Thank you arigato and others, no, my husband otherwise is helpful with kids and some errands at home but he feels as if after getting added paycheck at home, I am being snooty and want to boss.
He has a very decent paying job but this is 1st time that a woman in his family is doing so much stuff at one time.
Regarding in-laws , they do not help with anything but add always more to arguments and will always find fault in me only. In their opinion, women's job is to sit at home cook , clean , raise kids ( Which I was doing for 10 yrs ).
I think, I will take some days off after thanksgiving and will spend complete week with my family, may be that will help. I want no problems in my marriage as I have little kids. I will try ! wish me luck