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Hi everyone..

I'm 19 years old, and have always wanted to go to nursing school. I currently work in assisted living. I'm young and engaged, living in an apartment with my fiance. I have the opportunity to go home and live with my parents, and go to nursing school.

I don't want to try to take on nursing school while living on my own. I was going to college for Human Services when I first got my own place, and ended up quitting shortly after the move. It was just too much for me- and I completely lacked motivation because I knew I was on my own now.

I know this isn't like a relationship advice board lol but I really do need help. Is it worth it to move back home? My fiance hates the idea, of course, but I'm pretty much paying for everything on my own. I know this post is so scattered- I can't really gather my thoughts, sorry. I'm going to stop here. :) Any advice would be greatly appreciated.

Aimee

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Specializes in Emergency.

im in a similiar position..well not really. currently i live with my parents and i too am engaged. my advice to you is to move home if you dont think you can make it living with your fiance. im only at home because my fiance is currently in jail (for something he didnt do) but i know when he gets out we're going to move back together. its going to be really hard. im going to get a loan to help pay for school, and hopefully the financial aid i F I N A L L Y qualify for will help us with the rent, ill use the loan for that too. so basically what im saying is i want to live with him during nursing school. he knows that he cant be a distraction because nursing school is super hard, and he motivates me. but i will tell you that if he doesnt get out soon, i will stay with my parents just to save. so i guess im saying if you dont think you can make it without your parents and afford going to school, stay at home, but if someway your fiance will help you and you can maybe work on weekends and go to school during the week, do it.

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Yeah, thats kind of how its working right now. I work third shift Thursday, Friday, Saturday (30hr.) and have the rest of the week off. I'm glad that your man will motivate you, because mine just gets aggitated everytime I start talking about going back to college. Good luck to you! Thanks for replying.

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maybe he gets mad because you wont be able to spend so much time with him. i mean i dont know your situation and all. where are you wanting to go to school. what kind of work do you do now. is nursing really what you want to do. and no problem im glad to see somebody in a similar situation.

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Yeah, thats kind of how its working right now. I work third shift Thursday, Friday, Saturday (30hr.) and have the rest of the week off. I'm glad that your man will motivate you, because mine just gets aggitated everytime I start talking about going back to college. Good luck to you! Thanks for replying.

Any man who does not support your goals and dreams is, well, um.....I'll let you fill in the blank!

You are 19, and I commend you for your desire to get into nursing at that age. Remember you have plenty of time to be a grown-up (plus, it's not that much fun anyway), so I would suggest moving back home.

Take full advantage of you parents kindness and get your education. Nursing school is HARD WORK and you will need to focus. Wishing you the best!!!:redpinkhe

Edited to add: I am newly married and my husband has been COMPLETELY supportive through my whole nursing school process. There is no need to deal with any crap.

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hey..making a decision to go to nursing school is not easy so don't feel bad. I just started in January and to tell you a few things about it. It is expensive so you would need financial aid, loans or be able to pay out of pocket, it is very time consuming. I am able to work but my job is very slow and I pretty much study while I'm there. My boyfriend gets annoyed that I dont have enough time for him and it has caused some arguments but he is adjusting to it now. You basically needs a really good support system and some kind of financial assistance. If your fiance is supportive and able to help you then stay with him but if not then you should move back with your parents to eliminate that stress because trust me you will have enough stress from school to last you a lifetime. It will one day pay off though so dont get discouraged by that.

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Hi!

So you are nineteen. Much too young to be engaged, IMHO. Don't give up on your dream of becoming a nurse for a relationship. I know you are engaged, but if you two really love one another, you will also wait for each other. Go home and get your nsg degree. In a few years time, you will be more mature, and you will truly know what you want. If you don't do it now and decide to get married instead, you may regret that decision. It is vitally inportant that you reach your goals.

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In nursing school, there was a running "joke" that nursing school was the relationship-destroyer. And, myself included, many relationships ended. If nursing is truly where your heart is, he has to be 1000% supportive. You will be challenged every day, and the program doesn't get easier. And you will be EXHAUSTED physically and mentally some days after work. They just have to understand.

That being said, I started another relationship during nursing school, and couldn't have done it without him. He listens to me cry and runs my feet :-) But we have truly been through it

all (school & med-surg!) together.

Good luck to you!

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Hi, I had the same decision you have, move back with my parents and lose my autonomy so i can go to nursing school or stay on my own and struggle to do it all myself, the only difference is that i have a husband and four kids with me and the reason we decided to move back in with my parents is so my husband could take a cut in his pay and work more normal hours to help with the kids and chores and so my parents could help with the kids as well, that way i don't have to get a job and try to go through nursing school. It is a tough decision and it takes a lot of adjustment, but now is the time to follow your dream and education when you don't have anyone else to support or feed. If you don't you may end up in my situation (i was 18 and just out of highschool when i got married, it has taken me 8 years and a lot of struggling to get back into school) if your fiancee can't support you in your choice then that is his problem because what you are doing will make both of your lives better.

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Specializes in Psych.

It sounds like you're pretty interested in nursing school since you've already worked out how to make it happen. I definitely agree with the others that you're better off getting the degree now, versus years later when you have kids to juggle. I wonder if your fiancee has considered that.

As far as the intensity, I'm exhausted, my brain is beyond full and I'm still completely happy with my decision to pursue nursing. I hope you decide to go for it.

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Specializes in pediatrics, orthopedics.

Congrats on the decision to go to Nursing School. It will be one of the hardest things you have done in your life. There will times of laughter and times of tears, but you have to love it- or be there for the patients and to have them get better, that is still what keeps me going. I will say that when I was in school all I basically did was study, prep for clinicals, study, and then in my second year got a tech job on the weekends to make a little money. I feel that going home to your parents would be good, it will allow you to focus- you will need that. And also take some of the daily pressures off. I was married at the time of my school and it pushed our relationship to the limits. There were also times when I did not think I had it in me to continue, but somehow you find that little spark in you to carry on. I wish you the best

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Go back home and work toward your goal. I am 52 year old male and I have gone back to school to persue my goal of nursing. I hope to be accepted in the LPN program this August. I have a very supportive wife. You are young and you need to concentrate on your future and your goals at this time.

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