Convoy2022_TrumpSupporter

I started working with someone, but they also work other floors, same shift which is morning. They're new so they are pulled everywhere. I like her, and I want to ask her out on a date, but its weird cause its a work thing. Asking for an opinion if its a no go or a green light? I'm 27 and she is 34. I don't want anything to effect our lives as nurse, but I remember in nursing school many of my professors met the love of their life at work or during nursing school. I only dated once before and it was a bad experience. I have a dry sense of humour and she totally understands that. I just don't want to ask her on a date and she declines me and then I make a fool of myself and have to work with her. Was even thinking of giving up my full time.

I still live with my parents. anyways, I have to pay my credit cards, student loan, and car loan I want to make aggressive payments towards those and have them paid off at least by early next year. I have been working extra hours. My usual shift is 3-11 pm. Sometimes I come early at 11am. And on my days off I come for my regular shift. My mom was livid with me. Before she was not happy that I wasn't doing anything like I couldn't get a nursing job. Now that I have one, all of a sudden I work too much? She says "you worked on my birthday, Christmas, and mothers day". Telling me to take off on those days. Her sister flew over here back in April and April is the cut off date for vacation days for the fiscal year. She asked me to take a week vacation so I can tour her sister around here? Come on, I requested to be paid out instead. I started to get a bit annoyed with it, because I didn't like the fact she was making these decisions for me. Is there a way for me to not feel guilty about this? Honest to God I am planning to move out soon, and plan on removing myself from her will. I think her money is cursed to be honest.

I have my regular scheduled shifts full time 80 bi weekly hours. I sometimes feel bad for turning down shifts like today they asked if I can come in, but I said I already had plans, and they had the last few days to ask me to come in. They asked me to come in not because someone called in, but because they were just generally short. Sometimes I think I should really work a lot so I can pay off my credit card, and student loans. But its Summer time, and I'd like to be outside enjoying the weather and my Mustang! How do you view turning down shifts? Do you look at it as lost money, or taking it as a rest day and money does not matter. Also its like the more you come to work, the more stress you put on yourself, and the higher the chances of you putting yourself in trouble. I've seen people literally during this pandemic, worked a lot, and now they have a house.

I feel like as a new nurse things happen and you want to prevent things, but in the end you have no control of it. etc... behaviours etc.. falls..

Recently I've been giving rides home to a few co-workers mainly because they do not have cars themselves, and we work in the evening so the bus ain't running and the staffing clerk asked me to do a big favour for her just these few weeks to give them a ride home. To me being young and a guy and them being female and a bit older, just appears awkward but thats just me. I'm thinking to myself, shouldn't you have transportation arranged but then again its not my business. Now I find myself in a hard position. They are not paying for my gas or insurance, so its like they are free loading off of me, a free Uber that is.

Sounds good. I hate to see people doing it just for the cash.

I've been doing a lot of OT's lately. To me its not really about the money because if I work many overtime I am just paying more and more taxes (especially here in Canada). I think one time I worked OT and holidays and I accumulated like $1100 in taxes on just 1 cheque. I calculated it and I only make maybe an extra $50-$60 if I work OT. I actually do feel bad when they need staff sometimes. The residents always thank me for coming in on holidays and weekends, and appreciate me. So its not really about the money. But thats just me.

Thanks Dave

literally make us feel guilty and that we are putting the patient at risk when we call in. Yet what about our life?

The other day we had a snow storm. My small Civic with Winter tires was not able to plow through the snow. I got stuck - I tried many times. I called work about 5 hours before my shift started to give them time. The clerk was like, "You should have purchased an AWD vehicle with all the money you make. Everyone is calling in today because of the weather. We are short staffed and you are contributing to it. You are putting me in a bad position but hey at least you get paid right?" Thing is, my vehicle cannot even leave the driveway. There is a shortage of snow plow trucks/salt trucks due to Covid so it will take longer. Public transit routes are cancelled. How is it my fault? They really make us feel bad at work. I have 15 sick days to use. I live 22 KM from work, not far at all. But when I have to slow down and be more careful and risk getting stuck, that will feel like driving more than 22 KM. Aren't I not entitled to it? And I gave them plenty of time too. Can I report this to the manager?

I have worked only 14 consecutive hours, mainly because they were short, but my shifts are only 8 hours. I have worked about 13 consecutive days. But that is because they offered overtime. Now some may have 2 jobs so it may be longer. I heard some staff say if they don't work at their full time job they are at their part time job.

Basically this is my 2nd year in Nursing and I have enjoyed it so far. I am very proud as a Nurse and learn new things every shift. I have missed my nieces baptism, cousins graduation due to working. I have no shame in that. I. I have been working lots of overtime and such. Basically on Saturday it was my moms sisters 35th wedding anniversary and they had a party in a hall (fully vaxxed guests and masks on when not eating). I did not want to go, as I had picked up a shift for O.T. I woke up and my mom blocked my car with her car on the driveway and she refused to move it and told me "you are going to your aunts wedding party". I was so shocked she did that. I did not go and took an Uber to work. I was so angry and aggravated. She went to tell me that these are important events that I should not miss. I don't understand I'm 25 years old, why does she think its up to her to make these decisions? Is it because I still live under her roof? Even when I don't show up to these events she will say things like "you need to be here for your family. Sometimes I am ashamed that you are my son. You should be more like your cousins (her nieces). Its annoying, its like I am a nobody. Like one time again it was her sisters birthday. And they had a huge party (pre Covid). I did not want to go, I wanted to stay home and sleep and watch movies. She got so upset as if I did something bad, but like really the world doesn't revolve around you. We have our Christmas dinner with her immediate family on Wednesday, I am boycotting the whole thing.. My mom will tell me things like to stop working overtime, or stop spending too much. I work to pay her "rent" and to buy nice things for myself, whats the issue? Then she tells me to take my vacation days on certain times, I mean its my vacation days, I will take them when I want too. It feels too much control in this household.

Agree. I just felt attacked I did nothing wrong here.

Absolutely. We do have a union leader. They will most certainly ask staff who say yes, they do not have time for seniority or stuff like that. I just feel anxious about this. Might want to get a prescription for Nortriptyline.

The nurse working on the other side just doesn't like me. Yesterday and today she is like bossing me around telling me to feed my resident I told her I will when I finish my job, then she's like empty your cart and don't do that with it, or document this etc... but that is her attitude towards everyone. Today she was real pissed. At the start of the pandemic I got temp full time with benefits. She got it too but she wanted the benefits but just part time and she will just pick up shifts as she does not want to work too much. The last few months we have had many outbreaks, so lots of overtime was available. The staffing clerks always asked me and I always said yes, I am under the impression that they will ask the staff who says yes all the time, and that no matter seniority as long as the shift is covered its fine. This nurse, today she came up to me and said "look, why are you hogging all the shifts? I've been here since you were in nursing school. You get offered all the overtime and what about me? I'm "on call" and should only pick up shifts"? I have more seniority than you. I'm going to report you to the union. This is unacceptable. They were always giving you the shifts and I never said anything, now I am speaking up". she'd also say "oh they booked me as an extra person. why am I extra? you should be the extra you have less seniority than me". I feel guilty, but I did nothing wrong here. I didn't like the way she approached it especially at the nursing station right after we got report. this person has a history of being confrontational with staff. She said she will fix it, we will still both get our 80 hours in 2 weeks, I just didn't like the way it was done. Very aggressive. Is this somewhat bullying/harassment? whether she's in the right I don't think she approached it properly. I have no enemies at work or anything like that.