Does lack of motivation means no no to nursing?

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casi, ASN, RN

2,063 Posts

Specializes in LTC.

I think most people go through a slump at the end of a semester. After a full semesters worth of work you are exhausted and finals just seem like too much work. Add in a family and life and that just makes things worse.

Just keep plugging away and doing the best you can. Maybe think about becoming a part time student next semster?

And next time someone uses "Well you're still young..." As an excuse, smack them. We're not our mother's generation where you could get a decent enough paying job right out of high school that you could support a family on. Part of being a good mother is being with your child to watch them grow up. You can't do that while you're working two $7/hr jobs in order to survive.

luvmy3kids

675 Posts

I disagree with the people who disagreed with me. Don't forget your priorities here: you have only one shot at doing well on your finals which could ultimately determine your fate in nursing. However, you have many chances to answer to the whims of a child (as my mom tells me, "it never ends"). Keeping focused during this critical time is hard enough without a little baby crawling around your work area and crying. Of course other people will tell you this is not so and the child always comes first. This is politically correct rhetoric that will damage your grades!

And seriously don't you have someone to care for him, maybe a spouse or relative? If not you may have to stick him in a playpen for a while with some toys and a TV dialed to a cartoon channel. Don't worry, he won't remember what you did and he'll be better off in the future because of your pro-activeness :)

Do you have any children of your own???:uhoh3:

Alpha13

134 Posts

Ok first of all please don't call me a girl anymore because I'd be the ugliest girl you every saw! Second I don't have kids but some a friend of mine does. I've seen her try to study with her kid around, and she just couldn't do it with the baby in the room making a fuss and requiring constant attention. Frankly I'm surprised that some of you would even disagree with this. Has your hearing developed in such a way that you can tune out the baby sounds and concentrate on your study material or what? I stand by my advice because while it won't be popular especially to the moms, it is practical and will allow you to focus on the task at hand. If necessary stick a baby monitor in the room with the volume set low and only go over when he really starts making a ruckus (if you're familiar with your child you probably knows when he is BS crying for attention and when he's not)

catzy5

1,112 Posts

Ok first of all please don't call me a girl anymore because I'd be the ugliest girl you every saw! Second I don't have kids but some a friend of mine does. I've seen her try to study with her kid around, and she just couldn't do it with the baby in the room making a fuss and requiring constant attention. Frankly I'm surprised that some of you would even disagree with this. Has your hearing developed in such a way that you can tune out the baby sounds and concentrate on your study material or what? I stand by my advice because while it won't be popular especially to the moms, it is practical and will allow you to focus on the task at hand. If necessary stick a baby monitor in the room with the volume set low and only go over when he really starts making a ruckus (if you're familiar with your child you probably knows when he is BS crying for attention and when he's not)

oh man I love listening to parenting advise from nonparents really makes me chuckle.

*Blessed2BaNRS*

562 Posts

Specializes in Neuro.

Okay Alpha,

You made your point about the girl thing. I am still laughing at that one!!! :lol2: Sorry about calling you a "she!" BUT, that makes your advice even more ludacrious and makes us understand why you said what you did!! You aren't a MOM!!! Still have to disagree on that advice. Sure, it is okay to put the baby in a palypen or swing or whatever you have, and let the baby play and have time for himself, but you cannot just depend on the TV tuned into Cartoon Network to babysit him just to do your work. There are diapers to be changed, food to feed him, and the crucial play/talk/interaction time that ALL babies need. I worked at an elementary school and saw first hand the children that were made to do just that. These children lack motivation, fine motor skills, people skills and discipline. Is it worth it to further YOURSELF so you can spend your money to send him to therapists because he didn't get your attention?? When you have children, you lose the right to think ONLY about yourself, because you now have another life to think about.

It is possible to tune out the noise of children, or husbands/wives or any other noise if only for awhile. Believe me, I have 4 kids, yes, it can be done. BUT, my children are 8, 10, 12 and 13. They can be self suffecient and occupy themselves while I study. But an 11 month old baby cannot. He needs mom or dad to be there for him.

But, yes, it is possible to still study while having a baby in the house. You just have to schedule your time around the baby. If you want your career bad enough, you will do just that. It may take a little longer, but like I said above, the baby is only a baby for a very short time. Enjoy it while you can!

MistiroseRN

91 Posts

Specializes in RN in LTC.

Neb,

you are young and have plenty of time. Take a lighter load next semester. I have been in school for 5 yrs. I started out part time to get all my pre recs. I have teenagers and they need me. I set myself up to suceed. You can be a mother and a nurse. Take a deep breath and think it over during the summer. Good luck in whatever you choose.

lisabeth

1,087 Posts

Ok first of all please don't call me a girl anymore because I'd be the ugliest girl you every saw! Second I don't have kids but some a friend of mine does. I've seen her try to study with her kid around, and she just couldn't do it with the baby in the room making a fuss and requiring constant attention. Frankly I'm surprised that some of you would even disagree with this. Has your hearing developed in such a way that you can tune out the baby sounds and concentrate on your study material or what? I stand by my advice because while it won't be popular especially to the moms, it is practical and will allow you to focus on the task at hand. If necessary stick a baby monitor in the room with the volume set low and only go over when he really starts making a ruckus (if you're familiar with your child you probably knows when he is BS crying for attention and when he's not)

We understand better now for sure. It shows you have no emotional attachment for your friend's child. Most men I know put their children before their wives, and everyone else. But they have that emotional attachment.

*Blessed2BaNRS*

562 Posts

Specializes in Neuro.
:D :roll I'm with you Texas!!!:roll :D

luvmy3kids

675 Posts

Ok first of all please don't call me a girl anymore because I'd be the ugliest girl you every saw! Second I don't have kids but some a friend of mine does. I've seen her try to study with her kid around, and she just couldn't do it with the baby in the room making a fuss and requiring constant attention. Frankly I'm surprised that some of you would even disagree with this. Has your hearing developed in such a way that you can tune out the baby sounds and concentrate on your study material or what? I stand by my advice because while it won't be popular especially to the moms, it is practical and will allow you to focus on the task at hand. If necessary stick a baby monitor in the room with the volume set low and only go over when he really starts making a ruckus (if you're familiar with your child you probably knows when he is BS crying for attention and when he's not)

Babies do that don't they??? (fussing I mean, oh and require attention)...

I don't think anyone here would disagree with that.

Yes, there are certain (non-emergency type) sounds that come from our children that we are able to tune out. However, that does not mean that we can ignore EVERYTHING and place them in front of the TV set hoping for Sesame Street to raise them.

There are many many problems that come from children being shut out in a room by themselves for an extended amount of time. Psychological issues only being one of the many.... not to mention... some would call that child abuse.

Is nursing school a priority in my life??? YES absolutely! But my family has and will always will come first. If I have to sacrafice my children and their well being then school (or even work) is not worth it.

For someone your age, and a male without children of your own, it is easy to understand why you wouldn't know any better. I just hope for your future children's sake, that you change your views before you do some of the things you have recommended here.

BTW.... if I need to study, I go to the library or wait until all the kids are sleeping.... it is possible to study during the day while they are napping, or even playing quietly. But advising the OP to forget the child is totally irresponsible. Nursing school will come and go, your children are forever!

Jennifer

neb4882

59 Posts

Thanks to all who understand . I have finals all of next week so I couldnt get to respond as i wanted to . Thanks again.

Nichole

newleaf2012

64 Posts

Specializes in 1 day correctional and military nursing.

if you found out what kind of nurse you want to be it might perk you up a little :)

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