I completely respect the different view points on this thread (and to be clear when we spoke to empowering women--it's literally the point of midwifery. We weren't talking about naysayers). However, I feel like "hey keep an open mind, life can happen" is true in every aspect of life and in every career. I've personally built in some cushion to getting to my end goal--because I already know this--and I suspect most people know this, so it can feel patronizing to be told this over and over gain like it's something completely new and unique to nursing. Imagine wanting to be a lawyer and constantly hearing "Be flexible, you might be a court stenographer instead."
And the thing is, sometimes it DOES work out the way OP is dreaming, as evidenced by the two posts one page back. I think maybe OP asked the wrong question. Maybe it should have been "why is it so hard to get what you want in nursing." Because it clearly isn't impossible.