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    ThePrincessBride reacted to brownbook in Any way you could stay over and work a few hours   
    If nurses just say no....administration will have to pay more money for a float pool, or per diem, or work the floor their selves.
     
    JUST SAY NO 
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    ThePrincessBride reacted to not.done.yet, MSN, RN in Working on weekends!   
    You have a lot going against you in finding a position. You want critical care experience for future goals and you don't want weekend hours (and probably not holidays either if I had to venture a guess and probably not nights either, right?). Combined with a two year degree, you have vastly closed your doors of opportunity.
    Time to rethink your goals. Odds are you can't have everything.
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    ThePrincessBride got a reaction from thoughtful21, BSN, RN in Is this crazy?   
    Sorry for all of the threads, but I am stressing out a lot and I could use some insight from wiser people.
    I am in the middle of getting ready to go to graduate school for FNP. I got into a university that finds preceptors for their students. I will be going to the program part-time online while working for the hospital full-time in order to have tuition paid for. I have worked this exact same job before dropping down to contingent, so I know what to expect. Love the coworkers. No set weekends (which I like). It is adult med-surg, and the patients, as a whole, treat the nurses horribly. However, the job has AMAZING benefits, I'm talking pensions, GREAT insurance, lots of sick/vacation time, lots of recognized holidays....
    I would have to leave my position in the neonatal ICU and this gives me anxiety. I love the NICU, but I don't think I would be able to handle full-time work, contingent work AND grad school all at once. I find myself feeling sad. Also...
    I am scared. So many people are going to school to become FNPs. Everyone and their dog is going to FNP school, and the market is quickly becoming flooded. I have talked to previous coworkers who have graduated. While nearly all of them have jobs, some are still working bedside and haven't secured a full-time position. Others are at retail clinics working every other weekend, holidays, and have on-call (which sounds horrible to me, even though I initially liked the idea of working at a minute clinic).
    Ideally, I would love to work at an urgent care, a prison or a clinic where I could work 3-4 days per week with minimal weekend/holiday requirements, no call. Or I would like to work at the VA or a school system. Unfortunately, I am not seeing too many jobs out there that match that description or would hire a new grad.
    So, I guess I am asking, is going to FNP school a mistake? Part of me thinks that I won't find a job. But if I don't go, I think I will look back in life and regret not at least trying, if that makes sense. Also, I won't have accrued any debt. And I KNOW I could switch to Psyche NP (there are LOTS of jobs, and I think I would LOVE psyche). I could go back and get a post-masters in Psyche. There is a year of overlap in the program, as well.
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    ThePrincessBride reacted to Emergent in Is this crazy?   
    You're right, it's not a golden ticket. But, if it's something you want,  I'll bet you'll succeed. I have followed you here over the years and you are definitely an overcomer. 
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    ThePrincessBride got a reaction from Emergent in Would you be insulted?   
    Thank you for all the replies. It really means a lot!
    To answer your questions, I am going back to school to become a Nurse Practitioner, so not quite education-related, though I thought precepting would be a good resume-builder. I know that confronting the educator would probably create a backlash, and I am trying to stay under the radar.
    I do my best to engage in small talk and I get along with my co-workers on a professional level, but I get left out because I don't fit in. It is one of the reasons that has pushed me to pursue higher education, that feeling of isolation. 
    One of the assistant managers has told me that I am quiet. I have never been outgoing and don't have any close friends; it has been like that since high school, and I have become accustomed to it. 
    It is nice to hear from other people that I shouldn't let this bother me. It is just hard not to feel a little slighted, but I need to keep my emotions checked and not let this consume me.
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    ThePrincessBride got a reaction from Neo Soldier, RN in Would you be insulted?   
    I know what you mean. It just bothers me to know a colleague thinks so poorly of me and harbors bad feelings toward me even years after the fact, you know?
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    ThePrincessBride got a reaction from thoughtful21, BSN, RN in Would you be insulted?   
    Thanks for your reply.
    I guess I am just bummed out and feel a little disrespected, as though my three years means nothing. I know she is shocked that I lasted this long.
    The good news is that I am going to grad school and dropping to part-time work so I have one foot out of the door, so I won't have to tolerate this for much longer.
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    ThePrincessBride got a reaction from Emergent in Would you be insulted?   
    Thank you for all the replies. It really means a lot!
    To answer your questions, I am going back to school to become a Nurse Practitioner, so not quite education-related, though I thought precepting would be a good resume-builder. I know that confronting the educator would probably create a backlash, and I am trying to stay under the radar.
    I do my best to engage in small talk and I get along with my co-workers on a professional level, but I get left out because I don't fit in. It is one of the reasons that has pushed me to pursue higher education, that feeling of isolation. 
    One of the assistant managers has told me that I am quiet. I have never been outgoing and don't have any close friends; it has been like that since high school, and I have become accustomed to it. 
    It is nice to hear from other people that I shouldn't let this bother me. It is just hard not to feel a little slighted, but I need to keep my emotions checked and not let this consume me.
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    ThePrincessBride reacted to ADN_Is_Complete in Would you be insulted?   
    I don't have any advice for the precepting issue except for making it known you'd really love to when the topic came up. I can understand the isolation you feel. I am also a black nurse on a unit with maybe 3 other black nurses. It is hard to relate when everyone else is married or getting married and/or have kids. For the most part, my unit is pretty good with including everyone. I always get to join when they're going bowling or something like that. The only think that annoys me is they all want to add your personal fb. Haha. I don't agree with them excluding you. Do you make an effort to talk with them? Do they make an effort to talk with you? 
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    ThePrincessBride got a reaction from RNTadaaaa in Would you be insulted?   
    Thanks for the reply.
    I have definitely become introverted mostly due to the cliques and back-stabbing on the unit (and I wonder if this is part of the reason we are losing so many nurses). I never call off (ever) and have worked overtime and picked up in the past. I also did some committee work.
    But I really don't fit in, being black and childless on a unit with mostly white, young to middle-age mothers. So of course, we don't interact much and I am excluded from out-of-unit activities. I have been coping by throwing myself into patient care but I do feel lonely and isolated at times.
    I just sometimes feel like some of my co-workers think little of me like I am black tar on the bottom of a shoe (points for anyone who knows the reference), so I just stay quiet.
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    ThePrincessBride got a reaction from thoughtful21, BSN, RN in Would you be insulted?   
    How would you respond in my situation?
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    ThePrincessBride got a reaction from thoughtful21, BSN, RN in Would you be insulted?   
    Thanks for your reply.
    I guess I am just bummed out and feel a little disrespected, as though my three years means nothing. I know she is shocked that I lasted this long.
    The good news is that I am going to grad school and dropping to part-time work so I have one foot out of the door, so I won't have to tolerate this for much longer.
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    ThePrincessBride got a reaction from RNTadaaaa in Would you be insulted?   
    I could bring it up during my yearly eval as that would be the perfect time to do so. Maybe a casual, "I see we are hiring more nurses. I am available to precept." And then leave it at that.
     
