Having a rough patch :(

  1. As most of you know, I lost my dad very suddenly in November (Diagnosed with NASH which progressed quickly to HUS and renal failure). My 12 year old son was particularly close to him. He is celebrating his Bar Mitzvah this coming November and I have had a hard time getting excited about the planning knowing my dad will not be a part of it.

    My mother in-law called us Monday to tell us that my father in-law has bladder cancer that has progressed into the musculature of the bladder. He is having a surgical biopsy today at Cedars Sinai (they live in CA) to stage it and come up with a treatment plan. We are in shock. He was diagnosed at a routine physical when they found + microhematuria. Being extremely over cautious, his MD referred him for a MRI. We thought they were nuts. But lo and behold, cancer Needless to say, it's been a rough week. I have not told the kids yet as we are waiting to find out what the plan is. Our good friend who went to Med school with my husband happens to be a radiologist/oncologist and told us that most likely he is looking at chemo and radiation and a very rough road ahead.

    Work here has been nuts as well. Had that Epi episode last week, then ended my week with my T1D kiddo dropping super low, and then Monday it happened again. He is fine thankfully. And then yesterday a K student fell off the bars and broke her wrist. I am just tired. 32 more work days until Summer vacation.

    Thanks for listening. It's hard being in my little office by myself with no one to talk to about stuff
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  3. by   palli
    Take a breath....you are doing your best, and you will continue to do what you do and that is to do your best. I'm sorry that right now it is all coming down at once, but you will get through this, I'm not sure when you will feel like you are feeling less stressed but one day you will feel it, until then, know that we have your back!
  4. by   ruby_jane
    MAZEL TOV on the bar mitzvah! In our congregation there's a moment when we pass the Torah from the oldest family member to the b'nai mitzvah. And we recognize the relatives that aren't there. Maybe your son can reflect upon his grandfather in his speech?

    Thank goodness for paranoid nurses and overcautious doctors, no?

    You have indeed had A YEAR. You look so valuable to the school right now - but yeah, you are tired. I'm tired just reading why you're tired!!!

    Hang in there. Try not to let the school year suck all the joy out of your simcha! And when you're up on the bimah, look out and around at all the people who love you. That's one of the things that made me the happiest at my kid's bat mitzvah.
  5. by   OldDude
    God knows how people struggle to say something positive, supportive, and uplifting at times like this. I'm confident He'll transform all those prayers and relay them for you as you pass through your current tribulation. Please know there are many shoulders out here leaning into your spiritual cart to help you pass through this muddy patch. Amen
  6. by   ruby_jane
    Quote from OldDude
    Please know there are many shoulders out here leaning into your spiritual cart to help you pass through this muddy patch. Amen
    You always say it so well!!!
  7. by   GdBSN
    So sorry you are going through this. It's a lot of things happening all at once, but you are strong and you will make it through this. We are always here for you.
  8. by   SaltineQueen
    When it rains, it pours sometimes. Sorry it's been such a rough patch for you lately.

    My family is involved with a local children's grief center. We've seen some great things happen with kiddos. Perhaps there's one near you? Could be a helpful resource.
    Locate a Grief Center - Ryans Place
  9. by   Glitternurse
    Hugs, thoughts and prayers.
  10. by   NutmeggeRN
    Ugh...We are here for you! Big hugs!!
  11. by   OyWithThePoodles
    Please know that we are always here if you need us! Love and prayers coming your way.
  12. by   Amethya
    We are always here for you! HUGS!
  13. by   inthecosmos
    Sending love and light.
  14. by   Have Nurse
    Quote from OldDude
    God knows how people struggle to say something positive, supportive, and uplifting at times like this. I'm confident He'll transform all those prayers and relay them for you as you pass through your current tribulation. Please know there are many shoulders out here leaning into your spiritual cart to help you pass through this muddy patch. Amen

    Agreeing with OldDude:

    Yes, YES! You poor darling! You are being lifted up as is your precious family.

    Please remember to take care of yourself through this? Sending love and hugs your way!!!

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