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TriciaJ RN

Psych, Corrections, Med-Surg, Ambulatory

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    Private message requirements

    I've received 2 private messages in the past week from people who: 1. Just joined 5 minutes ago 2. Have posted no profile info; likely not even nurses 3. Appear to have mistaken this for a lonely hearts website. I thought someone had to be a member on this site for a certain period of time before being allowed to pm members. Now I know why. Has that rule changed? Can anyone now come on this forum and approach members, asking to be personal friends?
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    Regretting new job. What to do?

    As usual, I agree with JKL. Your decision will be a lot easier if you can specify exactly what it is you're not liking. What exactly were you looking forward to? Does it just not exist in reality? Is there some fundamental thing you can't see yourself doing? I changed specialties a few times in my career. I got one orientation that I would describe as useful. Sometimes I had a steep learning curve to overcome, after leaving a comfort zone of competence. It's the pits to go back to being the new stupid person and worse when they're not prepared to give you a great orientation. The alternative is to never leave your comfort zone and spend your career battling a trapped-in-a-corner feeling. Good luck whatever you decide.
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    Unprofessional Clinical Educator.. What would you do?

    She sounds a bit flighty. I agree with JKL - remind her those are inappropriate comments when you are engaged in patient care. Beyond that, address her concerns with minimal fanfare. Show her your BCLS card; apologize for missing her class but you were unavoidably detained.
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    Social Skills Should Be a Bigger Focus in Nursing School

    I can't "like" this enough. This post should be required nursing school reading.
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    Social Skills Should Be a Bigger Focus in Nursing School

    You start with the "everyone gets a trophy" early childhood. Everyone knows their "rights" but draws a blank at "responsibilities". There are no clear rites of passage to adulthood so you see prolongued adolescence well into the 20s and beyond. With the emphasis on "self-esteem" and "unconditional positive regard", is it any wonder people are entering the workforce socially unprepared? With exclusive focus on academic prowess and the assumption that the "soft skills" will be magically picked up along the way, is it any wonder we have schoolgirl cliques among adult professionals? It might be difficult to teach social skills in nursing school but maybe it should be part of the applicant screening process.
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    Should I give a two weeks' notice?

    Don't get me wrong. I've always toughed out a 2 week notice. Sometimes the longest 2 weeks of my life. My advice is if there is no possible way to go back there.
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    Should I give a two weeks' notice?

    I surmise you're working in a long term care facility. The beginning of your post was unclear. You've been working there over a year but now can't stand the thought of toughing out a two week notice. I guess when you've had enough you've had enough. Here's a thought: put in your notice, then call in sick. A day later, call them all apologetic about not being able to work your notice. I don't really see this as being dishonest; you clearly are sick at the thought of ever going back there. They may buy it or not. No matter. You need to be out of there.
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    New nurse. Where is my passion?

    I think with your realistic mindset you have a better chance at a long, satisfying career than your "passionate" cohorts with their inspirational stories. Most of us don't subscribe to the idea that nursing is a "calling". That's just a lot of hype to rope us into poor working conditions and low pay and we're supposed to be all dewy-eyed while we're doing it. Keep in touch with your passionate friends. You'll be amazed how many run away screaming.
  9. In workplaces that have unions, there is always a form that can be completed if staffing is unsafe. A copy of the form is always directed to an entity OUTSIDE the employer system, which is why employers hate when this form is used. The form essentially functions as a preemptive incident report. It generally states "I am accepting an unsafe assignment under protest. I have already requested help from ABC and received XYZ response. I will not be held professionally liable for any negative outcomes." You see if something bad happens because you were stretched too thin, you will be held responsible. Saying you were short-staffed won't get you off the hook unless you have already documented that you asked for help and accepted the assignment under protest. If you have no preprinted forms, this information can be put on a blank sheet of paper. A copy MUST go to the state regulatory body, a copy to your employer and you keep a copy. If you insist on staying on this sinking ship of a job, using that form will be your career life preserver.
  10. Where's your upper management? Are you the most senior person in the building? And State popped by for a visit? Come on in! I'd be showing them a lot more than my newly bald head.
  11. I don't know why you wouldn't qualify. They've got pharmacy techs and all kinds of other people giving the shots. A nurse is golden.
  12. Your residents have every right to expect you to function as if you've had a full night's sleep. Your brain is "greedy for more sleep" because it still isn't getting enough. There are no tips or suggestions to help you power through a shift when you are still depriving your body of the basic necessities of life. Reading your original post is like reading "I like to party and snort coke; how do I stay alert at work?" Because doing that wouldn't be that much worse for your body and mind than what you're doing now. If you're not going to look for another job, then you're going to have to be absolutely ruthless about getting out after 12 hrs tops. Proper nutrition and sleep hygiene need to be your passionate new hobbies. You're still young enough for your body to forgive the abuse but it will take time and consistent effort. Metaphorically, you need to be putting your own oxygen mask on first.
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    Breakroom Pet Peeves

