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  1. There would be business done on the golf course There would be thoughts on how innovative one could get There would be zero tolerance for abusive patients Maid service? What's that?!! If Nursing were a male dominated field... There would be respect for hierarchy Being snarky? We would duke it out where it really counts...the bar! There would be organization... there would be a constant think-outside-the-box Just because it has always been done that way, Does not mean it should stay that way! Change is a constant in life...embrace it. If nursing were a male-dominated field... Martyrdom would die...a thousand deaths They would be paid every cent of their worth Press Garney be darned Show me the darn money! If nursing were a male-dominated field There would be deals and a lot of networking Hey, mi casa, su casa! There would be more of open communication Less of passive aggressive behavior Trust me, you won't need a code to decipher what they meant If nursing were a male-dominated field, there would be less of this After a fight, misunderstanding...anything (Female Version): "I am never going to speak to that female dog again" And more of this: (Male version): "Dude, still meeting up tonight right?" If nursing were a male-dominated field No work would get done...because the nurses would have been appropriated by the female patients who just want a listening ear and the males nurses who just.can't.say.no! But nursing is not a male dominated field, so we live on... The End By The Optimist
  2. Dealing with Passive Aggressiveness What is "Passive Aggressiveness"? Technically, "Passive Aggressiveness is the indirect expression of hostility, such as through hostile jokes, stubbornness, resentment, sullenness, or deliberate/repeated failure to accomplish requested tasks for which one is (often explicitly) responsible." (Dictionary) But it has come to be associated with mean behavior or a show of subtle hostility in nursing. Many a person has complained of feeling victimized or perhaps antagonized through the show of passive-aggressive behavior by a colleague or class mate. This behavior is NOT synonymous to nursing alone but can occur in EVERY facet/relationship in life. For this article, we shall relegate it to nursing. People sometimes resort to passive-aggressive behavior as an avoidance measure either not to directly confront the situation or to cause pique to the other party, who THEN, bites the bait, gets mad and is made to look bad. After all, the person with the passive-aggressive behavior NEVER said a word. No, they didn't- they only made you look worse through their manipulative use of their passive-aggressive behavior. A clever but very manipulative behavior! Passive-aggressive behavior is one of the most damaging to any colleague/classmate relations because of its latent nature. You might ask yourself, how you deal with something you can only feel (sometimes) see but cannot express to another. Helpful Tips Dealing With Passive-Aggressive Behavior with Colleague/Classmate Recognize the behavior for what it is. The first step towards finding a solution is recognizing the behavior. Resist engaging the behavior. As much as is humanly possible, do not engage the behavior. State your feelings in a very concise but non-threatening manner and leave it at that. You put the passive-aggressor in a bind because they cannot openly come at you without having to acknowledge their part in the situation at best. At worst, they look at you like you are crazy:yes:. That is okay too, you got your point across. Do not argue. State your case and if the person denies, allow it. You have stated your case. Examine yourself and be sure that YOU are not the passive-aggressor! Thoughts... By The_Optimist P.S: Joe V, do you mind making this an article? Thanks bunches:)
  3. Interviewing can be hard work but so is getting the job that you thought you wanted, only for you to realize that it was not what you wanted ... not at all. So how does one prevent this waste of time, money and energy on both the parts of the interviewer and the interviewee? By bringing you to the interview...be engaged. Here are 10 steps on having an engaging interview 1. What do I hope to accomplish? Knowing the answer to this BEFORE you get to the interview is an eye-opener because it helps you determine beforehand, without any pressures, what you are willing or not willing to accept. 2. How can I sell my work experiences? You are the author of your story, so the write (or speak) your story. It is said that a story is one of the most memorable ways to be remembered, so tell the story of your work experiences and how you came to be in that interview room 3. What do I need to know about this company and position? Before going into the interview, do your research. In this days of everything being on the Internet, that is not a hard thing to do 4. How can I allay the interviewer's fears? No matter how many times an interviewer has done the process, there is still always the lingering fear of hiring a wrong fit. Once you have determined, that is a place for you, don't hesitate to allay the interviewer's fears 5. How can I stand out from other candidates? Going into that interview, you already knew that you would be in the ring with one or more other candidates, so it would make no sense to go into that interview and come out the same. Stand out 6. How do I dress for this interview? These days many people do not put much attention into how they are dressed, but not you. Because you know your worth and are a professional, you will take time to plan ahead and prepare on what outfit to wear. It does not have to be expensive but it does have to be well-pressed and coordinated is a must plus the added confidence boost it gives you. 7. How do I follow up with the interviewer? At the end of the interview, you want to be sure to collect contact information for the interviewer. It serves as one of two things- a way to express your thanks for the interview and networking opportunity to follow up at a later date, should you not get this job and something else comes up in the future. 8. How do I conclude our conversation? The end of the interview is just as important as the beginning; do not leave the conversation hanging in the air. Be a closer and close it! 9. How do I make this interview warm and memorable? Exude confidence and truly listen when the interviewer speaks. Don't be in such a haste to respond- absorb and then respond. 10. How do I come away from this interview knowing that I gave it my best shot? Take a notebook with you- writes notes, highlight important facts, check off what you have discussed and do a quick mental review to be sure that both you and the interviewer come away satisfied. Lastly, be sure to ask questions of the interviewer as they do of you. You are equally there to vet them and see if the company and position is one that you would enjoy working at. Go ace your next interview!
  4. Nursing is just a job For some it may be a calling,all well and good but for most, it is simply just a job. When you learn to look at it scientifically without having too much expectation of suddenly becoming all altruistic or Nightingalish”, you would truly have a better time and go at it. Common Myths (& facts) in Nursing Myth: Becoming a nurse means becoming angelic overnight Fact: Nope! If you were Dracula before nursing school, you will still be Dracula after nursing school (and if you weren't, you'd become one!:) Myth: Everyone is pleasant in nursing Fact: Nope! Nursing is a job and like all jobs you get the good mixed in with the bad Myth: You suddenly feel called to a purpose Fact: Nope! Nursing is a job , a darn good job that pays the bills and keeps up whatever lifestyle you have is all it is. Myth: You become a martyr Fact: Nope! You still have choices and it is up to you to decide whether you want to be stepped on or not. So understand that nursing is just a job. When you put things in perspective, you find that you have a clearer sense of what it is that you do or don't want. Peace;)
  5. The_Optimist

