My hospital and ped haven't really caught up. Hosp told me cord care q change, Dr told me twice a day. I would have skipped altogether but hubby wanted to do it "right" not the way the know-it-all-nurse-wife said! LOL
As far as what new moms need, it's such a tough call. There are so many parenting styles and gear to go along with each type. Al ot of other mom's "must haves" were worthless in my opinion and I skipped over them. Some of the "must haves" on the registry list are downright dangerous- car seat accessories, car window suction cup shades, soft foam sleep positioners. I did, however, need
several things that can't be found at typical baby stores- usable cloth diapers, natural type sling, well built stroller.
Fluffy towels were a great suggestion- I hate those little baby towels- too small, I want to bundle my wet baby! And why are they thin polyester blends? Silly me, wanting a towel to be absorbant. I think recieving blankets are always usefull- the bigger the better! I also suggest large size clothing. Simple things they can wear no matter what month they hit that size. My baby is 4 mos and long ago outgrew the last of the gifted clothing! How many 0-3 cute dresses did I need? Someone thought ahead and bought baby foods, nice.
I did trade in some stuff for bigger sleepers, thankfully, but felt guilty, and many stores (babies R us and target, for instance are getting strict about returns and exchanges.