Parent having surgery soon

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One of my parents is having a dangerous surgery in a few days. I know this question isnt nursing school related but I am in nursing school, and from what I have seen on this website, everyone is understanding which is what I need right now. I am really scared for my parent....I don't know what's going to happen. I am going to be in school during the surgery and I'm scared something is going to happen and I'll freak out during class. No one knows whats going on with my family because I don't feel it's any of their business. I don't know if I have the strength if I lose this person or if something happens during surgery. I am hopeful that everything will be fine, but I am SO afraid....how can I cope?

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Specializes in Clinical Partner and CNA.

Pray! Ultimately it is in God's hands. Pray for strength to get through the day and for him to lead the Doctors and Nurses hands.

Proverbs 3:5-6 says Trust in the Lord with all your heart and not to your own understanding, in all your ways acknowledge Him, and he will make your paths straight.

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Specializes in Peri-op/Sub-Acute ANP.

Why don't you go to the school, explain to them what is happening, and ask for the day off. I'm pretty sure you are going to be worthless as a student on that day anyway, so you may as well be where your heart is telling you to be, at the side of your family during what will be a rough day. Even when you are in nursing school everyone knows that "life happens" and I am sure they will understand and support you. As you progress through NS you will learn that you are not much good at taking care of other people unless you take care of yourself and your own family first. Good luck, and I hope the surgery goes well and that you can then continue your education with a clear head and a full heart.

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praying is a good idea. the only thing i can do now is hope that everything will be ok. im so afraid because this is a major thing happening in my life that i cannot control....that scares me more than anything.

i thought about not going to school, but i cant. if i stay home, i'll go crazy worrying about it. i need the distraction of school and other people. the problem is, no one knows whats going on with my family....i havent told my teachers or other people in my class. i want to tell my professor but im afraid to....should i tell her?

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praying is a good idea. the only thing i can do now is hope that everything will be ok. im so afraid because this is a major thing happening in my life that i cannot control....that scares me more than anything.

i thought about not going to school, but i cant. if i stay home, i'll go crazy worrying about it. i need the distraction of school and other people. the problem is, no one knows whats going on with my family....i havent told my teachers or other people in my class. i want to tell my professor but im afraid to....should i tell her?

The truth of life is that you truly have control of very few major things in your life. The only thing you truly have control over is your actions.

Anyway, I'm not a person who advises not speaking to your Nursing Prof.'s about what's going on in your life (there are some on this board who feel that way), but in this case, what would be the point? If you were asking for the day off so that you could got to the hospital to wait, then definitely go and tell your Prof. ....but if you'll be in class that day, what is it your looking for from your Prof?

I hope everything goes well for your parent.

Peace,

CuriousMe

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Why are you afraid to tell you professors? They understand that some things are more important than nursing school. (Blasphemy, I know!)

Let us know how everything goes.

HD

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