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  1. Interviewing can be hard work but so is getting the job that you thought you wanted, only for you to realize that it was not what you wanted ... not at all.

    So how does one prevent this waste of time, money and energy on both the parts of the interviewer and the interviewee? By bringing you to the interview...be engaged.

    Here are 10 steps on having an engaging interview

    1. What do I hope to accomplish?

    Knowing the answer to this BEFORE you get to the interview is an eye-opener because it helps you determine beforehand, without any pressures, what you are willing or not willing to accept.

    2. How can I sell my work experiences?

    You are the author of your story, so the write (or speak) your story. It is said that a story is one of the most memorable ways to be remembered, so tell the story of your work experiences and how you came to be in that interview room

    3. What do I need to know about this company and position?

    Before going into the interview, do your research. In this days of everything being on the Internet, that is not a hard thing to do

    4. How can I allay the interviewer's fears?

    No matter how many times an interviewer has done the process, there is still always the lingering fear of hiring a wrong fit. Once you have determined, that is a place for you, don't hesitate to allay the interviewer's fears

    5. How can I stand out from other candidates?

    Going into that interview, you already knew that you would be in the ring with one or more other candidates, so it would make no sense to go into that interview and come out the same. Stand out

    6. How do I dress for this interview?

    These days many people do not put much attention into how they are dressed, but not you. Because you know your worth and are a professional, you will take time to plan ahead and prepare on what outfit to wear. It does not have to be expensive but it does have to be well-pressed and coordinated is a must plus the added confidence boost it gives you.

    7. How do I follow up with the interviewer?

    At the end of the interview, you want to be sure to collect contact information for the interviewer. It serves as one of two things- a way to express your thanks for the interview and networking opportunity to follow up at a later date, should you not get this job and something else comes up in the future.

    8. How do I conclude our conversation?

    The end of the interview is just as important as the beginning; do not leave the conversation hanging in the air. Be a closer and close it!

    9. How do I make this interview warm and memorable?

    Exude confidence and truly listen when the interviewer speaks. Don't be in such a haste to respond- absorb and then respond.

    10. How do I come away from this interview knowing that I gave it my best shot?

    Take a notebook with you- writes notes, highlight important facts, check off what you have discussed and do a quick mental review to be sure that both you and the interviewer come away satisfied.

    Lastly, be sure to ask questions of the interviewer as they do of you. You are equally there to vet them and see if the company and position is one that you would enjoy working at. Go ace your next interview!

  2. Nurses give up too easily!

    I hate nursing!”

    This is not what I expected.”

    I wish I had never gone to nursing school at all...”

    And whatever else popular refrain there is. So you graduated nursing school and started working, only to discover that nursing isn't exactly what you thought it would be, or your cup of tea. And your next plan is to bail out of it, right? Wrong!

    Where, is your backbone of steel?:writing:

    So nursing is not your cup of tea or what you thought it would be, that's okay. But, do you allow your blood, sweat and money go down the drain without an exit plan. No, you come with a strategy of how to make things work for you.

    You refocus and remind yourself that nursing is only a job, and one that you would need to do well, ( as with any other job) to deserve your pay. And then you work at it- give it a little time to be absolutely certain, that it is NOT what you want and THEN come up with an exit plan of where next you want life to take you.

    Be sure to be frugal and save up while working on your exit strategy and this time, network, network network, in the potential career path, that you would like to go on. You don't want to get a rude awakening when you have a repeat. Peace :)

  3. Speaking as a manager who works for a wonderful company, this starts with upper management and then it's my job to ripple it further outward.

    Management sets the tone, but team members could show some accountability and resourcefulness.

  4. Nursing is just a job

    For some it may be a calling,all well and good but for most, it is simply just a job.

    When you learn to look at it scientifically without having too much expectation of suddenly becoming all altruistic or Nightingalish”, you would truly have a better time and go at it.

    Common Myths (& facts) in Nursing

    Myth: Becoming a nurse means becoming angelic overnight

    Fact: Nope! If you were Dracula before nursing school, you will still be Dracula after nursing school (and if you weren't, you'd become one!:)

    Myth: Everyone is pleasant in nursing

    Fact: Nope! Nursing is a job and like all jobs you get the good mixed in with the bad

    Myth: You suddenly feel called to a purpose

    Fact: Nope! Nursing is a job , a darn good job that pays the bills and keeps up whatever lifestyle you have is all it is.

    Myth: You become a martyr

    Fact: Nope! You still have choices and it is up to you to decide whether you want to be stepped on or not.

    So understand that nursing is just a job. When you put things in perspective, you find that you have a clearer sense of what it is that you do or don't want. Peace;)

  5. Edited by The_Optimist

    Is It really management?

    Ask not what your country can do for you; ask what you can do for your country?

