Allie94

I'm getting ready to start nursing school and I'll graduate in 2019. In 2016 I worked at an assisted living facility for 6 months. I was terminated and chances are I'm not eligible for rehire. I'm worried that when I graduate nursing school and start applying for RN positions I won't get anything due to a possible bad reference. I currently have a job and have been here for a year and I know I'll get a great reference from them! I'm just worried that the job I got fired from will cost me an RN position.

Has any of you ever listed someone who technically wasn't your supervisor as your former supervisor on an application? I have heard people say they used co workers or nurses or their old supervisor to avoid I bad reference. Isn't that highly wrong and could result in legal trouble? There's one supervisor I don't believe will give me a good review and I almost considered writing another supervisor down who technically wasn't mine and had no authority to hire or fire. I‘m in contact with that supervisor, but would that be wrong?

Thank you! I might actually look into paying for it to be checked just to put my mind at ease! Lol.

Well when I applied for this job I put do not contact! Whether they did or not I have no idea...but they never mentioned my past jobs at the interview.

I currently work at a facility where we take care of kids who have developmental disabilities. I have been here a little over a year. I've only had 3 jobs. Dollar General (while in high school), the place I got fired from I worked there for 6 months. The job I am currently at has been my longest. I do not worry about them contacting this company because I have been nothing but a great employee and never made the poor choice I made that costed me my last job. I feel I should use the supervisor who fired me considering the other supervisor did not have that authority. I know I'd get a good reference from them because I have stayed in contact since the incident. The supervisor who fired me did whoever say nice things and hated that she had terminate me BUT I know when they call she is obligated to tell whatvever she wants. Especially if they ask if I'm eligible for rehire. If she says no and they want her to elaborate I know she has the right to do so.

Thank you. I appreciate your advice! There is one supervisor I could list but they do not work there anymore and they were not able to fire anyone, so wouldn't it be wrong to use them as a reference?

I agree. Honesty and integrity is important. Along with many other things. I made a poor choice and I cannot take it back. What I am asking is what you think is expected. I do not believe this ruined my chances of being a nurse. It very well may cause issues with some employers depending on how far they look into references.

So explain to me what you would expect me to say in an interview? Are you saying you believe I will never get a nursing position because of this mistake?

That's fine. Your opinion on my integrity means nothing to me. But I am curious, what would you say in my position during an interview? Would you willingly say "I had sex at work?" I'm sure you won't answer because you some like the type of person to reply..."I would never put myself in that position because I have such high integrity." If you have never made a poor decision in your life espiecally while young, congrats to you!

I tried to reply but it said I couldn't! But I really really appreciate your message! It meant a lot and helped put my mind at ease! Thank you for opening up and sharing your story with me!

I definitely didn't plan on mentioning it unless asked. I think what you said about the relationship and causing conflict is good enough. It's not really lying. It's up to my employer rather or not they say anything bad. I have no control of it but from they way my supervisor talked about me when she had to terminate me I don't think she will say anything bad. She complimented me over and over and stated how she hated having to terminiate me. I know she'll be honest when they call but I don't see her saying anything unprofessional.

See leaving it off makes me worry because I have read where nurses have left off a job and somehow during a background check or some type of check it showed the job they left off and they were fired. So if that would happen to me then that would be two jobs I was fired from.

It happened. But the co worker didn't see actual intercourse. Therefore she'd be lying as well. Sure, she saw the putting of the shirts back on and of course that gave it away but to say she saw us in the act would be a LIE.

In my statement I did not say "we didn't have sex" I wrote "Made a poor choice with a co worker" when they reported it to HR it was reported because of speculation. When it was reported by a co worker they supervisor of course had to call us in a say that a co worker suspected us of having sex on the job she then had us write a statement. I respect your opinion even if you believe I am screwed out of a a good career and believe I have a lack of integrity. I didn't deny sex. I simply stated "poor choice"

I work at a company where you take care of kids and young adults who have developmental disabilities. I have been there for a year now and I'll still continue working there until I am done with school. I start the nursing program this coming January! I will graduate in May 2019. I know for a fact they will put in a good word for me when contacted. I 100% would not make the same mistake I did at my last job.