The Sex Police - page 2

We have been having a spell of patients having sex on our High Risk OB unit.:nono: We had a 15 yr old do it in the shower with her boyfriend. It didn't help that she was srom with twins and ptl. Then... Read More

  1. by   htrn
    We have had issues with teenage mom's coming in with PTL, etc and the FOB wanting to stay with his girlfriend - but the pts mom is Pissed that we are going to let him stay with her in the hospital. If she were at home, she would have a 10pm curfew, but she comes to the hospital and he gets to stay with her all night. Mom's got a good point - esp. when fob is over 18 and mom is 15-16.

    Even though a teenager is emanciapted for purposes of consent for treatment of pregnancy, etc.... What do you all think of having a rule stating that anyone that stays with her in the hospital must have written permission from parent or guardian.

    I think these fathers need to get the full treatment of up all night with the babies, but the mother's of teenage moms really do have a point.

    BTW, I know that someone is going to say if these girls were well supervised they wouldn't be pregnant to begin with - but it can and does happen to alot of people that you would never suspect
  2. by   BonnieSc
    Quote from obrnheather
    Even though a teenager is emanciapted for purposes of consent for treatment of pregnancy, etc.... What do you all think of having a rule stating that anyone that stays with her in the hospital must have written permission from parent or guardian.
    I don't think that would be fair (even if it is legal; I don't know about that). Some teen relationships ARE healthy, and even if they're not ideal, sometimes the boyfriend is all the girl has. Parents who are angry at the boyfriend aren't going to sign permission, no matter how nice a guy he may be in reality.

    In this particular case, obviously the 10 PM curfew didn't keep the kids from getting pregnant, so I'm not sure what good it's going to do now. (Other than, obviously, reduce the risk of infection from vaginal intercourse, which could be a problem with any couple.)

    Much better to approach this as a "no sex in the hospital" issue than an age issue, in my opinion.
  3. by   DEB52
    Thanks for all of the responses. At our hospital any patient (even pregnant) who is under the age of 18 needs parental consent before treatment. Also the parent had to give written consent before the boyfriend stayed the night. Permission was given. I agree on the suggestions of charting. I am a big believer in covering what you do with charting. There is a policy in the works about sex and High Risk patients. I'm not on the committee but it will be interesting to see what is decided on and how the policy reads.
  4. by   babyktchr
    I simply cannot wrap my mind around this post. It is mindboggling that a patient...a 15 yr old patient in PTL and TWINS would find it necessary to have SEX IN THE HOSPITAL. Honestly..what difference does it make to call mom? Where was she when her daughter was getting pregnant? I think for the protection of the patient and her babies, I would've had to contact case management and risk management and gone so far as to asking this partner to leave or not be allowed to be alone with the patient. This is just absurd. What are people thinking?????? Why do these kids have to have sex like this?? At 15. Absolutely freaking amazing.
  5. by   Spidey's mom
    Quote from WhimsieRN
    OMG! When I was still a young MP, I was patroling a lake area and caught two kids in delico flagrante, they were scared crapless when I tapped on the window!... And embarassed for sure b/c I knew both of them (and their Parents!) and had to ask if she was there conscentually!
    This wasn't in 1975 was it? :imbar:roll

    I've never walked in on a patient having sexual relations . . . and we have our fair share of teens. But we are in the rooms more I think because we have no outside monitors at the desk. You have to be in the rooms alot.

    steph
  6. by   crysobrn
    I had a patient not too long ago that was "in labor" or so she thought. Big smile on her face, 16 yr old with her mom in the room. Right next to her on the bed is her 17 yr old boyfriend spooning her.... Uhhh hello. I'm married and I have two kids but I would never be all curled up with my mom in the room when I'm there for PTL. And btw the parents encouraged the relationship and in fact had the boyfriend living in their house and the kids SHARED a bedroom!!! I told the boyfriend he had to stay out of the bed and that she even if she went home there should be no more sex during the pregnancy. They smiled and the mom was like "oh no they wouldn't do that" She was clueless!! I charted the whole thing. Mind you the girl was discharged the next day dilated to 6 and carried that kid until 40 wks. She was like 7 when I admitted her for AROM and it was hilarious cause the minute she was ruptured she was dying and I thought "now you're in labor"

