One day your in the next yesterdays trash

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Oh How I have had rainbow sunglasses on for this year and ahalf of being a CNA/AIDE for Home Care. I have been loving it, and have not wanted to do anything else. Feeling everyday you make a difference in your clients life.

Then one day you get a call from the office saying that your clients family wants you off the case for no good reason at all. In fact your work has your back and says it is their problem and you had done nothing wrong. Though at the same time they can not defend you, but just do what the family wants. OH HOW IT HURTS THOUGH! Putting your care and love to someone for over a year, and then in one moments be tossed out like yesterdays trash. Like everything you did is now meaningless and pointless.

I have unfortunetly learned something. I can no longer let my emotions get to me in this job. I can no longer let these clients into my heart. I have to go in each day and do my job with the best that I have, but when I close the door after my shift I can not take these clients home with me. For my own health and the welfare of my own family I can not let these emotions tie me into knots anymore. I can not let these things make me sit in my room and make me cry.

It's sad some of what I enjoyed and loved about the job can no longer be. I can not keep getting my heart broken when in a moment, or one mistake they can say never come here again. Even if you have been helping them for years, at any moment they can say you are no good here anymore.

Anyone else feel this way. That the rejection can cut so deeply. Maybe I am too tenderhearted for this job after all. At the very least I guess I have to get a thicker skin so I don't have mental breakdowns when it comes to this job.

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Specializes in home health, developmental disabilities.

A family has never had a problem with me. One client of mine called the company and asked that I be taken off the case because she was convinced I was "dating" her son. Lol he was like 30 years my senior. Well I did take that personally but she had dementia so I eventually got over it and moved on.

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Specializes in Long term care.

It is possible that the family felt you were "too close" to them....it sounds weird, but some families see the CNA in a professional way only....and you, on the other hand, get comfortable with them and maybe a little too invested in them.

Always keep a "professional distance" from the people you care for. It's difficult sometimes when you care for them for a long time, but it's very necessary to remember what your role is with that family.

It doesn't mean "stop caring", it just means to never forget that you are a guest in their home....in their life. In the end, you will save yourself many a broken heart.

For your whole career, you will care for many many people who will come and go for so many reasons, death, return to health, etc....you just can't let yourself get too attached or you will be crying at every turn to the point where you can no longer do your job.

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It is possible that the family felt you were "too close" to them....it sounds weird, but some families see the CNA in a professional way only....and you, on the other hand, get comfortable with them and maybe a little too invested in them.

Always keep a "professional distance" from the people you care for. It's difficult sometimes when you care for them for a long time, but it's very necessary to remember what your role is with that family.

It doesn't mean "stop caring", it just means to never forget that you are a guest in their home....in their life. In the end, you will save yourself many a broken heart.

For your whole career, you will care for many many people who will come and go for so many reasons, death, return to health, etc....you just can't let yourself get too attached or you will be crying at every turn to the point where you can no longer do your job.

you are so right.I have learned the hard way. I am so tenderhearted it gets me into trouble. In this instance I basically was doing what I was suppose to by the company's standards, but the family thought that I was being overly concerned with the clients health and thought I should b just taken off the case. I have always had nothing but their best intrest at heart, so to be accused of something that was so off base was hard for me to take

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