Wedding Planning & Accelerated BSN - Bad mix?

FlyingScot, RN · Jun 26, 2015

Bad idea. Bad, bad, bad idea.

verene, MSN · Jun 26, 2015

Really depends on you, how supportive of friends and family your have, and how complicated you plan on making things.

I married 3 weeks after I graduated with my BA - I was taking 18 credits a quarter, working part-time, long-distance relationship, and long-distance wedding planning.... it worked out in the end. It wasn't some spectacular dream wedding, but I cared a lot more about being married and moving on with adult life than the little details of the day. I had a very small and simple wedding and had a LOT of support from family in getting things planned, particularly as my time in-town was limited.

My brother and his wife married over winter break while she was in law school and he was starting a master's program. Their wedding was even smaller and simpler than mine. As my brother put it, they could have a small ceremony with close family over winter break, or they could wait 3 years to get married and have big wedding. They decided the big wedding wasn't worth the wait to them.

I think a lot of it is going to come down to what do you and your fiance want, what are the family expectations that have to be balanced, and what can you live with. Talk to him about it and figure out that the minimum requirements are for both of you/your families and then work on timing based on that.

SKay226 · Jul 7, 2015

I cared a lot more about being married and moving on with adult life than the little details of the day.

Well, said...I agree. Your response makes me feel a little more hopeful that I'll survive it all! Thank you :) I did survive graduate school while working 3 jobs and taking full schedule of courses. So we shall see. I hope nursing school isn't as much of a cry/stress-fest as some make it out to be.

SKay226 · Jul 7, 2015

Did you attend an accelerated program? I'm trying to gauge how time consuming it will be. I'm not planning on working and I'm expecting to treat school as a full time+ job. It seems like some people go through no problem and some have the absolute opposite experience. I've done well with high stress before but being a few years out of science courses that is my main concern.

ahosoda · Jul 8, 2015

Congrats on the engagement! Very exciting.

I am sort of in the same boat as you although I am not in an accelerated program. I think it all depends on the type of wedding you want. My fiance and I never wanted a big wedding to begin with, and our budget is very tight. We are doing it at a friend's lake cabin and only our closest friends and immediate family will be there. No bridal party or groomsmen (saves a lot of time, money, and drama). I don't want many decorations, just the beauty of the lake and our love! Flowers will be from my mom's garden. A taco truck is catering, which is much cheaper than you would think.

Cutting down to what is essential to us has saved us so much time and money. If it is very important to you to have a big, Pinteresty wedding with all of your friends, I would say wait. If you are okay with a non-traditional wedding, it doesn't take very much time or money to plan. I set aside 2 hours to talk to the photographer, 1 hour to talk to the caterer, and 4 hours to go dress shopping. I spread those all out on different days. It really doesn't take as much time as you would think to plan a wedding! I hear other brides talk about how stressful it is and I'm glad I'm doing it my way.

Good luck, love!

DowntheRiver · Jul 8, 2015

I had a 127 person wedding in the middle of nursing school during my ASN program. We had a long weekend holiday and we planned it for that weekend. It was stressful for very manageable. We just didn't go on a honeymoon. Still haven't 3 years later.

SKay226 · Jul 9, 2015

This is how I imagine my wedding! Very small and intimate...my fiance on the other hand well, hahha we shall see what we agree on!

SKay226 · Jul 9, 2015

I love your flowers....and at the aquarium...very awesome!!