holyroyd

thanks for the reply, I think your fairly spot on in your analysis in that I know that I did nothing wrong, but there is a part of my that is upset that some family is out there living their life thinking that I killed their love one (even though I know that is completely out of grief on their behalf and completely understandable). thanks to everyone else for your replies aswell and advice. I have booked an appointment with my works EAP to try and sort through my issues.

Hi, this is my first time posting on this site, but I have lurked around for a while and thought now might be the time to get some advice. So the story is, several months ago I had a patient brought to the ICU intubated after several cardiac arrests with plans to palliate because of their clinical picture. The patient arrested again in ICU with a DNR order, so the patient died. The family was very distressed/angry and accused me of killing their loved one etc and kept telling me he was still alive and breathing after he had died (he wasnt). For a few days after their dead I reflected, was quiet anxious and worried I had done something wrong etc. (Even though the logical part of me knows I didn't) But now it has been several months since this has happened and I have flash backs to that day and become stressed about it. I have had many patient deaths but never have I had one that has affected me so badly. Does anyone have any advice on how to move forward?