    For Nurses Quitting Nursing

    Nurses give up too easily! I hate nursing!” This is not what I expected.” I wish I had never gone to nursing school at all...” And whatever else popular refrain there is. So you graduated nursing school and started working, only to discover that nursing isn't exactly what you thought it would be, or your cup of tea. And your next plan is to bail out of it, right? Wrong! Where, is your backbone of steel? So nursing is not your cup of tea or what you thought it would be, that's okay. But, do you allow your blood, sweat and money go down the drain without an exit plan. No, you come with a strategy of how to make things work for you. You refocus and remind yourself that nursing is only a job, and one that you would need to do well, ( as with any other job) to deserve your pay. And then you work at it- give it a little time to be absolutely certain, that it is NOT what you want and THEN come up with an exit plan of where next you want life to take you. Be sure to be frugal and save up while working on your exit strategy and this time, network, network network, in the potential career path, that you would like to go on. You don't want to get a rude awakening when you have a repeat. Peace :)
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    Is It really management?

    Is It really management? Ask not what your country can do for you; ask what you can do for your country? If you have been in nursing or even healthcare for any amount of time, then chances are that you have heard this before, It's management”!” But, is it always management though? Please do not misunderstand the idea behind this. It is not to make a case for management because surely, there are managements that should be blown out of existence…like yesterday. The idea behind this is to self-reflect- is it always management? -Is it management when one nurse decides to gossip about another instead of uplifting that person? -Is it management when you decide to take 20 normal saline syringes or alcohol pads for one single lumen q6h flush? - Is it management when you call in to get back at the charge nurse or person that irritated you the shift before? -Is it management when you label that patient or that patient's family as difficult” loony” or some other name, when all they wanted to do was be an advocate for their loved one? - Is it management when you act less than stellar when you think no one is watching you? And many other things…so just before you decide to use that very popular refrain, It's management”, stop and think real hard, Is it REALLY management”? To tie it all in with what John F. Kennedy's quote Ask not what your Country can do for you, ask what you can do for your Country” How have you in your own way done one thing a shift for the betterment of all? TASK: How can you today, perform one simple gesture for someone at your work place, that might have a ripple effect!
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    Is It really management?

    Management sets the tone, but team members could show some accountability and resourcefulness.
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    Do Not Over-Share!