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    ThePrincessBride got a reaction from TriciaJ, RN in Would you be insulted?   
    Funny you say that. I work in a different unit contingent that is extremely diverse and I stay because I love my co-workers, there are no cliques. And with so many people leaving and some who have privately told me that it is due to cliques and not feeling welcomed or belonging (both black and white, male and female), I can say without a doubt that there is a problem on my unit that goes beyond me.
    Now, if it was just me saying this, I would be inclined to agree but I can't as too many other nurses have left for similar reasons.
    I used to be invested, did committee work and everything but I am mentally done with the BS, though I plaster a smile on my face and 'fake it'
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    ThePrincessBride got a reaction from brownbook in Would you be insulted?   
    I actually just asked to go part time and part-time workers can and do precept.
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    ThePrincessBride reacted to saongiri in Would you be insulted?   
    I have found that a sense of inclusion comes from the unit/department head right on down. there is no reason that if you have proven to be an safe, effective nurse with three years experience, that you should not precept. I'd be mad to if I were you. Precepting is an important,valuable experience for both the preceptee and the preceptor and you shouldn't be denied to opportunity. I think you already know the answer to your question and the reasons why it's happening. I would absolutely bring it up and continue your plan of exiting the unit ASAP. Don't be surprised if they do assign you a preceptee that there will be efforts made to make the experience unsuccessful for both of you. 
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    ThePrincessBride got a reaction from Neo Soldier, RN in Would you be insulted?   
    I know what you mean. It just bothers me to know a colleague thinks so poorly of me and harbors bad feelings toward me even years after the fact, you know?
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    ThePrincessBride got a reaction from RNTadaaaa in Would you be insulted?   
    I could bring it up during my yearly eval as that would be the perfect time to do so. Maybe a casual, "I see we are hiring more nurses. I am available to precept." And then leave it at that.
     
