TheSiriP

I need some serious life advice from you all! I want to be as vague as possible regarding perosnal info, but I will try my best to help paint the picture. My fiance recently took up travel nursing as the next step in her career. I understand the unbelievable opportunity this presents to someone who's young and eager for adventure. Her first assignment has been going great but unfortunately, I could not come with her because my job here is too valuable especially in these uncertain times. I wish I could travel with but that just is not possible especially as I look forward to our near future (marriage, mortgage, ext.). I cannot afford the financial instability and she mostly agrees. She is 100% okay with doing it herself. I don't want to be the controlling partner who tells someone it's me or your dream but at the same time, I can't help but feel that this move is straining our relationship. Having the girl of your dreams go by herself somewhere for over 3 months (potentially/probably more after this) is devasting on my mental well being. Maybe part of it is insecurity but while most people strive to come together I can't help but feel that this has become a long-distance relationship for reasons that are in my opinion not worth it. The simple fact is that she is prepared to do this indefinitely (up to 1 year), and has even told me that she plans on taking assignments in the future (if a great paying opportunity comes up). I would love to hear from someone who has been in a similar situation. I love her to death and have communicated this with her but on her side, it only comes across as "controlling" and one-sided. Any advice? I cannot believe our relationship is breaking because I really imagined our life together forever.