    If you hear yourself saying "She's in the break room" maybe that's a clue she's trying to get a BREAK.
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    Breakroom Pet Peeves

    He probably power-tripped on the idea of nurses tiptoeing around him. I can't believe (well, yes I can) that your coworkers went along with that. And we wonder why we get rocks for Nurses' Week.
  15. When a behaviour makes no sense, despite much instruction, it makes me wonder if everyone is barking up the wrong tree. The clue is that she frequently uses the call light and states she wants to be "prepared". I think it's a control issue and a need for frequent interaction. Is the lady ambulatory? Would it be appropriate to take her for frequent walks? This will provide staff interaction and skin recuperation time. Replace the "teaching" sessions with something more positive. I really don't think the issue is her fear of incontinence. Good luck.
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    Davey Do Toon Caption Contest | Nurses Week

    Just one shot and you're set for life!
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    Your Help Needed: Give A Tip To A New Grad Nurse

    I have a couple of others: 1. Do not take anything personally, even if it was meant that way. If you ask a question of someone who rolls her eyes at you, that's someone who likes to roll her eyes. No reflection on you. 2. When getting unpleasant feedback, ask for more information. If the feedback is legit, the extra information will be helpful. If someone is power-tripping, they will have trouble being specific. That's how you will learn the best people to take your questions to. 3. Make friends with your worksheet. If your unit has preprinted ones, great. If after a week or two it just doesn't work for you, then develop your own. But have a visual system to keep track of information and your running to-do list. 4. Try to be mindful of the nurse who inherits the patient from you. You don't like to come on shift to find bone-dry IV bags or the room looking like a nurse-generated landfill, so try to have things squared away for the next person. If you're swamped and have to pass things along, acknowledge that in report. 5. Don't forget to keep breathing.
  18. I am so sorry you are going through this. That is really good news that your supervisor and manager are willing to work with you. Hopefully they make good on their promises and it turns out to be doable. Meanwhile, just put one foot in front of the other and take everybody up on whatever they offer you. Wishing you peace and comfort.
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    Received Letter In Mail About Hospital Lawsuit At Old Job

    Sounds to me like the hospital attorney is trying to scoop up as much info as possible to have ammo to counter the suit. If you feel comfortable, you can contact the attorney to say you have no recollection of the person and your charting will have to stand on its own. Meanwhile, I would certainly contact my professional liability provider.
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    I need help. Do I need a new job?

    Lesson #1: Boundaries. That's where you figure out what's yours and what's not yours. If you just plain can't get things done, that's you. If you're not getting things done because you're being actively sabotaged, that's them. Sounds like the traveler charge nurse is a problem child. The main charge nurse probably hates getting called about this stuff, but sided with you. That's huge. Then the traveller CN countermanded the main CN and caused further problems. I get that you had a discouraging shift, but this has NOTHING to do with your worthiness as a nurse. Have a heart to heart with your boss. You may need to leave this toxic job if they can't get their personnel problems undercontrol. But do not make drastic decisions about your whole career because of the actions of a few *up people. Does your BON publish the disciplinary actions? Keep an eye on it the next couple of years. Ms Traveler might have her name in print.
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    MMJ Card

    Whatever answer you get to your question will be that person's answer. No one here can speak for all employers in Illinois or any other state. For all we know, Illinois hospitals have similar policies. Detoxing for the initial drug test may get you in the door. While you're working, if there is a narc discrepancy on your shift or anywhere near where you worked, you may be subject to a spot drug test. And then get reported. If you're planning to use marijuana and pursue nursing, you need to get your questions answered much more definitively than from random strangers on the internet. It might be worth finding some other remedy for your migraines. It would be a bummer to put in that kind of time and energy into developing a career then constantly have to look over your shoulder.
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    Nurses That Never Worked In A Hospital...

    I've certainly had some magical jobs. And not just in hospitals.
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    Newbie in ER....help!

    Where is your preceptor? Shouldn't you be shadowing your first week? This really sounds like a thrown-in-at-the-deep-end orientation. If they're going to be hiring new grads into the ED, there needs to be way more structure than what you're describing. I second JKL33 above; you need to have a heart to heart with whomever is responsible for your orientation. If they had a medical floor (ideally no tele) it would be a better start. What on earth are they thinking?
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    How do you guys do it for so long?

    The spirit was willing but the flesh was at one with the couch.
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    Hernia Repair Patient Dignity

    This is why several of us have advised you to be very specific about your complaint. If you came across to her like you did here, she is likely to write you off as a kook with an axe to grind. That's why you got the standard blow-off response. You were the one who put "checked" in quotation marks. That implied that they had some other agenda than just postop care. So is it your assertion that they were being lascivious, or just less than sensitive? You need to be very clear about this if you want to be taken seriously.