In light of a couple of recent threads where someone has asked a question or asked if their opinion might be wrong - only to return with ugly responses to well- intentioned advice or experience - I did some research into the question why do people ask for advice they have no intention of following. What I discovered was a new term called Askholes. In essence when someone asks for advice/opinions from others they are doing one of three things. !: they are genuinely seeking input, advice or an objective opinion. 2. They are looking for approval for a course of action they have already embarked on. 3. They are seeking validation for an opinion they have that they have no intention of changing. In the millennial age where feelings are more important than facts and opinions are always right if they make the person who has them happy we see way to much of this. When someone asks "Am I wrong? when they clearly think they are right and have no intention of hearing out responses I believe all answers should be qualified with the proviso: "Do you really want an answer?" I am a person of strong conviction and opinion - and yet I have often times learned a lot from people when I ask for an opinion/advice and am open to all answers. So I guess what I am saying is don't ask if you don't want answers. Hppy