Therapeutic NCLEX words...

[wannabeRN2]

I recently passed the NCLEX -RN.

I was pondering on what family and friends said to me when I was studying for the NCLEX the second time around.

I felt very uneasy and anxious when people would tell me, "Oh, you will pass", "Don't worry about it", "You are studying very hard, I am sure you will pass". Well, little do these people understand that these words are pretty discouraging. Well to me these words were discouraging because I thought what if I don't pass. That would mean that not only do I disappoint myself but I will disappoint the others because they said that I would pass because I studied to hard but I didn't pass.

Anyhow, what really helped were those few people who told me that "It will be ok if you don't pass because you can take it again". These words really help me ease my mind because this meant that they will not be as disappointed and they are there for me whether I pass or not.

What I am trying to say is if you know of anyone who is taking the nclex, tell them encouraging words like, "It will be ok if you don't pass, you always have other chances". I strongly feel it helps alot when someone says this to you because it doesn't set up for a disappointment if they dont pass the nclex.

So for those currently re-taking the nclex exam, it is ok if you dont pass, you will have other chances to re-take the test.

[Amber07]

I know exactly what you mean. When people say things like that I know that they mean well but it just adds to the stress a bit. I try to laugh it off by realizing that it is not therapuetic communication and is false reassurance and I would therefore not choose their response as an answer on the test.

Anway, it is also the reason I did not tell anyone that I was testing. Having, failed I am glad I decided not too. But now everyone thinks I am nuts for not having taken it yet as I am studying so hard.

[zaylee]

Yes this is eactly what's happening to me too. I failed twice and I feel like a dummy because of those inspiring words, "You will Pass, you're smart."

This is me now, DEVASTATED AND SCARED.

Thank you for bringing this up.

[Infinitee07_RN]

i too didnt' anyone that i wasnt going to test(boy am i happy i did that ) people are like"you need to take nclex already you've been studying soo hard, you're smart you'll pass" i feel like saying" yeah i know i'm smart but i took it ALREADY people and did not pass, so there" :argue:but i brush if off and say that i'm dont feel ready..i feel that the extra pressure from family and friends does not help..

i say all that to say: i'm happy i didnt tell anyone:D