicine instead of nursing is because I'm not nearly good enough of a person to do what you do, in the environment you do it in. My studies have only confirmed this. Doctors would be left floundering without nurses, many having no idea how to action the things they themselves ordered. I'm aware, and extremely grateful, that there is a change happening among the newer generation of doctors. There's less superiority complex, less toxicity, less bullying, and a better (right) regard for the whole healthcare team. That being said, we all know there are still absolute shitheads out there. I would like to ask you nurses two things: 1) what are things you wish doctors would do/say differently? Worded another way, what do doctors do that make you feel disrespected, belittled, ignored, etc? Not just talking about the doctors who yell and curse. Disrespect of any level I think is unacceptable, even if it's not bothering to make eye contact with you on rounds. Anything a doctor has done that's made you feel even a little rubbish, I'd like to know about it, so I can both avoid it and communicate better in cases where it's an unfortunate misunderstanding. 2) How would you feel if another doctor stood up for you when a doctor was being rude to you? I've been politely but firmly challenging and confronting doctor attitudes as both a physio and med student, with more success than not (we won't talk about that one...), and I have every intention to continue doing so as a junior baby doctor all the way through my career. But, I don't want to presume to be some kind of rescuer. Truthfully, I'd confront anyone being rude to someone else, regardless of roles (e.g. nurse to doctor, doctor to nurse, doctor to doctor, nurse to cleaner). But I know it could come across differently. At the same time, I know nurses can be anxious to speak up for themselves from fear of repercussions. So, would you appreciate doctors calling each other out for rude behaviours? Side question: what are one liners/ things you wish you could have said to doctors in the past but couldn't? Let's vent! And also fill up my pocket with things I could workshop and rephrase to stick it to bullies in a way HR can't get mad at me for