Say something, I have learned that not enough people stand up for what is right, not enough people are willing to rock the boat, but behavior like that CAN NOT be tolerated. Everyone has bad days, everyone gets an admission or transfer at the worst possible time but that should never be taken out on the patient. If the nurse felt in some way that she was getting "stuck" with a patient and that it was unfair to her because of her work load then she needed to take that up with her supervisor not voice it so that a patient is aware of her negative feelings. I know that being a new nurse is hard but don't let your desire to fit in cloud your judgement and compromise your morals and values. We work with people who are at their most vulnerable, people who are literally trusting us with their lives, by accepting this incredible responsibility we are obligating ourselves to advocate for our patients, they are trusting that we have their best interests in mind, that we care about them, and that we chose our job because we want to help people. Stand up for what you believe in, SAY SOMETHING ! she needs to be reprimanded for her behavior, go to her supervisor. I understand the desire to send an anonymous letter but a letter with a signature holds much more weight, and you should not be afraid to stand up for what is right. I have been in your situation and it's a hard one and it sucks, in my situation the person ended up losing her job because it was an ongoing problem, the things that were being said were harsh. I did not know that she was going to lose her job and when I found out that the person was told who brought it up I was scared to go back to work, she had friends there and we all worked in the same area. But I did it and in my situation it worked out for the better. The supervisor put a "gag order" on the situation so when it was done it was done and that was the end of it. Maybe she was just having a bad day and needs a reminder that venting is best done in private or maybe it is an ongoing problem and more information from more people is needed to handle the problem. I wish you luck.