    If you have been in nursing or even healthcare for any amount of time, then chances are that you have heard this before, It's management”!”

    But, is it always management though? Please do not misunderstand the idea behind this. It is not to make a case for management because surely, there are managements that should be blown out of existence…like yesterday.

    The idea behind this is to self-reflect- is it always management?

    -Is it management when one nurse decides to gossip about another instead of uplifting that person?

    -Is it management when you decide to take 20 normal saline syringes or alcohol pads for one single lumen q6h flush?

    - Is it management when you call in to get back at the charge nurse or person that irritated you the shift before?

    -Is it management when you label that patient or that patient's family as difficult” loony” or some other name, when all they wanted to do was be an advocate for their loved one?

    - Is it management when you act less than stellar when you think no one is watching you?

    And many other things…so just before you decide to use that very popular refrain, It's management”, stop and think real hard, Is it REALLY management”?

    To tie it all in with what John F. Kennedy's quote Ask not what your Country can do for you, ask what you can do for your Country”

    How have you in your own way done one thing a shift for the betterment of all?

    TASK: How can you today, perform one simple gesture for someone at your work place, that might have a ripple effect!

  6. Do not go into nursing if you have poor time management skills

    Do not go into nursing if you refuse to prioritize

    Do not go into Nursing if your sole purpose is to be a martyr

    Do not go into Nursing , if you are unwilling to be flexible

    Do not go into Nursing, if you fail to see the bigger picture

    Do not go into Nursing if you do not understand that Nursing is a business

    Do NOT go into Nursing school if you suddenly have a rethink of your "dreams" from reading this thread.

  7. Don't go into nursing school I you don't know how to prayer. Believe me, you will learn how to pray and cry out to God in the process of nursing school.

    Totally nothing wrong with this statement; it is the poster's opinion and she is entitled to it. Just like the atheists are entitled to theirs.


    Dec 27 by schnookimz

    ......if you cannot let everything/anything roll off your back without bothering you!!!!

  8. It is a very sad situation. I also find it amazing that they went straight to surgery first. I wonder if anyone considered putting the child on a weight-loss regime first? As someone mentioned she was not at a healthy weight for her age.

    All in all, a very sad situation at a time like this...

  9. If it was a personal conflict then absolutely. But since these people are notoriously slow and it's my charge nurse telling me to do their orders there's not much I can do. I don't feel it's my place to tell them that they need to improve their time management. That's for the charge nurse to do.

    I think Levitas meant for you to speak with your charge nurse.

    Also, I know it does not look like that right now, but see it as a compliment to your excellent time management skills:yes:.

    "It isn't what you have or who you are or where you are or what you are doing that makes you happy or unhappy. It is what you think about it."

  10. I am never one to say no to any person's goals but they HAVE got to have some passion for whatever it is they want to do.May I suggest that you get a pen and paper and jot down the pros & cons for your goal. Look at it very critically and go from there. Hear other people's opinions and suggestions.

    Whatever right decision you make will give you peace and that will make you go for it in the long haul, regardless of circumstances. All the best.

  11. Yeah, mine did something similar. I took a 5 credit hour course over the summer-my final class for my BSN, and they refunded me $2300 too much. I had never had that happen before, and so when they asked for it back a month later, I didn't have it anymore, it had gone for living expenses. So I won't be able to graduate until I pay them their money. I'm a stay at home mom in a grad school program, so they'll be waiting a while!

    How does one respond to this?With humor! You kill me:)

  12. This seems like a case of miscommunication.Sorry about that:no:. But this should be easy to solve. September was not too long ago, when you got the refund and since, you are working towards nursing school and saved it up, you should be able to just give them back the refund. Yes?

  13. @Madwife2002, I like that. I have no problem apologizing when I am wrong- it makes for better relationships. My work involves making some clear-cut decisions, which everyone has to live by. So I try to be doubly sure when I say stuff because they'd have a huge implication. And any time someone raises a question on new issues, I pedal slowly because hey, no one knows it all. Plus I don't want to have to eat my words.LOL

  14. Like many of us Crusty Old Bats, I'm sure, I have no problem with nurses who want to step away from the bedside in order to become leaders in nursing. The difficulty I have is with those who want to assume positions of leadership in nursing without ever having BEEN at the bedside.

    While there is some merit to this, you don't ALWAYS have to have been at bedside to excel in leadership positions. There are quite some different criteria to that.

  15. Some of the statements in this thread make my blood boil. I am a second degree nurse (formerly a teacher), who had a very successful career prior to deciding to go back to nursing school. I repeat, some of us did not go to nursing school because we couldn't find work in our initial chosen fields-contrary to public opinion or what is being reported as truth on this thread.

