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Step away from the old nurse!

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by Lindsey McGraw Lindsey McGraw (Member)

Lindsey McGraw has 34 years experience and specializes in Med Sur, LTC.

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Now realizing I am the old white haired nurse how attitudes have changed from my young fledgling nurse days when respect was a given, to attitudes shown today reflected in my articles by some funny/sometimes distasteful situations encountered in the past few years. You are reading page 3 of Step away from the old nurse!. If you want to start from the beginning Go to First Page.

TriciaJ has 37 years experience as a ASN, RN and specializes in Psych, Corrections, Med-Surg, Ambulatory.

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When a well-seasoned hospice nurse came to visit my boyfriend's mother, he asked her "Shouldn't you be on hospice?" Luckily she had a sense of humour. If I had been present when he said that, I'd have seen to it that HE would NEVER need hospice.

But he did admire her greatly and had the utmost respect for her experience and professionalism. I'm sad I never got the opportunity to meet her myself.

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tshores has 31 years experience and specializes in CVICU/SICU/CCU/HH/ADMIN.

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I work in SICU/CVICU/CCU areas and am 59 years old. I've never minded being called Mom or Mama or anything of that sort; I take it as a compliment and believe that's how it was intended. I really care for the people I work with, whether younger or older, and I think they care about me, too. I do think young ones need more protection--and guidance--than older nurses. But, as someone else has already mentioned, they also teach me the new stuff and have some really fresh, good ideas about so many things. I enjoy us all.

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runnergirl86 has 7 years experience and specializes in LTC, military nursing.

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I address most adults with 'yes sir' or 'yes ma'am'. I find it is a sign of respect and have been addressed as ma'am myself. I do not feel that it is mocking or referring to a person as old. I currently live in in Pacific Northwest and although some regions in the USA are more common to use these terms I find that most people take it with a positive outcome.

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What really infuriates me is when the younguns call me "Mama"!!!!! The last one to call me that was told calmly but firmly, "I'm not your mother but if you ever choose to call me that again, I WILL get my switch." Word spread. Most of us can still work circles around these disrespectful snot noses.

I had a CNA call me "mama", and even tell me she had to go "potty" ( that was the clincher) ..... we had a chat about my purposeful lack of children and total disinterest in her bladder issues. She didn't last.

I don't mind "endearing" as long as there's a relationship to support it. "Ditz" doesn't count :D

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ebear has 37 years experience as a BSN, RN and specializes in Med-Surg/Peds/O.R./Legal/cardiology.

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POTTY????? geez.....

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To me, there is nothing respectful or loving about someone, other than my children, calling me mom or mama. If anything I find it highly disrespectful to their own mothers that they would diminish her title in such a way.

My children's friends learned very quickly that I would not tolerate their calling me mom and I learned almost as quickly that the kids who would do so were more often than not being manipulative. The same has proven true of coworkers.

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Esme12 is a ASN, BSN, RN and specializes in Critical Care, ED, Cath lab, CTPAC,Trauma.

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I address most adults with 'yes sir' or 'yes ma'am'. I find it is a sign of respect and have been addressed as ma'am myself. I do not feel that it is mocking or referring to a person as old. I currently live in in Pacific Northwest and although some regions in the USA are more common to use these terms I find that most people take it with a positive outcome.

I agree the Ma'am is a sign of respect.....but usually meant for your "elders"....:rolleyes:.....WHEN DID I BECOME AND ELDER??????:eek:

I was more incesnsed because I swear it was just "yesterday" he was asking for my number. It's a tough pill to swallow when you're taken off the market due to age....:lol2:.(wink)

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We live in a youth-obsessed, youth-worshiping society. Our society looks down on older people and can be particularly cruel to women as they age (just look at the misogynist way some "older" women in politics are treated by the mainstream media). The only consolation is that the Boomer generation - of which I am part - is the largest demographic group in US history, nearly 80 million strong. We are fast entering our senior years and comprise one-quarter of the US population. With so many of us, it will be difficult for society to continue to disrespect and disregard older persons. We will end up redefining what it means to grow old and forge new positive attitudes towards aging (particularly towards aging women) in our society. In a decade or two, it will no longer seem strange to see seventy-year-olds and even eighty-year-olds still active in the work force.

not sure I want to be 70 or 80 and still working. able to, yes; willing, no.

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tshores has 31 years experience and specializes in CVICU/SICU/CCU/HH/ADMIN.

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To me, there is nothing respectful or loving about someone, other than my children, calling me mom or mama. If anything I find it highly disrespectful to their own mothers that they would diminish her title in such a way.

My children's friends learned very quickly that I would not tolerate their calling me mom and I learned almost as quickly that the kids who would do so were more often than not being manipulative. The same has proven true of coworkers.

When they occasionally call me "Mom" at work, they're referring to someone who helps them, watches over and guides them while at work; they're not disrespecting their real moms nor me nor are they being manipulative. They're not trying to get anything out of me or get out of something like kids do. Most of the time they call me by my name, but guess it depends on the relationships you have what you're comfortable with.

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Esme12 is a ASN, BSN, RN and specializes in Critical Care, ED, Cath lab, CTPAC,Trauma.

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When they occasionally call me "Mom" at work, they're referring to someone who helps them, watches over and guides them while at work; they're not disrespecting their real moms nor me nor are they being manipulative. They're not trying to get anything out of me or get out of something like kids do. Most of the time they call me by my name, but guess it depends on the relationships you have what you're comfortable with.

"Hey Mom" is alot different than "Hey Yo....Mama!"

As I tell my kids ALL the time....It's not necessarily the message but in the delivery of the message that counts....:smokin:

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OCNRN63 is a RN and specializes in Oncology; medical specialty website.

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I am routinely dismayed at the lack of respect I see here for older nurses. Some youngsters even suggest that older nurses should just retire already, so younger nurses can have their jobs. It's sad to come here for support and find nurses of your age and older being dismissed as "old battle-axes" whose skills are outdated. I loved the poster who suggested that older nurses didn't use critical thinking.

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bagladyrn is a RN and specializes in OB.

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I've actually noticed in the past few years that my OB patients seem to respond to me better now, especially when it comes to teaching. I believe that it is because at 57 I look like their grandmas.

As for being called Mama or Mom by younger people it really doesn't bother me. When raising my son all of his teenage friends just referred to me as "Mom", which since they were close in age and a very racially diverse group got me some very strange looks in stores and on the street!

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