My Son's Graduation

  1. Two nights ago my oldest son graduated from high school. I didn't think I was going to cry,, but once they started playing their class song, it was like a ton of bricks fell on me. All of a sudden I realized my baby,, you know,, the one that was running around in diapers last week, with the little fat cheeks and the cute giggle... that baby...he's grown. It was like I realized it ALL AT ONCE.

    I don't think I've ever felt like this before. I cried so hard I couldn't breath. I have never ever cried like this before. Almost crying again just writing this.

    Anyway,, I am glad that I experienced that. I think maybe it was more than the realization that he's growing up,, it was a lot of things... I felt very happy after I finally stopped crying.

    I just thought I should share this with everyone. Recovery is an ongoing thing, and I am so glad that I had this experience with my son.


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    About Magsulfate, BSN

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  3. by   Cherybaby
    How wonderful. I am so glad you were able to share this special moment with him. You only get these memories once. I can feel your happiness from your post. Congratulations.

    My "baby" girl graduated college...and has just had a baby of her own.

    I don't know where the time goes, Mag. It just flies by!
  4. by   jackstem
    The simple things REALLY ARE the most important, aren't they? Wait until they begin to get married!! When my oldest got married, as she and I were walking down the aisle, she said..."I'm so glad you're here with me, Dad." She had to call 911 when I accidentally OD'd when she was 9 years old.

    Congrats on making it through those teenage years, and being clean and sober is icing on the cake!

    Big Hugs!

    Jack
  5. by   sirI
    Congratulations to your son and you, Magsulfate. Truly a wonderful feeling!!
  6. by   NeedchangeofPace
    Quote from Magsulfate

    I don't think I've ever felt like this before. I cried so hard I couldn't breath. I have never ever cried like this before. Almost crying again just writing this.




    First off congrats, I take he is the one in the middle of the pic.

    It's funny (sort of) what and how we felt when using and how we feel now in recovery.
    The emotions when using are so suppressed and numb. Get a little sober time and the emotions can be very intense and sometimes a little scarey. Like where did "that" feeling come from??
    IMO men are kinda one dimensionable in our thought processes, where as Women are on multible levels at any given time. The fact that your baby has grown up and about to go out into the world and you were able to enjoy the moment of graduation was very intense.
    Sometimes those of us in recovery, have burned some bridges in relationships with family and friends, it appears that you have not with your son, congrats to you on that!!

    Mark
  7. by   VivaLasViejas
    Quote from Magsulfate
    Two nights ago my oldest son graduated from high school. I didn't think I was going to cry,, but once they started playing their class song, it was like a ton of bricks fell on me. All of a sudden I realized my baby,, you know,, the one that was running around in diapers last week, with the little fat cheeks and the cute giggle... that baby...he's grown. It was like I realized it ALL AT ONCE.

    I don't think I've ever felt like this before. I cried so hard I couldn't breath. I have never ever cried like this before. Almost crying again just writing this.

    Anyway,, I am glad that I experienced that. I think maybe it was more than the realization that he's growing up,, it was a lot of things... I felt very happy after I finally stopped crying.

    I just thought I should share this with everyone. Recovery is an ongoing thing, and I am so glad that I had this experience with my son.


    Congratulations to both of you!!

    My youngest just graduated last Thursday..........which makes me feel pretty old these days, with all 4 of my children now officially "grown" and out of school. Every emotion you felt, I can totally relate to. But thank God we are clean and sober so we can experience the full range of emotions and process this rite of passage the way we're supposed to, eh?

    Best wishes to your son as he takes this first step into adulthood!
  8. by   Magsulfate
    Thanks
    He is in the middle to the left ... wearing the light pants.

    And you are so right the emotions were very intense. Like I said, I don't remember ever crying like this.. it was crazy/weird... like a boohoooo cry and I couldn't breathe. I am so happy though.

    Quote from NeedchangeofPace
    First off congrats, I take he is the one in the middle of the pic.

    It's funny (sort of) what and how we felt when using and how we feel now in recovery.
    The emotions when using are so suppressed and numb. Get a little sober time and the emotions can be very intense and sometimes a little scarey. Like where did "that" feeling come from??
    IMO men are kinda one dimensionable in our thought processes, where as Women are on multible levels at any given time. The fact that your baby has grown up and about to go out into the world and you were able to enjoy the moment of graduation was very intense.
    Sometimes those of us in recovery, have burned some bridges in relationships with family and friends, it appears that you have not with your son, congrats to you on that!!

    Mark
  9. by   wubbzy
    Congratulations! My daughter is grown and I laugh at my 11 yr old grd dtr and 2 1/2 yr old gr son when they do things like she used to do. They all grow up sp fast and the blessings are when I can enjoy them clean and sober!

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