    Thinking back on my cohort, we had extremely successful professionals who decided because of personal reasons (sick children/parents) that they wanted to be nurses because of the stellar care their families received by nurses. I completed a ABSN degree and found a job shortly after graduating in a NICU. No,I wasn't disillusioned and thought I would get an ICU position immediately after nursing school, but I worked my tail off, earned good grades, became a nurse tech, was heavily involved in my school and landed a pretty good preceptorship.

    What I choose to do with my money, is up to me! Suggesting that second degree students are taking out excessive amounts of loans to fund their education is false in many many cases.There is a cap on how much undergraduate student loans one can receive so people can't take out unlimited amounts of loans-- a concept I believe is fair.

    People equating the influx of nurses to second degree graduates is completely absurd. So is suggesting that second degree students are the only ones that are looking at a staff RN position as a stepping stone. Most GNs use staff nursing positions as a stepping stone in one way or another, moving to another speciality, to management, leadership, NP roles, etc. This is not uncommon for any GN/RN. To the OP maybe the person who suggested that some day they would want to merge their degrees as a hospital attorney was simply suggesting that in the future that would be something of interest to them. Maybe they were not assuming that upon graduating with a BSN that a hospital would actually deem them qualified to be a hospital attorney. I know that I merge my two careers all the time-- I am constantly teaching at my job which fulfills me...maybe the lawyer turned nurse wants to do the same? Who are we to judge?

    @Zeus&Lincoln,I apologize for my earlier comment; I was wrong. Thanks for the reformatting:)

  16. Seriously, I'm trying to share good news and you're literally shutting me down. I'm not looking for someone to point out everything I did wrong. I'm happy at what I did and I know I showed sound clinical judgment. Perhaps you can be a black cloud on another post.

    Saying thanks and moving on wouldn't hurt either. What's with the sensitivity, people?

    You did an amazing job of rising to an unexpected situation; positive reinforcement is always good for one's confidence level:).

  17. Kimberly Hiatt's longtime partner, who has granted interviews several times, stated why she took her own life.

    Lesbian nurse takes her own life after medical blunder

    Thank you, Commuter.

    But nowhere in your original post was this stated or referenced. This conversation would not have happened had that been the case. As a precautionary advice; if you did not see it, if it did not happen to you directly, then you cannot "speak" as though it did.

    It is a dishonest and misleading thing to do.

    It is very acceptable to write from your point of view though and thanks for sourcing out your reference:yes:

  18. She was tormented over the loss of a young patient's life. She was heartbroken over losing a job she loved. She was agonizing over the potential end of a career that defined her adult life. At age 50, Kimberly Hiatt was watching herself disappear from the world and wanted the pain to end.


    @ The Commuter, I love your posts, I really do. But it does irk me a bit when you write posts from a third person view with such certainty. Did either of these ladies leave a suicide note?

    No one will ever know why they did what they did. All the occurrences that happened leading to their untimely deaths were all circumstantial. We can all assume as you have done, that these must have factored in, but we cannot say with CERTAINTY (as you have done), that they did.

    Again, I love your posts but saying tings with certainty as a third party, when you had no way of knowing what really occurred can be considered a tad bit misleading.

  19. Edited by The_Optimist

    When you hear the word, "burn-out", it is usually as a connotation to something negative. But have you ever considered that burn-out could sometimes be for the positive?

    How many people would have considered a change in job situation if they had not experienced a burn-out?

    Chances are, very few. After all, they would be so comfortable at their present place of employment that there would be no need for change? Right?We are rather quick and content to honker down at a spot (job) we feel is comfortable at the time and settle in for the long haul.

    But have you considered that even though that place may have seemed perfect at the beginning, that with time, you get bored and dissatisfied? It is also at this time, you are most likely to experience burn-out.

    At the beginning, you made the best decision you could have at the time and were happy with it. But as time went by, the burn-out settled in because it was probably time for you to reinvent yourself again.

    So have you considered that maybe, just maybe it is very possible that burn-out occurs for a positive reason,

    - -To either get you out of a routine rut

    - -To get you out of complacency (the biggest disease of progress)

    - -Open your eyes to new possibilities

    - -Have a rethink on your life's goals

    My suggestion is for you to consider the positive side of burn-out, don't just discount it as hare-brained talk. Take a moment to reflect, it could be your paradigm shift.

    For after all, burn-out could be your inner voice telling you to reconsider where you are right now and open your mind to new possibilities.

    Burn-out is not ALWAYS bad...

  20. Pardon me for asking a question for clarification.

    No apologies needed. If my post came across wrong to you, that was not intended in any way. I thought about putting in a smiley face to lessen any offense you might take but decided against it.

    We don't KNOW that the student "skated away". For all we know, she might have received some sort of punishment (hopefully).