    I did have a younger couple that could have been more like 18 ish and they had sex in the shower like 4 hrs postpartum. I was so disgusted I didn't even want to go back in the room. He asked me for clothes and I told him that I couldn't give him scrubs he'd have to go home... They haven't been back yet but I expect that she must at least be prego again by now.
  7. by   walker shaw
    Quote from crysobrn
    I had a patient not too long ago that was "in labor" or so she thought. Big smile on her face, 16 yr old with her mom in the room. Right next to her on the bed is her 17 yr old boyfriend spooning her.... Uhhh hello. I'm married and I have two kids but I would never be all curled up with my mom in the room when I'm there for PTL. And btw the parents encouraged the relationship and in fact had the boyfriend living in their house and the kids SHARED a bedroom!!! I told the boyfriend he had to stay out of the bed and that she even if she went home there should be no more sex during the pregnancy. They smiled and the mom was like "oh no they wouldn't do that" She was clueless!! I charted the whole thing. Mind you the girl was discharged the next day dilated to 6 and carried that kid until 40 wks. She was like 7 when I admitted her for AROM and it was hilarious cause the minute she was ruptured she was dying and I thought "now you're in labor"

    I did have a younger couple that could have been more like 18 ish and they had sex in the shower like 4 hrs postpartum. I was so disgusted I didn't even want to go back in the room. He asked me for clothes and I told him that I couldn't give him scrubs he'd have to go home... They haven't been back yet but I expect that she must at least be prego again by now.
    I must lead a very sheltered life - I can't imagine having sex in the hospital, let alone having sex in the hospital with my mother present!
  8. by   HappyNurse2005
    see, the woman giving her husband oral sex in the hospital room? no medical reason not to have oral sex, and although risque to do this where you could be caught, i would certainly not tell them not to. (tell 'em to go to the bathroom...we wouldn't bust in on anyone in the bathroom)
  9. by   crysobrn
    HappyNurse. I think the point is that the girl is 15 yrs old!!! And in PTL. It's not a married, legally aged person that's just hanging out at the hospital for no reason.

    People can walk in your hospital room at any minute, so if there was a married, legally aged individual person that wanted to do whatever hopefully they'd be smart enough to put a sign on the door or ask not to be interrupted.
  10. by   Marie_LPN, RN
    no medical reason not to have oral sex
    Uh, well, hmmm, yeah, if the pt. is NPO...
  11. by   SmilingBluEyes
    I think even married, people should/could hold off having sex if in the hospital, particularly for something as serious as threatened or real preterm labor. Let's not get into who "should" be having sex. Married men have sex and even will rape theirwives at times in inappropriate situations like preterm labor/recent postpartal phases and they call that "sex". too.......just cause people are married legally does not make the situation healthy. Sex belongs in the privacy or one's home/domicile, not the labor and delivery unit!
  12. by   KellNY
    Quote from crysobrn
    HappyNurse. I think the point is that the girl is 15 yrs old!!! And in PTL. It's not a married, legally aged person that's just hanging out at the hospital for no reason.

    People can walk in your hospital room at any minute, so if there was a married, legally aged individual person that wanted to do whatever hopefully they'd be smart enough to put a sign on the door or ask not to be interrupted.
    Excuse me, but what on earth does being married have to do with anything? I can kind of see your issue with the age (since legally in many states a 15yo is unable to consent to sex), but the marital status has ZERO bearing in this case. If you think it does, then really that's YOUR moral code and should not be imposed on anyone else.

    Being in "PTL" has nothing to do with oral sex-it wouldn't effect her status at all.

    Mind you the girl was discharged the next day dilated to 6 and carried that kid until 40 wks. She was like 7 when I admitted her for AROM and it was hilarious cause the minute she was ruptured she was dying and I thought "now you're in labor"
    I'm also not sure what was funny about this. Was it because she was 16? Or because she had the nerve to cuddle with her boyfriend in the hospital bed during what I'm sure was a stressful time?

    If she were 30 (and married ), I'm guessing it wouldn't be nearly as hilarious to you that she were contracting and in pain from doing so. Har har har.
  13. by   SmilingBluEyes
    Nothing about PTL is funny to me, either. And there is no way we would have discharged anyone dilate to 6, preterm or not.

    I find it so unnecessary for labor pts to have sex on OB. It CAN wait til you go home.

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