1. You are NOT the only resident in this facility.
2. Your mother is NOT the only resident in this facility.
3. No, there is no way you can still receive Dad's Social Security check. Get a job.
4. If you're unhappy with her care here, by all means, take her home. Here, I'll help you
5. Your Dad, the aphasic, bedridden, 5 yrs+ incontinent resident with advanced dementia
said he needed to go to the bathroom? Really? Well stop the press! We are witness to a miracle! And right as we're serving lunch, too....
6. YOU aren't paying good money for anything. Medicaid is. You're welcome.
7. Sure, go ahead and give you're NPO Mom on a feed tube her beloved coffee. She'll
aspirate and maybe even die, as explained ad nauseum. As if sneaking her foods/drinks by mouth when we're not looking somehow lessens the risks...
8. No, Mom is not going to suddenly "snap out of" the catastrophic stroke she had so
you can take her check, er...her home with you.
9. You can cover Dad up as well as I can.
10. AAAAHHHHHHHHHHH!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! (As I bang my head on the desk).
Thank you for letting me get that out. As you can see, I'm a "little" fed up with LTC. I've been a LTC nurse for almost 6 yrs now, and I HAVE HAD IT!!!!!!!!!!! Demanding/whiny/entitled residents, demanding/whiny/entitled family members, mountains of paperwork, it's crushing my spirit and making me resentful at nursing. I have many more things I would LOVE to say to residents, MD's, families, corporate CEO's, etc., but I think the above will suffice for now. Again, thank you for the rant. Please feel free to add your own.
Looks like our favorite Nursing prerequisite, "empathy", may be a direct result of said trauma (mines 7 by the way).
Here's the Cliff notes version: <https://bigthink.com/mind-brain/childhood-trauma-adult-empathy?rebelltitem=2#rebelltitem2>
And the professional one: <https://journals.plos.org/plosone/article?id=10.1371/journal.pone.0203886>
I've long had the opinion that genuine empathic ability was an early acquired defense mechanism to anticipate the risk of harm and was manipulative in the sense that it could give the operant the ability to manipulate his/her interactions to avoid harm. Somebody else needs to do that study because I've run out of time.
So much for "learning" to be empathic, especially as it applies to nursing skills.
It was more of an encouragement to regard needing meds not as a failing but as one of the many tools we can use. I’ve dealt with so much med shaming in my life that i can come off a little strong there
Your incident is the reason I don't like Christians, nor do I want to be taken care by Christian nurses. Somehow they think that people outside their worldview are controlled by the devil, morally corrupted, or lost without life meaning. In general, every possible condemnation that their bible taught them is what they project on non Christians.
I don't have sufficient knowledge in evolution psychology to explain how our views about ethics have changed over time for better. I simply say "it is my moral intuition. I simply know although I cannot explain why." If Christians cannot accept my agnostic view about ethics, that is their problem.
You don't owe any Christian justification for your ethical foundation. A person's ethics has many influences. Just because a Christian can assert their explanation with Yahweh does not mean their morals are better than yours or mine.
I hope you find a way to deal with that Christian mindset.
In my first week of school for my doctoral program, we were talking about "other ways of knowing." I divulged that I am a confused agnostic...I truly have no idea what's going on, and mostly just spend my spiritual time fumbling around in the dark looking for the light switch. One of my fellow students asked, in a completely sincere voice, "If you don't believe in God, then how do you know right from wrong? How do you know if you are making good decisions?" I've never met someone so different from myself. She needed the Bible to guide her through her day. I tried to explain that I "just know" but it came out sounding lame. What's your response to that type of question? I'll save it for the next time someone is baffled by my lack of faith.
The deep south is full of Southern Baptists, who really believe that non Christians would be burned for eternity if they don't believe in Jesus regardless of how decent they are.
Do you think that a Christian nurse in the deep south can respect a patient's spiritual autonomy without proselytizing to him/her?
Seeing the tension between atheists and Christians, I am cynical about the attitude toward non-Christian patients in the South. I am not even an atheist to have this feeling.
It is refreshing to see a nurse who has more nuances like you do.
Nobody here is condemning you and you are targeting THE WRONG PEOPLE with your obvious rage. What did you expect? You came here and started verbally spitting at us. If this is how you are treating people who did nothing to you or your husband I wonder what your demeanor is with the people you actually interacted with.
You might benefit from talking about this to someone who can better help you make peace with your experience. I'm not sure strangers on the internet are the best choice.