    Wow!Just wow! I am completely shocked @Commuter. That was a total misrepresentation of facts.Toni was insubordinate. Bipolar disorder did not get Toni fired. Loose lips did not get Toni fired. Insubordination got Toni fired!Entirely different things...
  9. What's your biggest fear? That you wouldn't pass the RN? So you want to take the safer route of going through LPN school? To get over your anxiety, you will need to figure out the root cause. What are you most afraid of? Only after you have honestly and truly answered that, can you make a decision that you would be happy to live with.
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    Do I have what it takes to become a CRNA?

    Caleb,, you've got this. Number wise and determination, you read as having both. Keep your eyes on the target and keep plowing on. There will be easy days, there will be hard days, but on those hard days remember, "the rough is only mental" and keep going on. I don't know if you are a praying Christian but you can say a quick prayer and keep going. Dreams not written down are only ideas, but writing them down make them goals as it becomes more concrete for you. Use your power of visualization to imagine you in the place you want to be and work towards it. Surround yourself with positive, focused and ambitious people, things like that have a way of rubbing off on you; it keeps you grounded and focused. Enjoy the journey on your way to your dreams. And if they change, what next? Dream again and go with the flow.
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    Do Not Over-Share!

    You call it candor? That was too much information that didn't need sharing in a workplace environment. The revelation of her "bipolar disorder" was the concrete reason for management to part ways with her. Might make one wonder what she shared with her patients. If it was that easy for her coworkers to turn on her, they must not have really liked her in the first place.
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    Do Not Over-Share!

    The bipolar disorder did not get Toni fired (love that name); her lack of a verbal filter got her fired.
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    Black Friday, Code Blue

    That must be some "dramatic license";the intent was the implied. You took it at face value because it is not a given expectation that you would perceive a different meaning from what the OP originally implied. But the OP did clarify in later posts though.
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    Hindrance to professional growth

    Understanding that he has one year of nursing experience is all the more reason to simply explain the rationale behind your reasoning and not bring his ego into question. He might be a mature male of so many years, but in this nursing profession he is a nurse in his first year of nursing. Accord him that respect and respond to the concerns voiced. I do think you wrote it beautifully,:) coming from the point of view of the "silent" female who would rather not speak.
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    Black Friday, Code Blue

    Awesome response to the OP.There seemed to be a lot of adrenaline as should be expected in a situation like that. And other well intentioned have already pointed out helpful suggestions.I am guessing pregnancy probably added more to an already pumped up situation. Under your very capable hands, you gave a family a chance to be together for longer:yes: Quick question though, was this seizure sudden or did the patient's diagnoses possibly give an indication of such?
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    8 months as a nurse and I am failing miserably

    Caddywompus quoted only ONE aspect of usage for the ellipsis (...). This punctuation mark has dual purposes:). Uses of the Ellipsis 1. Indicate an Omission- The ceremony honored twelve brilliant athletes … visiting the U.S. 2. Indicate a pause in sentence flow- Juan thought and thought … and then thought some more. P.S- the omission could be either at the beginning, middle or end of a sentence/quote. Reference http://grammar.ccc.commnet.edu/grammar/marks/ellipsis.htm
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    8 months as a nurse and I am failing miserably

    No, you are not failing miserably; you "failed" at the one thing.And that can also be debated. The ball was dropped somewhere along the line. We won't go into discussing whether or not the patient should have received the blood or not, right now it is about you. I am very grateful that your patient DNR or not, made it through, that could have been pinned on you. Try not to let your coworkers get to you and they will, if you let them. If you are able in future, try and hold your tears in and let it out in private so you don't give ammunition to your coworkers. There are some great pieces of advice from people on here.Hang tight...you will come through this.
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    What to expect during orientation?

    Congrats on your new job. My advice? Expect nothing, go in like a sponge looking to absorb and process all valuable information,it does no good to absorb information and not be able to process it. On expectations? Have your expectations at home but set them aside. When you go into the ED, expect nothing. Expectations sometimes put you in the line for failure when things don't work out as you intended. Every situation could have a pearl of wisdom, you just have to find it; sometimes you may need to look really deep:). Be as helpful as you can without getting in the way. Don't go looking to make a pal on the first day, if it happens, it happens, otherwise be polite and courteous with all. Mazel Tov!
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    Surviving Nursing School- financial wise

    Squishy, that is the cutest dog. Love it!
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    Do you need all those degrees?

