Relationships in Nursing School

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I am soon to start nursing school--either a 50wk LPN program or 2 yr ADN program. I know both programs are going to be extremely demanding of time and energy. I was just wondering how well everyones personal relationships make it through the program. I have been with my boyfriend for almost two years--and he spent 10 years struggling to get his Bachelors (not in nursing), so he is very supportive of me going to nursing school and would be highly disappointed if I let our relationship make or break me being a nurse. I'm just worried about nursing school taking every minute of everything and that I'll miss out on "life". I realize nursing school does "run your life" while you are there--but what works to maintain outside relationships with s/o, parents, kids, siblings...?!

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Specializes in Surgical Services.

If it is love......it will survive. You can live without being a part of everything for the two years, I did. And I am living my dream now. I worked full-time, had a strong relationship and have two kids age 5 and newborn. It can work and if you need any advise, PM me.

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Specializes in Cardiology, Oncology, Medsurge.

Thank goodness you have someone who can help you with your term papers! JUST KIDDING! Anyway, I think his having struggled getting his degree will be of more understanding than a man who knows only blue collar work and did not persue any higher level of education. Good luck and he may enjoy all the horror stories you relate with your nursing school tour of duty!

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Heh Thanks y'all!!

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When I went for CMA( I know it;s not the same thing, but was hard work), I flat told my husband " for the next 9 months I am not here, I need you to do household work, more cooking, and school will be my only focus" Better to just lay it all out. He was great and very supportive.

We did have special " no study, us nights" when we'd go out or just be together for one evening, usually no around any test or finals.

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Specializes in OR.

My husband and I had a hard time, he had to pick up a lot of the slack. He was also resentful of being the only provider. It was difficult, but we made it through. I am an RN now and we are both reaping the benefits of that. There were a lot of break-ups/divorces amongst my classmates, though, especially around second semester. I was in a 2 year ASN program.

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Specializes in Nephrology, Cardiology, ER, ICU.

I think that it should be discussed in detail prior to making the committement to school. I went back to school when I was 32 with two kids, ages 5 and 10. My husband got deployed, I worked full-time and went to school full-time. Was my house spotless? Nope. Did my kids need more attention? Yes, a little more of my time would have been helpful. However, I made it through, my husband made it through and my kids survived too. Did I have a 4.0 gpa? Nope but I passed the NCLEX-PN and NCLEX-RN the first time around.

I will say that when I went back to school in 2002 my life was much more chaotic. Hubby and I still talked things over prior to me going back. This time there was much more stress (involviing one son) and school was my refuge.

Would I do it again? You betcha! It was all very positive in the end. Good luck.

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Specializes in post-op.

I had only been dating my boyfriend for 3 months before nursing school started ( I did a 2 year program), I remember that whole last week before school started I was crying my eyes out that he would break up with once he saw how much time I would have to devote to studying and I worked full time. I remember he promised me he would be there on my graduation day, he was and we are getting married in June! As long as he knows that school will be your priority for the next however long and he is supportive of it then you should be ok! One of the other posters said that they made special nights, like a date night, make sure you do this. Friday was always my day off from studying. Good luck!

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