When Will Life Happen??

KatieLynne86 · Mar 2, 2008

OMG! This was so funny to read because I feel the same way! I am 21 and a junior. I applied to the school I am currently at for their BSN program 2 times and both times was turned down. I finally applied to a school down the road for their Associates degree program ( I was always to afraid to apply there before because everyone said it's way harder to get into....just goes to show that you shouldn't trust what you here!) and I was accepted just this week. I will start in Aug. and will be done either in Dec. 09 or May 10 (I have all of my pre-reqs done... only nursing classes left). When I'm done I want to get my BSN from the school that I orginally applied to through their online progrm which will take another year, and then I want to go on to some level of graduate school. I'm leaning towards Nurse Practioner right now.

All that being said... I feel like it's going to take me FOREVER to finish. Alot of my friends are married and have kids and I feel like I'm the only one left. Alot of these friends didn't even go to college though...they just settled for whatever life gave them instead of fighting for more. It makes me feel better to know that I am working toward a great job that I will be able to support myself with and be completely independent if I wanted to be!

We just need to stick with it because at the end it's going to feel great! It's so worth it. Hang in there and know that you are not the only one feeling this way!!!! I'm right there with you! lol

Jess_Missouri_RN · Mar 2, 2008

As a married mother of three just let me say GET IT DONE BEFORE LIFE HAPPENS!! I applied to and was accepted into a CC nursing program in 1997. I was 20 years old, newly married with a new baby. I couldn't do it, just couldn't do with all that was going on in my life. It took almost 10 years before going back (and 2 more kids later). I so look back and wish I could have stuck it out, now I will be 33 when I graduate, not 23

I could have 10 years under my belt, ya know. Life and nursing school is hard enough and adding marriage/husband and children REALLY makes it hard. Not saying it cant be done, b/c I'm doing it and so are many others but it isn't easy.

I stress to my children almost daily "education FIRST, than marriage and children!" I want them (all girls) to be done with college before piling on the added stress of everything else. We also have trusts set up for them that as long as they stay in college, it's paid for. If they drop out or dont attend, they dont get their education paid for, hopefully an incentive to go and stay and finish.

Life will happen, dont worry about your friends getting married and/or having babies. Get your schooling out of the way, if you can. You'll appreciate it so much later in life.

Oh and, 30's NOT old, lol. Golly, you make it sound as if we're the crypt keeper or something! LOL!

caliotter3 · Mar 2, 2008

Don't worry. When you start nursing school you will have little time to engage in, or obsess on, nonproductive thoughts. If you do, you will fail and you do not want to mess up your life so early, so you won't let that happen! Remember, that you can find Mr. Right and start a family at just about any time. Becoming a nurse will increase your opportunities to make this happen sooner.

arabmagic · Mar 2, 2008

I was complaining to hubby one day that I "don't have a life" (since starting school) and ya' know what he told me?

School IS your life! Your life right now is to be a student!

So true. :)

So life is happening right now. And believe me, marriage & kids can wait!!!!

I married the first time in my early 20's..... luckily didn't have any children because we were divorced when I was 27.

I am now 34, applying to nursing school (will graduate in 2010) and maybe THEN I will start a family!

It's never too late. I know I'm waiting a LOT longer than some people will even consider and that's ok. To each their own...

Just know that there is NO hurry & focus on school right now & the rest will fall into place! Time flies & you'll be in your 30's before you know it. LOL

I know it seems "so old" & sooooooo far away to you.... but let me tell you how much things will CHANGE for you over the next 10 years.....

So don't worry! Everything will fall into place in time. Who cares what everyone else is doing..... I know a lot of my friends have kids that are almost out of high school & I haven't even started yet! Yikes But that's ok because we all do things differently & one way isn't "better" than another way. But just remember that it will be easier to start a family when you have a solid career under your belt!

MedicalNerd · Mar 2, 2008

I have no reason really to stress out but I am!!
Im only 22, and will hopefully be starting Nursing School in Aug. The way the schools put together, I should, if all things go well, be an RN by the time im 25.. and I eventually want to get a BSN & possibly, even become a NP. . .
I feel like my life is going SOOO slow revolving around school- I feel like that goal of becoming a nurse is like overtaking my thoughts, and every part of it, I just want it to be over, I just want to be a nurse already!
I feel way to young for this, and have no one in my life, but I feel all my friends are married & have kids & Im getting the itch! I feel like if I do end up getting married though, I wont be able to help it & I will have kids!! haha.. I feel like a nut analyzing this so much, but I feel like by the time Im done with everything Ill be 30ish, and I just feel like, for me, thats so old!
(I know there are a lot of nurses who started their second carrer much later than that, but they already have their family, kids, all that..)
Anyone else feel the same?

I totally understand how you feel.

I am 26 and still have not been accepted into a program (I have been applying for 2 years now) !

My husband and I have been together for almost 8 yrs and married almost a year and the "itch" is there believe me!

We want children SO bad right now but I am afraid that making the decision to have a child may make it harder for me to achieve my goals.

It is a very difficult decision that some of us have to make when we are in our 20's trying to get a degree in a high demand area. The fact that I have been ready to start NS for the last 2 years just makes re-applying even more frustrating(stupid lottery).

You are not alone, I am sure that there are quite a few of us out there right now.