Supervisor upset because I have another job!

[BABYJADE06]

I have a student nurse assistant job at one facility for close to a year now and I also was recently hired as a nurse extern at another hospital. The hospital where I have my student nurse assistant job does not hire most of their students after graduation due to limited new graduate slots but the hospital where I will be working as a nurse extern has never not hired one of their externs. I got my new job a little over a month ago. Here is the problem, my new job called my student nurse assistant job for a reference and although my supervisor gave me a great reference over the phone, she recently called me into her office and told me how she could not believe I went out and applied for another job and that I should be lucky I have even been given the opportunity to work there. She also told me to never use her as a reference because of my lack of commitment to the facility. I was definitely not trying to be disloyal but I wanted to have a better chance of being hired in a facility upon graduating. The facility where I work as a student nurse assistant has only hired 8 of the 26 new graduates that graduated in May. I guess my question is should I even use this facility as a reference for future jobs or should I not? I have done a great job there and have never been late, absent or called out but Im nervous my supervisor will give me a bad reference because of what she said about no using her as a reference. When I called today about my schedul for next month she was very short with me on the phone and said she will call me at a later date to see if she could fit me in the schedule. I just dont know what to do about it. Any advice???

[Batman25]

No, you shouldn't use this woman as a reference again. She told you not to so there's your answer. Listen to her. Perhaps another supervisor would be willing to give you a written recommendation. That could work.

Your job at this place won't last long so start looking for something else if you need the money.

[*Posh*]

This is very unprofessional of her and in my opinion, immature. We all have to look out for ourselves and that's what you are doing - and it's perfectly fine. If it were me, I would file a grievance against her with my facility. You need this reference (for now) and her reason for not giving you one in the future is not valid. It seems like she's trying to bully you. It p's me off to read about crap like this... Hope it works out for you. Oh, and congrats on the new gig!

:)

[destiny5]

And if she's going to be that petty, then you don't want to work for her anyway.. cut your losses ...

[gentlegiver, ASN, LPN, RN]

I would point out to her (nicely) that; Although I love working for her company, I noticed that they don't usually hire new grads. I stand a better chance at being hired full time at the new place, I just wish this company hired more new grads. I need to think of my future employment and financial benefits.

(Which is exactly what the company is doing by using new grads but never hiring them, basically guarenteeing themselves a steady stream of employees at a lower cost thus increasing thier profits.) As for her waitting to put you on the schedule, she'll probably give you the worst hours she can find. I'd let the new place know your schedule opened up. And you have the new company as a reference, so, you don't really need to use her personally. But I would be concerned as she seems to be upset enough to fire you rather than let you finish your time.

[jrzgrlRN]

Yes - I agree with all the sentiments here. She is not treating you fairly. You must look out for yourself and you did just that by taking the job at the other facility. Don't use her as a reference, it would do you no good. I wouldn't worry about picking up hours there, look to your new employer - give 2 weeks notice to the old employer and don't look back! Best of luck!

[Cessna172]

Does she think she can dictate your life? You may not be there too much longer anyway, from the sound of her attitude. Good thing you have another job though, with better chances of remaining there after graduation. Good luck.

[BABYJADE06]

Thanks everyone for the feedback! I will not use her for a reference. I just do not understand why she has tp be so bitter about me finding another job. I guess you live and you learn!

[Black Jade, BSN, RN]

Just make sure that you ask for permission to the people you use as references. Or let them know right away that you used them as references. And no, I wouldn't use her in the future.

[tokmom, BSN, RN]

Well neener neener to her! What does she expect? You have to look after you.

As the others said about the reference. I would say no as well.

Congrats on the new job that hopefully will get you a nursing career down the road!

[SummitRN, BSN, RN]

Just to play the contrarian, perhaps your supervisor really liked you as opposed to other student nurse assistants, was expecting to hire you, and is now bitter that you are leaving and she will be stuck with the other prospects (but that doesn't excuse unprofessional attitude she has displayed).

[wooh, BSN, RN]

Find a charge nurse or house supervisor there that likes you that you can use as a supervisory professional reference from that place. And move on.