should i study for 2nd semester finals or go to my grandmothers 75th anniversary?

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this weekend is my grandmothers anniversary. my entire family is going to be there. i have an exam on monday, and the next monday after that i have finals. i will lose fri, sat, and sun just driving to san fransisco.

i have a borderline grade. if i fail the final i have to wait a year and retake the entire semester.... that means a whole extra year of clinicals etc.. should i take that chance?

i have nothing to fall back on. i'm too stressed out to be partying and having fun.

what should i do? i hate this situation! what would you do?

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Specializes in Case management, UM, AL, psych, CD.

Call Grandma and tell her congratulations and that you love her but MUST STUDY!!!!!!!!!!

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Specializes in Family Nurse Practitioner.

Yes if you can't study on the drive there and probably stay in a hotel to get some alone time I'd send my love and regrets to Grandmom. Good luck.

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Specializes in School Nursing.

call your grandmother up and explain your circumstances. she will understand. she only wants the best for you....and it would be best if you aced your test ! then call her the morning of the anniversary and tell her how much you wish you could be there. i bet she'll love the call and the thoughts.

good luck and stay focused !

praiser :heartbeat

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I would call and explain, she will understand that it is important that you do well on your exams. Also, I bet your grandmother would love to celebrate a second time around...let her know that next time you go up for a visit she should get her dancing shoes on because you guys will have a lot to celebrate :yeah:

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Specializes in ER, Peds ER.

I agree with what most everyone else is telling you. Call Grandma tell her congrats and you love her and then hit the books. Everyone makes sacrifices during nursing school.

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Specializes in home care, med-surge, education.

I would stay home and study! You can visit your grandmother after your finals and then you can really enjoy your visit!! Good Luck.

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Specializes in Cardiac, ER.

Ok,...I'm the "old fart" here,...yes I agree that your schooling is important, yes we all made huge sacrifices to make it through school, yes it is important to ace that test (or at least pass it). Grandma won't be here forever. Maybe you can find a way to do both? Burn some CD's or make a tape of your study material. Just making the recordings will help with studying, and listen to them over and over again while you're driving. Take your books with you, Grandma will understand if you need to leave the party by 10p to study for a few hours.

Planning for our future is important. Being diligent about sticking to our plan is important and will get you far in life. Sacrificing is part of growing up and becoming responsible. But what is a future without family? I'm assuming that there will be may family members at this wonderful occasion. Maybe you can grab someone to quiz you for a few minutes at a time. I've found that the best way to learn something is to teach it to someone. When someone is trying to quiz you on something as technical as nursing you will invariably find yourself explaining things to the person trying to help (my kids know way more about chemistry, biology, math and anatomy than the average person, they learned while helping Mom study!).

I'm making giant assumptions about your family dynamics here, but I would hope that spending time with extended family does wonders for your self esteem. People who tell you how "grown up" you seem, how proud they are of you, how much they miss spending time with you, reminiscing about all the cute things you did as a child, how smart you are etc. As long as you can get adequate sleep before your exam (ie you don't have to drive 12hrs and then test) I say make some recordings, grab your books and go spend time with your family! Show them that nursing is important to you, accept any offered help and spend some quality time with your family. Create memories. They won't be around forever.:redpinkhe:redbeathe:heartbeat

Best of Luck on the exam.

God Bless

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Specializes in Acute Care, Rehab, Palliative.

I would go and see grandma.

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Specializes in LTC, Disease Management, smoking Cessati.

Go to the anniversary, it will only happen once! Study in your down time, before bed etc.

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is someone going with you? can they drive and you study? I would go and take my books...in fact I have! My family would be shocked if they saw me without my study notes with exams coming up!

no reason why you cant do both!!

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My grandfather died this morning, so my view is... quite skewed by that, I will admit. But I just have to say that while I agree that school is incredibly important and i put it before other things very often... I think you should go, because you just dont know how many other chances you will have to see her, especially if its a bit of a drive for you to get there.

Family is so precious, and life is so short... I can't help but wish that I had visited with my grandfather more when I still have the chance to.

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