OK..I am not a nurse, but have done private healthcare many years in the past. I have a question for nurses: My husband is having an apr surgery w/rectum removed due to cancer. He's never had a female "down there" for any examinations or anything. We are very private people, work, live together 24/7 13 years now. He wants to insist on a male nurse @ all times for his rectal area when he needs gauzes changed, exam, etc during hospital stay since i told him i know they will not allow me. Is this an impossible request?