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  1. The_Optimist

    Do Not Over-Share!

    No apologies needed. If my post came across wrong to you, that was not intended in any way. I thought about putting in a smiley face to lessen any offense you might take but decided against it. We don't KNOW that the student "skated away". For all we know, she might have received some sort of punishment (hopefully).
  2. Not really. It is actually very commendable of the Mom taking time to do a prior research for her daughter. Otherwise how can she have effective discussions with her daughter on a subject she knows nothing about? I say: go Mom!
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    Do Not Over-Share!

    And in that definition, you are completely right. But please tell us, how Toni's over-sharing of information equate to her lousy and inappropriate behavior which ended up getting her terminated? She was culpable to the latter and not as a result of her over sharing tendencies.
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    Do Not Over-Share!

    In bringing back focus to this discussion, the thread is titled, "Do not over-share", putting Toni in focus here. Several things got them to that point- the student dropped the ball for not giving her medications as at when due; the instructor for not checking up on her student and Toni for not following up, for ultimately, the patient was hers. The bone of contention here, is the way that the picture was painted of Toni parting ways from the company. It seemingly appears she was let go because of her tendency to over share information when in fact, she was let go, because of lousy and inappropriate behavior.
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    Do Not Over-Share!

    Wow!Just wow! I am completely shocked @Commuter. That was a total misrepresentation of facts.Toni was insubordinate. Bipolar disorder did not get Toni fired. Loose lips did not get Toni fired. Insubordination got Toni fired!Entirely different things...
  6. What's your biggest fear? That you wouldn't pass the RN? So you want to take the safer route of going through LPN school? To get over your anxiety, you will need to figure out the root cause. What are you most afraid of? Only after you have honestly and truly answered that, can you make a decision that you would be happy to live with.
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    Do I have what it takes to become a CRNA?

    Caleb,, you've got this. Number wise and determination, you read as having both. Keep your eyes on the target and keep plowing on. There will be easy days, there will be hard days, but on those hard days remember, "the rough is only mental" and keep going on. I don't know if you are a praying Christian but you can say a quick prayer and keep going. Dreams not written down are only ideas, but writing them down make them goals as it becomes more concrete for you. Use your power of visualization to imagine you in the place you want to be and work towards it. Surround yourself with positive, focused and ambitious people, things like that have a way of rubbing off on you; it keeps you grounded and focused. Enjoy the journey on your way to your dreams. And if they change, what next? Dream again and go with the flow.
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    Do Not Over-Share!

    You call it candor? That was too much information that didn't need sharing in a workplace environment. The revelation of her "bipolar disorder" was the concrete reason for management to part ways with her. Might make one wonder what she shared with her patients. If it was that easy for her coworkers to turn on her, they must not have really liked her in the first place.
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    Do Not Over-Share!

    The bipolar disorder did not get Toni fired (love that name); her lack of a verbal filter got her fired.
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    8 months as a nurse and I am failing miserably

    Caddywompus missed the class on "ellipsis" LOL. (You should tell us how you came by your username sometime ). But you're right, there are some cases of abuse. Like this one, totally off the mark:bag:.
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    Black Friday, Code Blue

    That must be some "dramatic license";the intent was the implied. You took it at face value because it is not a given expectation that you would perceive a different meaning from what the OP originally implied. But the OP did clarify in later posts though.
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    Hindrance to professional growth

    Understanding that he has one year of nursing experience is all the more reason to simply explain the rationale behind your reasoning and not bring his ego into question. He might be a mature male of so many years, but in this nursing profession he is a nurse in his first year of nursing. Accord him that respect and respond to the concerns voiced. I do think you wrote it beautifully,:) coming from the point of view of the "silent" female who would rather not speak.
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    Black Friday, Code Blue

    Awesome response to the OP.There seemed to be a lot of adrenaline as should be expected in a situation like that. And other well intentioned have already pointed out helpful suggestions.I am guessing pregnancy probably added more to an already pumped up situation. Under your very capable hands, you gave a family a chance to be together for longer:yes: Quick question though, was this seizure sudden or did the patient's diagnoses possibly give an indication of such?
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    8 months as a nurse and I am failing miserably

    Caddywompus quoted only ONE aspect of usage for the ellipsis (...). This punctuation mark has dual purposes:). Uses of the Ellipsis 1. Indicate an Omission- The ceremony honored twelve brilliant athletes … visiting the U.S. 2. Indicate a pause in sentence flow- Juan thought and thought … and then thought some more. P.S- the omission could be either at the beginning, middle or end of a sentence/quote. Reference http://grammar.ccc.commnet.edu/grammar/marks/ellipsis.htm
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    8 months as a nurse and I am failing miserably

    No, you are not failing miserably; you "failed" at the one thing.And that can also be debated. The ball was dropped somewhere along the line. We won't go into discussing whether or not the patient should have received the blood or not, right now it is about you. I am very grateful that your patient DNR or not, made it through, that could have been pinned on you. Try not to let your coworkers get to you and they will, if you let them. If you are able in future, try and hold your tears in and let it out in private so you don't give ammunition to your coworkers. There are some great pieces of advice from people on here.Hang tight...you will come through this.
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    What to expect during orientation?

