Quote from alexischill
I understand that many people may seek for others to give them answers on here, but to assume that I would do that or anyone else is rude especially when I said "any help would be great". I didn't ask for any sort of answers from anyone. I thought she was rude from the beginning. No one should be assuming anything about anyone's intentions. We are all different people. If I am being rude by asking a question and being honest then I guess I'm rude. If she does not want to help me, great! If no one else wants to help either, that's great too! That's the beauty of this. No one is forcing you to answer. If you or anyone else feels I am being rude, then help the next person. It's that simple
Here's another book! Haha!!
I just feel like there was misunderstanding from the start!
The reason I felt it was rude for you to say "Well, that is all of the information I got and that is what I stated. If that is not enough to help me, then that's all that needed to be said," was because you hadn't stated that was all the information you had been given. Only that you had shown your thought process and that there were no elimination problems before or after surgery. So, to say that is all the information you go and that you had stated that was kind of rude. Then, to say "if that is not enough to help me, then that's all that needed to be said" was rude because I was trying to help. Where in my posts did it imply that I wasn't? I took the time to provide you with information that I felt was very helpful for coming up with nursing diagnoses from Esme12. I then shared with you my thought process that led to a possible elimination diagnosis you could use (which is exactly what you needed). How was that not helping?
I also apologized for the misunderstanding in what I had said.
I was not trying to be rude at all. In my initial post, I was simply trying to get more information on where your thought process was and what exactly you needed so I could help you the best way possible. I added in the part about showing your work and that the people at AllNurses don't want to do work for others because, unfortunately, it seems to happen too often. I ended my post there because I realized I had already posted something for your question on another thread. So, I was hoping that would be enough to help or at least to find out it wasn't so I could see exactly what you needed and hopefully be able to help you. I didn't mean at all to imply that wanted other people to do your work for you, which is why in my second post I apologized because I felt what I said was misunderstood. I immediately started off my second post apologizing because I did not mean to imply YOU were the one wanting people to do your work for you. As I thought I had explained.Your post said you still needed an elimination diagnosis.
So, I then went on in that second post to use Esme12's explanation of coming up with a nursing diagnosis. I thought it might help you. I added that it wasn't a lot of information to go on because your initial posting did not state that you were only given the information and had not actually assessed the patient (I don't know if your instructor gave you some kind of case study and wanted a diagnosis or what). I just assumed you had cared for and assessed the pt, which I should not have just assumed. I did, however, give a possibility for an elimination diagnosis - constipation or risk for constipation - and I stated the reasons why (using the questions that led me there, which was just me trying to show the thought process that would lead you to such a diagnosis).
Your third post then stated that was all the information you had and that you had stated that, but you hadn't. When I said the thing about providing your thought process, you replied by saying that you had given your thought process and that there was nothing wrong with the pts elimination before or after surgery. Only then did I realize that you had been given the information and apparently did not care for and assess the patient yourself. If you would have stated that in the beginning I would have not asked questions about the assessment.
In the end, I was never trying to be rude. Nor was I ever trying to imply that you wanted others to do your work for you. I only meant to imply that it unfortunately happens on here sometimes, and the fact that the more information people have the better they are able to help. When I realized that is what I implied, I apologized.
I'm sorry you felt I was being rude. I was only trying to help and give you some information I thought was helpful regarding coming up with nursing diagnoses from Esme12 as well.