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    ThePrincessBride got a reaction from TriciaJ, RN in Would you be insulted?   
    Funny you say that. I work in a different unit contingent that is extremely diverse and I stay because I love my co-workers, there are no cliques. And with so many people leaving and some who have privately told me that it is due to cliques and not feeling welcomed or belonging (both black and white, male and female), I can say without a doubt that there is a problem on my unit that goes beyond me.
    Now, if it was just me saying this, I would be inclined to agree but I can't as too many other nurses have left for similar reasons.
    I used to be invested, did committee work and everything but I am mentally done with the BS, though I plaster a smile on my face and 'fake it'
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    ThePrincessBride got a reaction from RNTadaaaa in Would you be insulted?   
    I could bring it up during my yearly eval as that would be the perfect time to do so. Maybe a casual, "I see we are hiring more nurses. I am available to precept." And then leave it at that.
     
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    ThePrincessBride got a reaction from RNTadaaaa in Would you be insulted?   
    Thanks for the reply.
    I have definitely become introverted mostly due to the cliques and back-stabbing on the unit (and I wonder if this is part of the reason we are losing so many nurses). I never call off (ever) and have worked overtime and picked up in the past. I also did some committee work.
    But I really don't fit in, being black and childless on a unit with mostly white, young to middle-age mothers. So of course, we don't interact much and I am excluded from out-of-unit activities. I have been coping by throwing myself into patient care but I do feel lonely and isolated at times.
    I just sometimes feel like some of my co-workers think little of me like I am black tar on the bottom of a shoe (points for anyone who knows the reference), so I just stay quiet.
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    ThePrincessBride got a reaction from RNTadaaaa in Would you be insulted?   
    I could bring it up during my yearly eval as that would be the perfect time to do so. Maybe a casual, "I see we are hiring more nurses. I am available to precept." And then leave it at that.
     
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    ThePrincessBride reacted to FolksBtrippin in Would you be insulted?   
    I would probably feel the same way, even if I didn't want to precept, so I get where you are coming from. 
    You are rising above it by going back to school for NP. 
     
     
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    ThePrincessBride reacted to Wuzzie in Would you be insulted?   
    Yeah this! I think you're dodging a bullet. You can bet if one of your orientees screws up your educator will be all over you in a heartbeat which could very well affect your future. I've worked in NICU, it can be brutal. Better to keep your head down and your eyes on your future.
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    ThePrincessBride got a reaction from Emergent in Would you be insulted?   
    Thank you for all the replies. It really means a lot!
    To answer your questions, I am going back to school to become a Nurse Practitioner, so not quite education-related, though I thought precepting would be a good resume-builder. I know that confronting the educator would probably create a backlash, and I am trying to stay under the radar.
    I do my best to engage in small talk and I get along with my co-workers on a professional level, but I get left out because I don't fit in. It is one of the reasons that has pushed me to pursue higher education, that feeling of isolation. 
    One of the assistant managers has told me that I am quiet. I have never been outgoing and don't have any close friends; it has been like that since high school, and I have become accustomed to it. 
    It is nice to hear from other people that I shouldn't let this bother me. It is just hard not to feel a little slighted, but I need to keep my emotions checked and not let this consume me.
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