    Congrats on your new job. My advice? Expect nothing, go in like a sponge looking to absorb and process all valuable information,it does no good to absorb information and not be able to process it. On expectations? Have your expectations at home but set them aside. When you go into the ED, expect nothing. Expectations sometimes put you in the line for failure when things don't work out as you intended. Every situation could have a pearl of wisdom, you just have to find it; sometimes you may need to look really deep:). Be as helpful as you can without getting in the way. Don't go looking to make a pal on the first day, if it happens, it happens, otherwise be polite and courteous with all. Mazel Tov!
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    Surviving Nursing School- financial wise

    Squishy, that is the cutest dog. Love it!
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    Do you need all those degrees?

    What exactly are these degrees? Learning is a lifelong process and there is nothing wrong with a person wanting to become better knowledgeable. People further their education for different reasons and purposes to different outcomes. In today’s market, one would do well to remain competitive and marketable in the workforce. But that being said, acquiring education that does not have any impact on your career might be considered a sheer waste of time, valuable efforts and money. But again, understanding the reason for these degrees is understanding the person who has them. Several things could factor into a reason for the person having these degrees any of which could include tuition reimbursement, career change or promotion, better understanding of one’s job etc. It also could be any or those or none of those. Humans are inherently selfish and to say that one should simply “acquire” a degree for its sake with no thoughts of career promotion or better career outcomes, but simply to is almost insulting. Truly? I perceive the OP’s confusion might stem from nurses who have the many degrees attached to their names but could not translate it into better job outcome or growth. That, in all fairness could be seen as sheer waste. Some might suggest that these many degreed nurses invested to be better prepared for tomorrow’s market. That might be a mistake; the future is now! I would rather they put those degrees to the purpose for which they were intended and put in the work now and then get to reap the dividends of their hard work from tomorrow’s market. And yes, I went beyond the BSN, but I was darned if it wasn't going to translate into a better lucrative employment opportunity, thank GOD! That, OP, was the intended outcome!
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    5th time nclex taker

    Ironically, the one who had to retake the NCLEX 4times might be the one most appreciative when she finally does her pass. There might even be more appreciation for the pains of getting the license and value it more which in turn will show through her work ethics.But these are all suppositions... In life, there are no absolutes; it could fall either way.
  20. Just as watching a baby crawl, then walk and run is an exciting and joyous event; watching new grads mature and come into their own can be the same way. But! ...but if not carefully monitored, spirits could be broken, dreams dashed and the light put out or dimmed. Don't let that happen to you; don't become a statistic. In the beautiful oxymoron that is nursing the resilient not only survive, but thrive as well. You can be one of those. Nursing is made up of unique individuals who share different beliefs. Some hold the view that new grads should be pummeled and pounded into shape, others are of the views that wings should be clipped to avert a future disaster and yet others hold the view that news grads can be cultivated but still yet be allowed to thrive and be themselves. And build confidence in their selves and abilities while tempered with caution and humility. It is this last camp that I find myself. Regardless of group views, your duty as a new graduate nurse, to yourself, patient and organization is to learn as much as you possibly can to make you adept with your skills. By all means, do volunteer for opportunities you can amply give your best efforts to. Don't just volunteer for its sake alone. Ask questions and help when you need it...especially when you need it. Do your best to do your best at work. On work relations, "Be courteous with all, but intimate with a few. And even then, let that few be well tested" Keep your ears open and your mouth closed...your ears the better to hear and your mouth, to keep you from, "foot in mouth" disease. Be polite but assertive. Just because you are a new grad nurse on the block does not make you a walk-over. Be cognizant of the politics around you, don't be a player, just be cognizant. You minimize the bigger possibility of getting blindsided. Do you best at work and when it is time to go home, leave work at work. Tomorrow would come soon enough... By The_Optimist
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    Getting Thrown Under the Bus

    I lol'd myself:). I am an optimist because I try to see the positives in a situation. I am not an optimist that I ignore that there are two sides to a story or refuse to be cognizant of truths.
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    Getting Thrown Under the Bus

    Yes, I will elaborate. And your vicious tone will get you nowhere. I’m of the philosophy that, “if they didn’t create the problem, cannot change the problem, then they don’t need to know about the problem” In this case, those would be your coworkers. For your sake, I am sorry that your manager did not follow through on your initial agreement and your scheduler abrasive (going by what you wrote). But you should still take up your concerns with the right people (your manager & scheduler). Or make a decision about it. But we are all humans, so you may have felt a need to gripe to someone about your raw deal. And that’s okay. But when it becomes so excessive, think about how it impacts on your co-workers' days. Your constant woes and complains would make an already long work day (12hours) seem even longer to them. They probably got so fed up of hearing about it but too nice (or reluctant) to say it to your face, that they complained, if only to get you to stop with the constant complaints. You can liken it to a dripping water faucet, when you are trying to get to sleep- it gets old pretty quick.
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    New grad nurse starting in the Operating Room?

    A bird in hand is worth how many in the bush? Ding! We have a winner!!:) Holding a position for you is complimentary.Seems you might have a supportive bunch and you do need that to thrive as a new grad. Why create worries where there look to be none? I fail to understand the logic of taking a circuitous route back to where you want to be (and already are) right now.Perhaps, I might be missing something.
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    Getting Thrown Under the Bus

    I have my misgivings on your post. But live and learn.
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    Good nurse gone

    Very unnecessary and tragic.RIP