NewbieNurse91

Yeah I do take your point. I should have been more clear in my specific complaint. All i basically asked him to take the bin out - I came home from 12 hours and it was on the kitchen counter (ew) with the bin juice going everywhere so I complained to him and his response was he didn't know why Ido asked him to do it as I should have done it already. I just don't think this was an unreasonable ask. But maybe people are right and I should not leave any jobs for him, I dunno.

Thanks everyone for your input and perspectives.

In no way do I expect him to cook and clean constantly when I have more hours off I was merely stating that I asked ONCE for some help today with something and the above was his response which was just a bit hurtful, that's all.

Hi, This is the first time I've done this. Not expecting a reply particularly I just need some sort of outlet for all these frustrations. Does anybody else have problems with a completely unsupportive partner/spouse when it comes to their nursing career? I'm a newly qualified nurse, only in my first post for 4 months in an ICU. I'm finding the whole thing very stressful, overwhelming and difficult to adapt to. I often come home crying or needing to vent about a difficult day. It's been putting strain on my marriage as I then often come home to an unclean house, no attempt at keeping on top of the washing and no attempts of dinner made. My husband's response to me today was how can I moan when I only work 3 days a week and have 4 off when he often will do a 7 day week (8 hour shifts). He keeps telling me to get into the real world and making me feel like I'm crazy for expecting/needing help. I don't think he appreciates how drained and exhausted I am this being my first job and the emotional toll a setting like ITU can have on someone. Or am I being crazy and need to get a grip? Thank you :)