I started nursing school as an older than average student - I was 40. I worked VERY part time as a clinic CNA and my children were in elementary school. It wasn’t easy, but you can do anything you set your mind to. My school was affiliated with a local hospital and by agreeing to work for them for 2 years, they paid half my tuition. That would be one suggestion. I don’t know if moving is an option, but I know a few nurses who moved to our area because there are more opportunities for new grads.
I have my BSN, and will graduate with my MSN in April. Personally, I would not recommend the associate degree programs. For starters, it can be limiting. Hospitals in this area require a BSN. Nurses with 2 year degrees can work in clinics or nursing homes. I have a WOCN certification and a BSN is required. I have looked at the curriculum for the community college in my town and the requirements simply aren’t the same.
The first year or so was rough, and I really questioned my decision to become a nurse. Now, I love my job and couldn’t imagine doing anything else.