    What exactly are these degrees? Learning is a lifelong process and there is nothing wrong with a person wanting to become better knowledgeable. People further their education for different reasons and purposes to different outcomes. In today’s market, one would do well to remain competitive and marketable in the workforce. But that being said, acquiring education that does not have any impact on your career might be considered a sheer waste of time, valuable efforts and money. But again, understanding the reason for these degrees is understanding the person who has them. Several things could factor into a reason for the person having these degrees any of which could include tuition reimbursement, career change or promotion, better understanding of one’s job etc. It also could be any or those or none of those. Humans are inherently selfish and to say that one should simply “acquire” a degree for its sake with no thoughts of career promotion or better career outcomes, but simply to is almost insulting. Truly? I perceive the OP’s confusion might stem from nurses who have the many degrees attached to their names but could not translate it into better job outcome or growth. That, in all fairness could be seen as sheer waste. Some might suggest that these many degreed nurses invested to be better prepared for tomorrow’s market. That might be a mistake; the future is now! I would rather they put those degrees to the purpose for which they were intended and put in the work now and then get to reap the dividends of their hard work from tomorrow’s market. And yes, I went beyond the BSN, but I was darned if it wasn't going to translate into a better lucrative employment opportunity, thank GOD! That, OP, was the intended outcome!
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    5th time nclex taker

    Ironically, the one who had to retake the NCLEX 4times might be the one most appreciative when she finally does her pass. There might even be more appreciation for the pains of getting the license and value it more which in turn will show through her work ethics.But these are all suppositions... In life, there are no absolutes; it could fall either way.
  22. Just as watching a baby crawl, then walk and run is an exciting and joyous event; watching new grads mature and come into their own can be the same way. But! ...but if not carefully monitored, spirits could be broken, dreams dashed and the light put out or dimmed. Don't let that happen to you; don't become a statistic. In the beautiful oxymoron that is nursing the resilient not only survive, but thrive as well. You can be one of those. Nursing is made up of unique individuals who share different beliefs. Some hold the view that new grads should be pummeled and pounded into shape, others are of the views that wings should be clipped to avert a future disaster and yet others hold the view that news grads can be cultivated but still yet be allowed to thrive and be themselves. And build confidence in their selves and abilities while tempered with caution and humility. It is this last camp that I find myself. Regardless of group views, your duty as a new graduate nurse, to yourself, patient and organization is to learn as much as you possibly can to make you adept with your skills. By all means, do volunteer for opportunities you can amply give your best efforts to. Don't just volunteer for its sake alone. Ask questions and help when you need it...especially when you need it. Do your best to do your best at work. On work relations, "Be courteous with all, but intimate with a few. And even then, let that few be well tested" Keep your ears open and your mouth closed...your ears the better to hear and your mouth, to keep you from, "foot in mouth" disease. Be polite but assertive. Just because you are a new grad nurse on the block does not make you a walk-over. Be cognizant of the politics around you, don't be a player, just be cognizant. You minimize the bigger possibility of getting blindsided. Do you best at work and when it is time to go home, leave work at work. Tomorrow would come soon enough... By The_Optimist
  23. The_Optimist

    Getting Thrown Under the Bus

    I lol'd myself:). I am an optimist because I try to see the positives in a situation. I am not an optimist that I ignore that there are two sides to a story or refuse to be cognizant of truths.
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    Getting Thrown Under the Bus

    Yes, I will elaborate. And your vicious tone will get you nowhere. I’m of the philosophy that, “if they didn’t create the problem, cannot change the problem, then they don’t need to know about the problem” In this case, those would be your coworkers. For your sake, I am sorry that your manager did not follow through on your initial agreement and your scheduler abrasive (going by what you wrote). But you should still take up your concerns with the right people (your manager & scheduler). Or make a decision about it. But we are all humans, so you may have felt a need to gripe to someone about your raw deal. And that’s okay. But when it becomes so excessive, think about how it impacts on your co-workers' days. Your constant woes and complains would make an already long work day (12hours) seem even longer to them. They probably got so fed up of hearing about it but too nice (or reluctant) to say it to your face, that they complained, if only to get you to stop with the constant complaints. You can liken it to a dripping water faucet, when you are trying to get to sleep- it gets old pretty quick.
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    New grad nurse starting in the Operating Room?

    A bird in hand is worth how many in the bush? Ding! We have a winner!!:) Holding a position for you is complimentary.Seems you might have a supportive bunch and you do need that to thrive as a new grad. Why create worries where there look to be none? I fail to understand the logic of taking a circuitous route back to where you want to be (and already are) right now.Perhaps, I might be missing something.

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