I need a hug. <slightly off topic> - page 3

Tomorrow is my own commencement. I have finally completed bu Bachelor's Degree in Public Health (many of you know that Nursing School starts this summer, joys of being an unlicensed clinical... Read More

  1. by   AnnieNP
    Congratulations!!!!!! PLEASE be proud of yourself.
  2. by   inthecosmos
    Sending lots of hugs and light your way! You've accomplished two huge feats: finishing one degree and getting into nursing school!
  3. by   Nurseways
    Quote from OhioBPH
    Tomorrow is my own commencement. I have finally completed bu Bachelor's Degree in Public Health (many of you know that Nursing School starts this summer ,joys of being an unlicensed clinical professional).
    Quote from OhioBPH
    Congratulations!

    I am so overwhelmed I feel tearful.
    No wonder, you are a very busy lady!

    My family is not really organizing themselves well, I am stressed out classes that start in two weeks, so I don't have that sense of relief that I am done.

    In our house, I have chore charts where everybody checks off the daily and weekly tasks (homework, laundry, taking trash can out to the curb, etc). Once you have the template done Just print it out. There are a lot of examples, just Google it!

    I don't feel proud of me, and I don't feel like my parents are proud either. I feel like a burden. My sister went to Nursing School right out of high school, doing everything "right" and I feel like that has shaded the perspective on my achievement for us all.

    1. Why don't you feel proud? You sound overwhelmed. Step back for a minute, take some deep breaths. Remember where you started, how far you have come, and where you will be. You are amazing.

    2. Just because your parents aren't gushing over you, doesn't mean they aren't proud. And I get it, they are your parents, and you would like some acknowledgement of your success. But ultimately you need to do the things you are doing, because they are YOUR GOALS. And realize that you can't change anybody else's behaviour, only yours.

    3. You and your sister are two totally different people. She has her path and you have yours. One way is not more "right" than the other way. So don't put too much emphasis on comparing your path to your sister's path!

    4. Your post suggests, that you are under a high level of stress and maybe some depression. As our bodies are continually under stress (and being in school, raising a family, and everybody getting organized).

    This quote is from an article entitled, STRESS AND HEALTH: Psychological, Behavioral, and Biological Determinants Page not available

    "Stressful life events often precede anxiety disorders as well (Faravelli & Pallanti 1989, Finlay-Jones & Brown 1981). Interestingly, long-term follow-up studies have shown that anxiety occurs more commonly before depression (Angst &Vollrath 1991, Breslau et al. 1995). In fact, in prospective studies, patients with anxiety are most likely to develop major depression after stressful life events occur" (Brown et al. 1986).
    Another article entitled, Why stress happens and how to manage it Stress: Why does it happen and how can we manage it? gives some truly benifical suggestions about handling stress.

    Do you think you could benefit from seeking a counselor? Several companies offer free or low-cost counseling services in their Employee Assistance Programs. Either way I would suggest you set up an appointment so you can talk to someone just for you, and who is impartial.

    And then! Then Mother's Day is Sunday. I am a mom, and I am anticipating more obligations than celebrations. As it is we are hosting a friend of my son's for an overnight.


    1. Happy Mother's Day !!!!!!

    2. You need to give yourself permission to say No, sometimes. You can't possibly be all things to all people. One thing to consider is that your son will have a guest and will be entertained. Or maybe next time your son can have an overnight at his friends house. Maybe you could use that time, to read for fun, take a relaxing bath, or give your self a pedicure.

    (((((((((((((((((((HUG)))))))))))))))) I certainly wish you the best! Lisa
  4. by   Wlaurie
    A few things I have learned in life that might help:
    You're worrying about too many things. Many of the things we worry about never come to pass. Don't compare yourself to others. Who cares if your sister did it different. You're getting it done. Your parents are probably prouder of you than you think. If not, you should be proud of you for what you've accomplished. Be your biggest cheerleader and don't be so hard on yourself. BTW here is your hug from me to ((((you))))
    Last edit by Wlaurie on May 13 : Reason: Phone has mind of its own
  5. by   OhioBPH
    Thank you all for your kind words. Commencement was whole different kind of disaster than I imagined. But my family came, was kind, and it is over. Now I get to start preparing for the next leg of this journey.
  6. by   ruby_jane
    Quote from OhioBPH
    Thank you all for your kind words. Commencement was whole different kind of disaster than I imagined.
    And you all SURVIVED!! WOOHOO!!
  7. by   OldDude
    Quote from OhioBPH
    Thank you all for your kind words. Commencement was whole different kind of disaster than I imagined. But my family came, was kind, and it is over. Now I get to start preparing for the next leg of this journey.
    Ahhhhhhh! When's the last time you looked forward to Monday???!!!

    Congratulations!
  8. by   KeeperOfTheIceRN
    You, my dear, deserve sooooo much praise!! Congratulations on graduation and on staring nursing school!! Both are huge accomplishments that many take for granted!! And Happy Mother's Day (a day late, but still full of joy!)!! Sending so many virtual hugs your way and lots of prayers (or good thoughts if you don't pray) for a smooth first semester in nursing school!!
  9. by   MrNurse(x2)
    Congratulations. You have a lot to be proud of.
  10. by   wondern
    Quote from Nurseways
    1. Happy Mother's Day !!!!!!

    2. You need to give yourself permission to say No, sometimes. You can't possibly be all things to all people. One thing to consider is that your son will have a guest and will be entertained. Or maybe next time your son can have an overnight at his friends house. Maybe you could use that time, to read for fun, take a relaxing bath, or give your self a pedicure.

    (((((((((((((((((((HUG)))))))))))))))) I certainly wish you the best! Lisa
    That's what I was thinking, anything but a sleepover at my house on my graduation night. Puhleeease! You must be very nice. It's hard work for sure with or without children but even more challenging with a lot of times. Congratulations on your graduation!
  11. by   jlrm50
    As a Mom of 4 that just finished her BSN and just passed her NCSN, I understand everything you are saying. It is overwhelming! When is being a mom not overwhelming in some way? You are doing great and inspiring others. I know that I am a role model for my children and finishing school as a woman in her 40s says something. You got this and you will do great!! Keep pushing forward and showing the world that you can conquer it!

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