I'm very laid back, easy to get along with, pretty much can get along with anyone, but I've been at a new place for 3 weeks and mostly it's ok, tho they do some things kinda weird (like the whole unit running into the room for EVERY d-cel) but, wow, I wanted to ring this girl's neck, and our personalities are clashing BIG TIME>
She busted into my patients room after knocking VERY loudly and shouts. HIIII (in a squeaky obnoxious voice) I'm ______I'm here to catch your baby" and then immediately comes over to the bed where myself and the midwife are pushing with the patient and starts CHEERING "PUSHHHHH, PUSHHHHHH" and CLAPPING HER HANDS, I kid you not! I looked at the midwife and we both turned around and GLARED at her.
Mind you this patient was going natural, we had the lights dim, we had a very good environment going on and she ruined it all. Mind you we were NOT close to delivery, far from it. I never even called out for help.
She proceeded to STAY in the room for a few minutes, we did NOT need her help and finally I said, "Uhm, I'm good, I'll call when I'm ready" and she got SOOOO offended.
She has an attitude and a chip on her shoulder and she is sooooo incompetent, she said she's been an L&D nurse for 5 years but she just graduated.
I had to "orient" with her, and granted, I only get 1 day of orientation becuase I'm a traveler, all I needed to be shown was the computer system and wehre they kept their "stuff" i'm pretty keen on the aspects of birth, etc. And she couldnt' keep her mouth shut or get out of my way or anything.
I really am not good at confronting people and I dont want to make any waves, but this girl is really going to be a problem if she keeps busting into my rooms and acting like that.
I'm really just venting here and for anyone who managed to read all this, please vent with me about obnoxious, unhelpful coworkers
Dec 1, '06
I feel your pain... I try to gauge my approach depending on the patient and the situation and I don't really get into aggressive coaching unless I think the mom wants or needs it but I hear some people screaming PUSH! from down the hall.
Is there any way you could have corraled her and whispered that the patient wanted a more subdued/quiet environment? Or would it have been fruitless to try??
Or how do you think she'd respond if you just let it come up in conversation... "everyone has different styles, I just have kind of a quieter approach with my patients that seems to work well for us" (hint hint) etc etc.
She was probably well-intentioned but you'd think she would have NOTICED the setting/mood when she entered the room and surveyed the scene!
Does the midwife you were with, or any co-workers have any suggestions for dealing with this person? Is there anyone you trust to tell what you just wrote here to us?
Last edit by mitchsmom on Dec 1, '06
Dec 2, '06
It also helps to ask the laboring mom what works for her. Some actually LIKE and ASK for counting and encouragement. Others want us to keep our mouths shut. It is not about us, you are right. It's their birth experience and it's our job to simply facilitate, not make things happen, as our egos would like to think.
Last edit by SmilingBluEyes on Dec 2, '06