Stress overload r/t mental abuse from ex girlfriend aeb difficulty functioning with school

[kenken04]

I broke up with my ex-girlfriend before I started my 1st sem in nursing school because I can't handle the emotional stress with her anymore. To begin with, I didn't even properly asked her to be my girlfriend. She insisted that we are together because something happened between us already so I went with the flow.She always points out something I didn't do or say or would even compare me to better guys she dated with. Buy her roses and food. She would always have us go out and have me pay for all the expenses even though she knew I only had 2000$ in my bank and saving up for nursing school. She said she didn't want to be called a sugar mama that's why she doesn't pay. A lot of drama here and there and made me feel guilty all the time either for fun or intentionally. Regardless I keep forgiving because she keeps reminding me that she has no family here except her only son which is in a child custody with ex-husband. I really don't like her but she keeps telling me that I made her feel terrible and used her for 5 months which is making me feel guilty again and she threatened me that she can cause a scandal for me so I could go to jail because she thinks I am becoming arrogant by getting into nursing school but really, nursing requires a lot of time to study. 2 weeks past by no communication and I was starting to do better with school but then she called about her father passed away so I came over to show support. Now I getting txt message that I should visit her but I don't really want to come over and add more stress to my studies. She acts like nothing's wrong even though she knows! any suggestions to end this nicely?

[LadyFree28, BSN, LPN, RN]

Don't answer her texts-ask the phone company to block her; there is no nice way to end a relationship with someone who is emotionally manipulative. Focus on you and school; find other ways to connect with people socially as well-the more you spend time away from her, the better.

[Zyprexa_Ho]

Sometimes people don't let you end things nicely. You can try, but some people will just drag things out making it worse for both of you. You have to take care of yourself before you can take care of anything else and sometimes that means just doing what you need to do to be happy.

[NurseGirl525, ASN, RN]

Look, you need to learn to suck it up and end it. You call her your ex but you haven't properly broken up with her? You went with the flow to call her your girlfriend? What?

Decision making and standing by those decisions is part of being a nurse. You need some self-confidence here. If you really want to be a nurse and succeed in life then do what is right here. Properly break up with this girl. If she continues to Harrass block her, get a restraining order, whatever. But learn to speak for yourself.

[Purple_roses]

Get a different phone number and block her on social media.

[Grumble88]

Borderline PD, you need to be very careful with her. I've seen incredibly dodgy situations result from scorned Borderline PD exs in two nursing friends' lives. Run for the hills, she will always have some reason to pull you back into her twisted web if you let her, and guilt will be a primary tool she uses, but expect gifts and affection if that fails.

If she starts threatening you again start a police file against her, file for restraining order (you won't get it but have evidence you applied for it), and show police the threatening text messages. A vindictive borderline PD can result in domestic abuse and rape charges very easily. Also a word of advice, NEVER meet her kid.