Tell me I'm not alone!!

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I am a wife, mother and nursing student.

I know that being a wife and mother isn't out of the norm, but I have 4 kids ranging in age from 1-10. Everyone says I'm crazy or says "You're super mom/student".. I feel like I have all this pressure on me. On top of this I work 24 hr. third shift at a hospital for tuition assistance (wish I could go PRN!). I'm doing fine in my classes, but with Care plans and everything else in my life without feeling like I'm a bad "mom, wife, student, worker, friend."

So tell me you made it, or how you made it!

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Specializes in Private Practice- wellness center.

I haven't made it YET, but I have incredible support. I also remember that I am in this for the long haul, not just a few years of school. KWIM? I do have intense mommy guilt, but I think of how much worse I'd feel if I didn't make it. All this time spent away from my hubby and kidlet would be wasted, which would make me feel 1,000X worse than what I do some days now.

You can do it! Super Mom or not...we're just normal women trying to make our lives better.

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Specializes in school nursing; pediatrics.

You're not alone. I know that I and all of my nursing school friends feel like we are being horrible wives/mommies! We are horribly stressed and unfortunately are families are getting the short end of the stick while we devote all of our energy to class & studying. My husband is working out of town. Luckily my 2 kids are 11 & 16 and they can somewhat fend for themselves.

Are my kids eating well since my husband left - no! Is my son spending way to much time on his Xbox - yes! Is my house as clean as it used to be - no!

Nobody can do it all. Just try to remember that this is only temporary and shall pass.

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Specializes in Critical Care.

I made it. I just graduated this December. My kids are 3, 6, 8, and 11. My family is still intact. I felt like a horrible mom all through nursing school. Nursing school will consume your life if you let it. I made it a point to set aside one day a week where I do not open any nursing text books or do any studying of any kind. It seems impossible, but it was advice given to me from a student the quarter ahead of me and so I tried it. It gave me some time to pay attention to my kids.

After graduation & passing the NCLEX, I felt really displaced. I had no idea who I was anymore, trying to fit into the role of mother and wife again. A bunch of my classmates went through that too for the first few months. Just wanted to give you a heads up in case you find yourself there too. There is a big adjustment period after school is over. I had a really difficult time with it. Of course it was a big let down to find out that none of the hospitals in my area were hiring either :\ Hopefully this will resolve before you graduate though ;)

Just keep your eye on the prize ;) You CAN do this!

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I have never felt like a bad mom I mean you do what you have to do this is to make your life better as well as theirs plus how many kids get to see their mom do homework you are not only telling them that going to school and doing homework is important you are showing them plus being super mom is over rated

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Specializes in Acute Mental Health.

I made it. I went to school part time because I knew I needed to be there for my children. I didn't have a ton of support from my sig other. This helped me manage things much better but it took twice as long. For me it was worth it!

We are all super just to be surviving in the nursing programs. It sure wasn't easy and having a family makes dividing your time more difficult. Then add a job and try to tie a knot and hang on. I wish you the very best and it does eventually end. Good luck!

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