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    Critique of Nursing School

    It's good you had a positive experience. It doesn't mean there isn't a need for some schools to improve. Reasonable, mindful evaluation of nursing education in general requires objectivism, not optimism or pessimism. Nursing education should be subject to evidence-based evaluation just like nursing practice.
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    Behavior That Just Shouldn't Fly

    Virtually every professional training course I've taken recommend that utilizing good interpersonal skill and conflict management skills is the first step in dealing with difficult situations and people.
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    Behavior That Just Shouldn't Fly

    I've been on the other end of an "instigator" who went back to a manager to 'apply the rules' on a situation they got all wrong. Based on one person's totally incorrect perception of what they heard, I lost my job! Even though I stated what actually happened, I got canned because the manager wouldn't listen to me. I think it's only fair and objective to everyone for managers to investigate rather than assume the person reporting is always right. Been there, done that, suffered horribly from that!
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    Behavior That Just Shouldn't Fly

    Slippery slope in deed! Frankly, some people are particularly sensitive. Others take it upon themselves to be 'sensitive' on other people's behalf. I think the whole issue relating to sensitivity is completely out of control. It's hard to know what to say because you don't know who might be sensitive about this or that, or who will be offended simply because it might be offensive to someone who's not even around to say they are offended! I think it is more appropriate to investigate if people are targets of bad behavior rather than assuming they are. Be supportive without being unduly convinced of that which you have no objective data to support! I think it's best for colleagues to discuss these issues with one another as adults before inviting a third party into an issue. Too often, those who are 'afraid' of confrontation or just prefer 'not to get into it' with others go over head before they try to work things out. The workplace should be a place for mature, professional conduct. That should mean at least making a reasonable attempt to work through difficult issues and understand each other's unique perspective before we respond to what is said or done.
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    Losing my religion

    While sharing unsolicited religious advice is not appropriate at work, doing so is not forcing anything! All people speak from their own point of view. If a person of faith, they speak from that point of view. It is possible to share wisdom or insights from a religious perspective without getting 'churchy.' When I hear people say that sharing one's faith is 'forcing one's view', I suspect someone who probably thinks their view of the world is best and probably are not as tolerant of religious views as they try to appear.
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    Losing my religion

    Unsolicited non-clinical advice of any kind is usually inappropriate. What I find nefarious is the illogical notion that faith is a light switch. Is it really possible to stop being Muslim or Hindu just because you went to work? Does that mean that the Jew or the Muslim can eat pork sandwiches while they're at work? Of course not! It is literally impossible to 'step out' of one's faith-based values or beliefs based on location or context. Professionals of faith must respect the faith of others- and should expect the same in return. I find that people concerned with religious communications of co-workers tend to be antagonistic toward religious expressions. Rather than hide behind the facade of service and anti- self-service, just come out and say that you don't want any religious expression at all at work because you think religion serves no useful purpose at work. Deep down, such people are anti-religion zealots who exert more energy trying to stomp out religiosity than religious people exert sharing their faith with others. Years ago, I lost a job because of such a zealot. One evening, we had a client being treated in the ER who just got word that her husband died a few minutes ago up on the unit. She was happy because her husband embraced her faith before he passed. During my rounds, entered and politely greeted she and her family. I listened as she spoke about what was happening, without saying a single word. I just smiled, nodded my head to show I was listening, being careful not to utter any words or groans that might be construed as joining in religious conversation. With joyful tears, she grabbed my hand and spoke kind words of blessing to me. She said, "You're a believer, aren't you?" I nodded yes but said no more. She responded that she got the feeling that I might be and she made positive statement about what she believed my character was like. She believed my faith showed without me saying anything. Just then, a co-worker came in as she said these words to me while holding my hand. He treated the client and gave no indication of his displeasure at this 'religious conversation.' All the while the client held my hand and spoke a blessing on me- as I stood without saying a word. Next thing I know, I'm getting FIRED for having a religious interaction with a client. I did not instigate the conversation. I did not ask questions of a religious nature. I did not SAY anything of a religious nature to ANYONE. No prayer. No reading of sacred texts. Nothing. A weeping client reached out to me and I just tried to be present- nothing more. My supervisor called me in to her office and I was terminated a day later. When I explained that I did NOTHING wrong and explained exactly what happened, how it happened, my word meant nothing. The uncontested, unsubstantiated word of an anti-religious zealot cost me my job. After that, I've learned to be leery of people preoccupied with the religious life of others. It's a zealotry often blinded by hatred or ignorance. You have been warned!
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