Quote from MHDNURSE
At our school, we actually tell the family we are reporting them out of courtesy. We explain that as mandated reporters, it is our duty to make sure that our kids are safe, and it is the duty of CPS to decide if further investigation is warranted. We explain it like it is almost a "positive screening" where based on findings, we decide CPS should investigate further. Surprisingly, most of the time, families understand and are not hostile about it. We have a couple families who can be difficult and now that CPS has been called, they are not the warmest, but in the end, things have mostly worked out well.
While I can see where folks are coming from when they say we should tell families about our CPS calls, I can't completely agree with it.
If a woman is being abused by her husband, and I help her to call the police, a DV shelter, or some other resource, I am not going to share with the husband what I've done. Why? Because I need to keep the woman safe, and this man is a physically violent person.
If I'm pretty sure a kid is getting beat up at home by a grown-up because of the marks they're coming to school with, or the information they're sharing with an adult, I will call CPS and no way in he** am I telling the family. Why? So they can hurt the kid more? Let those people get what they deserve. Some of what I saw with my last job was absolutely horrifying, and if there's anything I can do to help a kid get away from that, I will.
Now if the CPS call is for something more random, like a basic needs problem, yes I will talk to the family about it, but for straight up abuse or neglect, no. See my story above, about the family who tracked me down for three days, if you're still wondering why.