To Have a Roomate or To Not Have a Roomate...

Scooter5 · Jul 17, 2009

Having had it both ways, I'd say "no roommate" if I had a choice. If you get a bad one, you can't get rid of them quick enough. ****** equals a strong woman! You go girl!

sh1901 · Jul 17, 2009

I think that I agree with Scooter. If you have a bad roommate it can do major damage to your studies. You need to put your own education first. I also agree about the ****** part from Scooter as well!!! :redpinkhe

TheCommuter, BSN, RN · Jul 17, 2009

I place an enormous value on my privacy and quietude, so I tend to stray away from getting roommates. In the past they have eaten my food without permission, talked so loudly that I couldn't get any sleep, and sneaked illicit drugs into my house. When someone is eating your food, being loud, and smoking meth in the downstairs bathroom with your light bulbs being used as the pipe, it doesn't produce an atmosphere that is conducive to learning.

I've had wonderful roommates, and I've had terrible ones. Since I don't get lonely from living alone, I'll continue to live by myself for as long as I can afford it!

CrunchyMama, ASN, RN · Jul 17, 2009

Being married with 2 kids....I'd go for NO ROOMATE, lmao! No seriously....I'm a private person and need quiet when studying and reading, so I would rather live alone. The nursing program is hard enough without adding a talkative annoying drunk, lol.....um, she might not be a talkative annoying drunk, but ya never who you're going to get stuck with. Good luck with your decision! :)

allnurses Guide · Jul 17, 2009

Sounds like with your study habits you are better off without. Next question, is it a matter of money? Do you need to split the rent with someone?

Try to relieve the loneliness in other ways. Offer to host study groups in your place, you get sympathetic ears to study with because you are all in the same boat, then they all go away again.

SnowRain7489 · Jul 18, 2009

it's not a money issue. we both pay the same for rent & utilities. good idea on the hosting study groups in my apartment. i think i'll try that this semester that way i can have company & still be able to live alone!

things i'm going to do to not get myself in that lonely rut again: joining an exercize club that has events every other weekend or so in the community, working at a hospital, and becoming part of a school organization. i used 2go2 the library 'n study so that i can get out of my apartment, but this new guy that i met said, "i c u in the library all the time, is that all u do study?" i felt embarrassed:uhoh21: & so i don't want 2go2 the library nemore 'n start doing the above activities. any other good ideas?

pinkiepie_RN · Jul 18, 2009

There's nothing wrong with being in the library all the time. I think it's good to not isolate yourself inside of your apartment but studying is a necessary part of nursing school. Get involved, but don't over-extend yourself. I would never go back to having a room-mate, but it depends on how you know them. I was room-mates with a girl I met through marching band during freshman year of undergrad and things were fine but when I got into nursing school it was a little different (she applied and didn't end up getting in). We ended up fighting over little things because we both had such opposite schedules and she wanted to hang out when I needed to study. I've found room-mates off of Craigslist and I'll never do that again; it's just too much drama with a stranger. My fiance and I share a condo now and I think that it works out pretty well. He dealt very well with me being in nursing school and giving me space but spending time with me when I needed it.

I guess what I'm trying to say is if you do have a room-mate, establish rules, boundaries and ground rules. If you want to be friends and hang out then that's great, but make sure he/she is cool with it too. Don't expect to be best friends with a room-mate and acknowledge if it's mainly a financial investment (it's cheaper) to have a room-mate or if you want more than that (friendship). Make sure you balance work, a social life, and nursing school and try not to do too much of one thing and not enough of another.

Good luck!

Lennonninja, MSN, APRN, NP · Jul 18, 2009

Another vote for NO roommate. I had some pretty terrible roommates before getting married and you couldn't PAY me to ever have a roommate again!

beth66335, BSN, RN · Jul 19, 2009

i used 2go2 the library 'n study so that i can get out of my apartment, but this new guy that i met said, "i c u in the library all the time, is that all u do study?"

just a thought...if he sees you in the library all the time, then he's in the library all the time too! nothing wrong with being a studious person as far as i can see, lol! i'm married with 3 kids and about to start my last year of nursing school and i think peace and quiet would be wonderful...i love my family but it's hard to study with company all the time! :rolleyes: good luck!

allnurses Guide · Jul 19, 2009

I'm having the same dilemma, although I'm in grad school and 34. I had a great roommate who moved out because she and her fiance bought a house, so I have been looking online. Had a few people come over but noone I clicked with. There is a girl moving here from out of state for grad school, so we'll see what she's like. The rent is pretty cheap, but the place is really too big just for me. Also, since I'm from another country, it's nice to expand my circle of acquaintances and friends.

I think in an ideal world I'd live alone, I like my own company and slopping around the house haha.

curlylights06 · Jul 21, 2009

i would say no roommate since i just had a big bug argument with one of them omg i dislike her so much i never really disliked a person that much i think ... and let me tell u its takes a rlot for me to get really mad .........she keeps on moving my flowers in the restroom and every time they are moved petals fall out u have to understand that these flowers are still alive after 6 months!! crazy any-who i guess i just needed to vet so yeah no roommate !!!!!!!!!!